TOO many people judge people are bipolar and I want serious answers.....I don't know when to bring it up and how to...at what time in the relationshiP!?
2006-12-13 09:31:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For my money, there are only three reasons to tell him you're bipolar:
1) You're really, really serious and thinking about long term committments. You owe it to him at that point. Get him to read bits from The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide (Amazon link below).
2) He just found your psych meds in the bathroom cabinet and wants to know what they are. If you're vaguely serious, then don't lie.
3) You have a doctor's appointment and he wants to know why. See above about lying.
4) OK, I know I said three reasons... You want to dump him, so you just tell him you are seriously mentally ill. No explanations about bipolar etc etc
2006-12-14 04:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by Random Bloke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him asap. But also inform him as to what it really is and how it affects you. Get some books on it and give it to him to read up on. Make him understand it as much as you can. That way he can make an informed decision on how to handle the situation.
Don't do what i did. I went threw 2 very serious relationships, and never told them that i was bipolar. They really didn't understand any thing about me. and in the long run it was worse cause they didn't know why i was doing, saying or thinking some of the things that was going on. Now that i am married, i did tell my husband when we first started dating, and he said "oh ya i know what that is" but had a stereo type of what he thought bi bipolar was. he thought it was like having a multi personality disorder. He really didn't have a clue and it has caused huge problems. If i could have done it over again, i would have make sure he knew what it was all about, and that way he knows what to expect and be able to support me better when times get rough.
best of luck hon. let me know how it goes.
2006-12-13 17:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand this situation because my sister is bipolar and it was hard for her to find dates because she wasn't sure how to tell anyone of it. Not many people knew of it.
Anyways, I would definetly let him know right up front. Don't be embarrassed or shy about it. And if he doesn't like it or acts like its weird, he should be knocked in the groin. If you just tell him upfront, "Im bipolar and I want to let you know before we go any further.." then he should respect you and understand. If he cares anything about you, he'll be find with it.
2006-12-13 17:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a girl who was bipolar and I always thought she was just mad at me. When she told me I felt a little better. Best thing is to be upfront early on, I would give it 2 weeks so he knows you a little better before you tell him.
2006-12-13 17:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by Flipguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Preferably before a "down phase", but in reality you tell him when you feel comfortable revealing it. If it's a serious relationship, then he has to know to be able to deal with anything that could hurt him.
2006-12-13 18:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you need to tell him as soon as possible. Next time you see him infact, sit him down and have a talk about it. Be sure to tell him as many details as he should know. I wonder how long you've been with him holding this secret...
2006-12-13 17:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he won't care. I have multiple personality problems, including Borderline, and that doesn't deter our relationship at all, because he's supportive and understanding.
Just bring it up sometime when it fits the context of the situation.
2006-12-13 17:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When things look like they are getting serious. Tell him before someone else does.
2006-12-13 17:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋