me and my boyfriend broke up today because of many complications first of all because he said everyone was always in our relationships from his cousin to my friends which i understood that he couldnt handle it no more and i told him i wanted to be treated like his woman not some next girl from round the block...so we both decided to be friends and then after he took me out to eat and bought me these shoes i wanted for christmas..which i was so happy to get ..then he walked me to the train station and i think so many trains passed by and we was talking about everything and just laughing..and when my train came we hugged for wat seemed so long and we just quickly kissed on the lips..and he said to me if its meant to be ..we will be togetha..i got home later on and he called me and we just spoke for 30mins ..i dont know but i love him very much and i know dat he is the ONE..i think he does too.what should i do guys..let him have his fun for a bit or fight for whats mine? help me out
2006-12-13 09:51:29 · 28 answers · asked by gina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him u were ment to be
2006-12-13 09:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by dogwitem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing that you have that level of communication between you and that you have that many things in common (not to mention the caring) then the idea that you should be together should also be shared. But, alas, he does not seem to share that. So, why?
He has given you the answer to that question, already. There are too many other people getting involved in what should be a personal matter between you and him.
With as much caring and understanding as you can muster, you have to find out from him who has been talking to him about you. Telling him that you should not be together or something like that. It may even be as vicious as not wanting to see him being happy with someone. In any regard, you need to find out who is in the background trying to make a train-wreck out of your relationship.
A good long talk about what is going on in his life and the determination to see him happy - whether he is with you or not - will win out.
Try to bring him to understand that he needs to maintain his own personal integrity. His decisions are his own and he needs to stick by them, without the interference of others swaying him from what he wants in life. (This goes for everything in life, not just relationships.)
2006-12-13 10:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My BF and I broke up about a year and a half ago. I thought I had lost him forever, but I eventually picked myself up and begin to function and move on. I never thought we could be together again, although I thought of him often.. Recently he contacted me and he said he realized how stupid he was and he knows I am the one for him... Although I am being very cautious this time, I am giving it another chance because he could be my soul mate. He has been absolutely wonderful to me and has shown that he has even matured more. I let him go and he came back... my point is, if someone is meant to be with you, you guys will be together. It may take time, but I believe it is inevitable. And guys, especially in there early 20's (I am not sure how old you BF is), want to be free and have their fun. Sometimes I feel weak knowing that I took him back even though he wanted to be free, but I just think it's better for him to go out there then and realize that I am the one for him, than have him always wonder what else is out there. I am not really a fan of begging for someone to stay, I feel like my dignity is more important then to go down on my knees and plead someone to stay with me or to fight for someone.
Perhaps take this time to work on yourself, spiritually, mentally, physically-- whatever-- just to better yourself over all as a person. If you come across someone you like, go for it.. you may even change your mind and not think your BF is the one for you. Who knows what will happen. Just go with the flow and let it take you to your destination.
2006-12-13 10:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt sound like a nice guy D: feel bad for you and if you dont want it to be over your not ready to accept its over you need to be that and move on there are plenty of guys who probably wont dump you especially on your B-DAY maybe he didnt have a gift and didnt want to look like an *** so he gave the greatest gift the lesson of rejection and hate rid sorry if i sounded cold at the end i would love to beat up guys who do that to women :( best of luck Gonna call you babe now ;) babe if he didnt change and he said he did hes got problems and if he was going to get you to change than maybe he just didnt like you people grow apart that are many fish in the sea that may be true but its difficult finding the right fish for yourself :( best of luck again you sound like a nice person
2016-05-23 21:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him time to think about everything, and take some time yourself to think about everything. Maybe he just wants to take a step back and see how you handle it, because something has become more than he thinks he can handle. I wouldn't talk to him a lot or hang out with him really ever. Give him what he wants, just be friends. If you really love him than you have to let him go. If he really loves you, then he will come back. Good luck.
2006-12-13 10:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by joe schmoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share what you shared with us with him . That's a good start. And don't forget guys will respond differently than females. I'm sure your gfs will have empathy and such with what you share, while most guys will try to give you solutions for you to get over it. You would not be sharing this with a bunch of random people on the internet if you liked him this much, so go to him. And from what you wrote about him, he is carazy about you hands down. Take care = )
2006-12-13 09:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by chaseki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it a day at a time and see what happens - sounds like it'll all work out oay - just dont rush things heh ? Give the guy some space to sort his head out first xxx
2006-12-13 09:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U obviously think alot more of him than u thought!
Tell him how u really feel, stop trying to pretend your feelings arent as strong as they clearly r towards him...tell everyone else to butt out of it-its bugger all to do with them and all they are doing is causing the 2 of u a lot of grief!
I was always told to follow my heart and not my head...if that makes any sense to you!
Good luck! xx
2006-12-13 09:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend was letting other people intrude on your relationship (the friends, cousins, etc.) then he really doesn't want to be with you--plain and simple. If a guy really wants to be with a female, he won't let anything get in his way.
It sounds to me like this guy wants to keep you hanging so he can be with you whenever he wants. That's not fair to you.
Be good to yourself and find another guy.
2006-12-13 09:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by LatinaAlumna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both sound like you are too young to think about THE ONE. I saw take it one day at a time. People generally need different things at different points in their lives. So you just focus on you, let him go, and figure out what you want, GURL!
2006-12-13 09:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll be back....sometimes when things are goin great, guys start taking thier woman for granted or doesnt realize what he has until your gone..
Give him a lil space for bit if thats what he wants. Being away from you will make him realize how special you are and how much he misses you
2006-12-13 09:54:17 · answer #11 · answered by San DIego Chargers 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋