i recently told this guy i liked how i felt abt him & he told me that he would have said yes but that he's not searching for a relationship right now.we ended up talkin for more than an hour afterwards abt a lot of stuff,life in general(it was the best conversation i ever had with him)& he left with a "hey,at least we can be friends right?" to which i agreed obviously.
after that night,he never comes online & i have a suspicion that he has blocked me on msn cos my friend told me that his nickname was "are you the now or never kind?" when i had the bon jovi song lyrics "it's now or never" as my nickname.
he talks to me when i see him in person sometimes,but it's only me who has to initiate the conversation though his best friend told me that this guy thinks abt me & that "things may happen in the future".he has been very distant even from his best friends.
how do I handle this situation?does he need more time or is this a lost case?
thanks a lot guys...
2006-12-13 09:34:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Considering he talked to you after you mentioned how you felt I would say that he simply is not ready for a relationship ,but ...since he has not been speaking to you since...he can be a player also and may be interested in someone else and checking to see how that goes first.If that is the case you do not want him as you would not want to be 2nd choice or a convience.
It might be he just got out a relationship and is trying to get over it and not rushing into anything.He might be distance as to not lead you on.
Since you mentioned his friend said he was distant from him also he may be going through tough times in his personal space and just needs to be left alone and have his space.
He still talks if you talk so that is good,I would keep my distance and do not expect anything at this time and enjoy the friendship.
The only way you are going to know what is actually going on is to ask him.Be open and ask him what is wrong and if he is ok that you are fine with everything and understand and accept being just friendds.
If you really want to know if he blocked you on your msn sign in screen... go to tools,options,privacy there you will see 2 lists... one that you added contacts to your list and the other ones you blocked below that you will see view click on that and you will see a list of ppl that have you on their list if his name is not in that list...he blocked you.
2006-12-13 10:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is complicated. Does any of your friends have him as a friend? When he comes on let your friend tell you. If he doesn't appear on line then maybe he did block you. The fact that he talked to you for an hour after you told him your feelings is suspicious. Because it means he does have an interest. I suggest you just try to be friends with him now and worry about your relationship possibilities later on. Maybe he is worried that your friendship could end if your relationship with him ends? Just be a friend for now.
2006-12-13 09:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he might like you, but you should, maybe, try to know about his past relationship..Maybe he has got a bad experience , and don't feel ready to enter a relationship right now ...He probably doesn't want to get again ...Try to talk to him , ask him, if he had got something wrong in a past relationship , ..I think that could be the problem ..he might just afraid not to be deceived again ...
Good luck !!
2006-12-13 09:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by bobby s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wasted my entire 20s and part of my 30s worrying about guys like this. Move on. Find someone who gives you the attention you deserve!
2006-12-13 09:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone who cares --- and only an hour??? when i am with the lady i care for an hour is just to say hello and thats online
2006-12-13 09:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is avoding u cause he dosent want 2 lik u anymore from how he alrady does cause he wants 2 me single
2006-12-13 09:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Hello (; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time for u to move on! i know its easier said than done..but it seems like he doesnt like u...n doesnt want to hurt ur feelings by saying no
2006-12-13 09:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did say "friends correct? well am sure he didn't mean call me everyday email me everyday ..he could have led you on he didn't let it be
2006-12-13 09:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him; you deserve better.
2006-12-13 09:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, i dont think he is interested hun
2006-12-13 09:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by olzap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋