i have to sing a duet with my pastors wife in church.. and im scared to go up in front of people.. but i told her that i would sing!.. and i want to but.. im just scared to go up in front of everyone!..
2006-12-13 09:11:19 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Performing Arts
Do it! You'll get such a rush, you'll want to do it again and again!
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-13 09:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, getting up in front of people is scary at first. The best thing to do is practice. Start with family members, then maybe add a friend, etc. Also, practice where you will be singing. This will help also.
Most people are afraid when getting up to speak. Even those who speak all the time. The fear goes away once you are into things. (As long as you know your material/song) Also, most people can't tell how afraid you are when you get up on stage.
Even if you mess up a little, you will get better with time. Take the step and don't worry so much.
Oh and take long deep breathesbefore getting up on stage. It basically lets out the stressful energy. Also warm up your voice by singing a little before arriving. That is if you are not in the Choir and will have a chance to warm up your voice.
You'll be fine. Don't worry.
2006-12-13 09:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by Shiva07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have what every performer goes through -- stage fright. Just keep practicing your song so you can do it without even thinking about. I admire your courage in doing this duet. After the duet, you'll feel great and you will want to sing more in front of a crowd. This might be the first steps to your singing career. Go get 'em.
2006-12-13 09:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jo K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you sing in front of your family? Church is just a bigger family.
I'm considered my most people who know me as a clown, a cut-up, a show-off, the star of the show. But I wasn't always this way. I would show off in front of family but that was it. My folks took me to Six Flags over Texas when I was about 9 or 10. I saw this hat.(kind goofy looking but I liked it) My mom asked what I wanted and I told her but said I was afraid someone would laugh at me. She sat me down and said, "1. If you made someone laugh, you were spreading God's gift of joy and happiness to others. 2. I would probably never see most of these people again so what did it matter what they thought. She has regretted those words over the years on the times I embarrassed her, but would still smile with approval.
A few days after 911 I preached my Dad's funeral. I asked my nephew to read my dad's favorite poem. He said yes but when the hundreds of people filled the church he said he didn't think he could do it. I told him, "That's okay I'll take care of it." When it came time for the poem I said this, " In the past few days my family has suffered the terrible loss of our father, but many others have suffered loss also this week in New York and Washington. Yet the Lord has provided through the smoke and ash a new kind of hero to reach out a helping hand. A hero that carries the weak and injured on his back, an axe in his hand, and determination in his heart. (my nephew was a young firefighter/paramedic) I watched his chest swell and saw the tears fill his eyes. He caught my eyes and nodded...He was ready.I continued, "I am proud to have one of those heros here today to read my dad's favorite poem."
You know as I write this answer I feel in my heart that you too will answer the call to bring forth the gift within you so that others can hear what you feel inside. God Bless you. Merry Christmas and I wish I could be there to hear you. You'll be blessed. You'll be great.
2006-12-13 09:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Daystar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be so afraid of singing in public but then I got the lead in an opera. I got really sick and lost my voice the week before I was supposed to go on. I missed 3 of the 4 performances and by that last performance, I was just so happy to have a voice back, that I didn't really care how I sounded.
It helped since I was in a character. Come up with a character for yourself, one who likes to sing. The more detail, the better. People listening react more if you look like you're having fun, they'll notice if you're nervous way more than if your voice cracks or something (trust me, my voice cracks all the time during voice lessons and most of the time, my teacher doesn't even notice it. However, she notices when I am nervous all the time!)
2006-12-13 09:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to be extremely scared to sing/dance/act in front of people. My legs would start to shake a lot right when I stepped on stage. But my parents helped me, and now, I am great on stage. I love being up there!!!! I've been in a lot of plays/performances. I get lots of compliments. I am very expressive and i smile, so people look at me, and they can tell that I enjoy it. So, don't be scared. It's a church performance. No one will laugh at you. And if they do, all have to tell them is, " Well, if I'm so horrible, then I would like to see how you do up there on stage!" Apparently, you are a good singer. So just pretend like you are singing in your bedroom!! After time, you will become more comfortable.
2006-12-13 09:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How soon is this? If you have the time and this might sound bad but, go to a karioke bar. Spend all night picking songs you know, you can drink soda, if you really have a voice the crowd will encourage you. If you stink then just keep in mind that not all of them that are heckling you have the guts to get up there. Do this all night maybe a couple of nights if you have the time. This will not exactly evaporate your nerves but it will put some of the butterfilies in your stomach to sleep.
2006-12-13 09:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by sc_slic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it because YOU enjoy it. If you worry too much about whether others will like you, you won't enjoy it. You like so sing, so sing because it's what you like to do. Do it because it makes you happy, and the people listening will get that vibe from you and enjoy it also. Seriously, that goes a long way.
Besides, they're not expecting Billy Holiday. As long as you carry the tune and time, they'll be pleased.
2006-12-13 17:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to be scared about. If she asked you to do it she knows you can and will do it well. Just imagine you are somewhere else or pretend nobody is there. You could also start by singing in front of family members and friends so you get used to being in front of people.
2006-12-13 09:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by Katty D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is what you need to do. while you are in front of everyone, pick a point about eye level in the back. maybe on the wall or the clock or something. keep your eyes on that point every time you look up. that way they will be able to see you and you won't notice them so much. and don't forget to smile too. just sing and you will enjoy it.
good luck
2006-12-13 10:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by talofa lava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel joy when you sing? If so, focus on the joy and it will be a gift to the audience.
Another way to deal with nerves while singing with your pastors wife is to give her eye contact while performing. It takes the focus off of yourself and on the task at hand.
At the very beginning, the first thing you do when you walk on that stage is to acknowledge the people you love who are watching you. It only takes a few seconds to see them in the audience and then the audience becomes your supportive friend in your mind. By the way, this is the secret that creates stage presance for performers, because people can pick up on the fact that you really do care, and it makes them feel appreciated.
When you hit your cue, focus on what this song means to you in a deeper level and the audience will feel this truth. In affect, the attention immediately goes off of yourself and onto each moment you give the gift of music and the spiritual message to all who attend.
Have you ever read the Hans Christian Anderson story called "The Pen and the Ink Well?" - It's a simple reminder that you are an instrument of God. If that is who you are, then you simply shift from anxiety to joy and thankfulness that you get to humbly perform in front of people.
Your performance is lifting the consciousness of others. Use your gift that God gave you.
Lastly, don't confuse nerves with fear. Those butterflies are a necessary energy you are to use in order to channel your abilitiy to keep your energy very, very high.
That way, when you begin to perform moment by moment, it will actually raise you and everybody up no matter if the song is happy or sad.
Now, let me give you an opposite scenerio of what you do not want to create on the night you sing:
If you focus on yourself and your anxiety, some of the audience members will become uncomfortable watching you suffer and not focus on the song, because all of their focus will be on your nervous behavior. They will be thinking, "gosh, I wish she could feel more ralaxed because, it's making me feel sorry for her."
Don't allow that to happen, because you are capable of being in control while out of control at the same time. Meaning, your anxiousness can still be there, but use it to your advantage.
Here are your bullet points on how to use your energy.
*Be in your joy
*Acknowledge your adience with greatfulness in your heart.
*Give the pastors wife eye contact
*Always remember that your talent is an instrament of God in order to effortlessly and easily raise the consciousness of others.
There is no actor, singer, performer of any kind who have not gone through stage fright. They all know this simple fact - "Stage fright is a grace that is sufficient by itself, but a necessary condition for success."
Sincerely,
An actor, singer, stunt woman and mom
LLJames
2006-12-13 09:43:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋