my father is a meth addict. and i'm slowly watching him ruin his life and kill himself. my father used to be a good man with a good job and had a good life. i dont know when he began to use drugs but now it is very clear he is. He is on probation and they never drug test him i'm going after xmas to talk to his probation officer about getting him some help. He's about to be in trouble anyway if he dosent start reporting but he dosent care. I dont know what else to do i know he is grown and can make his own decision but i cant stand by and do nothing. He has quit his job and refuses to pay child support for my 5 year old half sister and refuses to have anything to do with her or me and my sister. He gives my brother drugs who is 18 with 3 kids he is ruining not only his life but my brothers as well. my question is is it wrong what i'm doing should i jsut mind my own business and let him kill himself or should i go to his probation officer and if so what do i say. please help me.
2006-12-13 08:55:26 · 11 answers · asked by tcameron_2004 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not wrong at all! It is your business because he's apart of your family, and you can help him. But here's the key:
You can help him solve a problem, but you cannot solve it for him. You have to help him realize that taking these drugs will just waste his life, and that he needs help. Tell him how you would feel if he was gone, and how these drugs aren't only a problem with him, but a problem with everyone else. Everything a family member does affects the whole family. Having a long talk should clear things up with him, and if you're still not too sure what to do, talk with a counselor or therapist.
Hope i've helped you some!
~Jay
2006-12-13 09:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by Adriel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an anonymous tip to the police as soon as possible. Meth is another one of those drugs that nobody can predict the outcome. You'd save your family from a crazy holiday and always know that you did the right thing. They won't like you if they know you did it but if or when they get help you will be the one that saved there lives and others. My fathers' drug of choice was coke. We don't talk now but that's my choice. They may not recognize that you've grown through a situation that takes alot of coping. I hope you do the right thing.
2006-12-13 09:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Linz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how dangerous meth addiction is. People steal, kidnap, carjack, rape, rampage, murder, etc... Your dad needs genuine help, not just a punishing reinforcement for his mis-behaving. Tell his probation officer how much you care for him and that you want to get him real clinical help for him instead of sending him to prison right away. He'd be better off than rotting in prison, especially if he is a good man. Those who are on meth are not grown up and responsible, therefore they aren't even capable of making adult decisions. You're concern for your father is legitimate and should be followed through before it is too late. Best Wishes.
2006-12-13 09:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by element_op 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if he he's discovered to be doing drugs he would be charged with breach of probation & would be incarcerated to end sentence of probation If he's discovered to be utilising cocaine he won't have any get admission to to the newborn you ought to enable the attorney comprehend of what you have found out so attorney can ask for drug tests collectively as having get admission to to the newborn. i will assure you that his get admission to would be terminated if he's a consumer of cocaine
2016-10-05 06:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try annonymous tip to probation officer or call social worker to see if he can be made to do a volunter plan or maybe his probation officer can make him accountable for a plan to be a safer better parent for all of you with him, especially the 18 year old. your father indeed needs an intervention. good luck.
2006-12-13 09:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you try to help him in any way you can. If you've tried talking to him when he's not on drugs, please go to his probation officer. I'd hate to see anyone's life ruined by drugs. I know someone who could possibly relate to you, that's why I found this question interesting.
2006-12-13 08:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could put myself in your position, I would say you are making the right choice. You're father won't resent you in the future for helping to get his life in order. You should tell the probation officer that you suspect you're father is abusing, and tell him that it worrys you. ask him how you can get him help.
hope it all works out
2006-12-13 08:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by g0backto0sleep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first any drug addict will resist your efforts because the drugs have taken over their lives, and that's all they care about. Be prepared for him to be REALLY pissed off!!! Then, hopefully, he will get clean one day, and will thank you for it!!
You are very brave to do this, and should be commended for your actions.
Good luck!!!!.
Mr Happy
:o)
2006-12-13 09:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn him in, if he makes it, he'll thank u someday..if it ends up not helping him, at least u can help the other people involved;ie;half-sister and brother. if u save just one, you've accomplished something!
2006-12-13 09:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn him in! He'll thank you one day. But you might have to wait a few years for that 'Thanks'.
2006-12-13 09:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by Bob_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋