Lets keep it simple. Lets say that you have 2 children, and one does not really ask for much, just a little, but the other one asks for a lot. Would you give more to the child who ask for a lot or even though one ask more then the other, would you keep it fair (spend the same amount of $)?
2006-12-13 09:13:29 · 15 answers · asked by james w 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
For both kids you should give them chores and an allowence they can earn. Give 0.50 to $1.00 per age. That way they can buy what they want instead of asking. Whoever doesn't do their chores doesn't get allowence. That way you're not making a decision as to who gets more or less. The children are making the decision to earn money or not.
2006-12-13 09:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Through out the year I'm sorry to say...i end up spending more on the child who asks for less just cause they dont ask for it. (I have 5.) Now at Christmas I spend EXACTLY the same amount on each of them! ONLY fair! I love ALL my kids and NONE more than the other! The kids will take it as...so and so is "the favorite".
2006-12-13 17:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would spend the same on both. But I would not give all that is asked for. I try to raise my children to not ask for much but I have a daughter that asks for everything (sometimes even demands it-she's 13). When she cops the attitude, she will not get that item from me - ever. If she asks for something and accepts no for an answer she may be surprised to get it for Christmas or her birthday (it really depends on what it is). My son is only 2.5 years old so only time will tell how he is about this.
2006-12-13 17:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my children were younger $ and # of boxes at Christmas were even. They knew how to count presents. Birthdays didn't matter much except as they got a little older and remembered what amount aunts and uncles gave them. I started early with the 'wants' looking through the ads and catalogs as to what was too much money. As they got older and the 'toys' grew up and got more expensive they understood that less cost more and some things such as # of packages were not going to be even. That was life and it doesn't always look fair and sometimes it isn't. Just because one 'wants' and verbalizes that is not a reason to give them more. That will just feed them to continue with the 'I want that..' and expect to get it and more everytime. Sometimes life's lessons start early. As much as we want to give all we have to our children, we are also giving them the love and knowledge they need as they grow in this world.
2006-12-13 19:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Margaret K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it fair. Well, it really depends on the age, if one is say 4 and the other is say 10, they are going to have different needs. But you don't want to spoil one or the other. If they were pretty close in age and it was about allowance or spending money at an arcade or whatnot, keep it fair. Cut the one off, otherwise he could continue asking and become spoiled.
2006-12-13 17:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by Well hello there... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would spend an even amount either way. I would probably just pick out stuff that I know the one who doesn't ask for a lot would like so that the one who did ask for a lot still gets a "good" amount.
2006-12-13 17:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by racgrl88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spend the same on all my children. My oldest (7) and my second child (4) have middle names of "I want". My youngest (18 months) doesn't ask for hardly anything. I give them all equal amounts anyhow. They all need things. Hope this helps
2006-12-13 17:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should always keep it fair and spend the same amount. Because one day when that child hits there teens or are grown up that might upset them
2006-12-13 18:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We (my husband and I ) try to spent the same amount of money on both of my kids wants, but at the same time we only buy both of our kids the same amount of presents every year for Christmas. It's normally 5 each + what ever the grandparents get them. But then again my kids want whatever they see on TV.
2006-12-13 17:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well - the younger my kids are the less i spend on them, but the more items they get.
when their young its about how many as they do not realise the value of money
as they get older they do so i tend to get the older two a big present that costs a lot and my younger 2 about a dozen little ones,
2006-12-13 19:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋