I have a boyfriend, William, and we have been going out for 1 year and 3 months, this Christmas. He has been helping his family right now with some financial issues, but he never calls me. I don't even get a quick message letting me know how he is doing. I haven't heard from him in over a week and a half. Im beginning to like one of my best friends more than just a friend but I can't really tell if I do or not..What should I do? Should I break up with my boyfriend? He's making me frustrated that he won't call me..and my best friend is really sweet and always tries to find time to talk to me, even when he knows I have a boyfriend. Help me!!
2006-12-13 09:20:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, here's some details. I can't call him because of the long distance, right now. He's in Illinois helping his family and I can't call because it costs too much for longdistance. I've called him on my cellphone a few times but Im tired of always trying to get a hold of him..He always would call me at night when Im home. He would do it all the time. He doesn't anymore.
2006-12-13 09:26:15 · update #1
Wow life is complicated. Maybe you could try calling him? or maybe give you're friend a chance. he porbably likes you alot anyway, and will probably treat you better
2006-12-13 09:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by g0backto0sleep 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your boyfriend is going through a hard time right now or he is not telling you the truth. If he hasn't called you in over a week or you haven't seen him, I would think something else is going on. If you are interested in someone else, then you call your boyfriend and tell him you are thinking about going out with someone else. Maybe this will get his attention, but if it doesn't go out with the other guy. There is a reason he hasn't called you if you have been together more than a year now. I wouldn't let him keep me hanging, get to the bottom of it girl!!!!!
2006-12-13 17:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by jlynncogbill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don;t think you should break up with your boyfriend of 1yr and 3months just because he has not called you back. Maybe he has been really busy. In any case, wait till you do talk to him and tell him that you expect him to call you at least to let you know how he's doing.
If his answer makes sense to you, then believe him. And just give him some time to get things back in order with his family.
As for the feelings that you are having for your friend, maybe you are confusing the fact that he's a good friend and you like him as such, with the fact that you feel alone right now.
Have some patience with your boyfriend. After all, if this ends up being a really serious relationship (sounds like it is) would you not want him to give you his undivided attention in a time of need? Just like he is doing for his family?
2006-12-13 17:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by SUZY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend the money and time to contact your boyfriend. Tell him you understand and support him helping his family, but that you are feeling neglected and that he has pulled away from you. Ask him to tell you honestly if he is still interested in the relationship. If not, end things. If he is, try to set up a plan to keep connected. If he doesn't follow through, end the relationship. Whatever you do, don't start a new romance until you have ended the old one!! Dating your best friend will never work if you start off by cheating.
2006-12-13 17:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Erica S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend cares about you, it shouldn't be too much of a hassle for him to call you once in awhile. Mention to him that you feel like he doesn't have time for a girlfriend right now. Brace yourself - he may agree with you. If he does, let him out of your relationship with grace, no reason to burn any bridges. If he doesn't agree and wants to keep you as his girlfriend, let him know that you'd like a little more effort from him toward the relationship, regardless of how he otherwise may be occupied. Figuring out where your current relationship stands should help you figure out what to do about your feelings with your best friend. Who knows? It may end up that he was just filling the void of something you are lacking in your current relationship, and that's why you are feeling anything "more than friends" for him.
Good luck with this one!
2006-12-13 17:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by stargirllll4311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i wouldnt break up with ur boyfriend just yet!!! talk to him about what is going on and see why he is doing this? because u guys have been together for too long for u to throw it away, and then after u know where he stands figure out what u wanna do. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-13 17:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl just be a faithful and loyal girlfriend by sticking wit yo man, even if he wont calll you cuz he's too busy. If you break up wit dis guy then itll make him even more sad then he already is cuz hes already stressed out right.
2006-12-13 17:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should pay more attention to your best friend than your bf. your bestfriend cares about u more.and you bf is not acting like a bf
2006-12-13 17:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by lol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump william, he already dumped you. actions speak louder than words babe. besides he already knows you are lusting after your friend. that is why he never even called you to let you know that he already dumped you.
2006-12-13 17:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were u I would break-up wit my boyfriend.
2006-12-13 17:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋