It depends.
It's very noble and romantic of you to want to ask her father for permission. That defintely earns you points.
But asking over the phone is very impersonal. Depending on what her father is like, he may be insulted that you ask over the phone instead of in person.
If he lives close, invite him out for lunch (perhaps invite the mother as well) at a fancy restaurant, and ask for permission. They will certainly be impressed.
If her parents don't live that close, and in person is not a possibility, then try this: write a hand-written letter (typed is too impersonal) and send it with next-day delivery. Call them over the phone the day the letter is supposed to arrive, and ask her father to read it as you are on the phone with him. This is the most personal way you can ask.
If you happen to be financially well off, you could opt for more pricey ways. If you can afford it, drive or fly to see them and ask in person, or pay for airline tickets to have them come to you. Or, if you and they have computers with webcams, set up a video conference and ask that way.
Good luck and I hope they say yes!!
2006-12-13 08:48:18
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answered by maj2001gma 2
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Depending on what your relationship is with him! Usually it would be inappropriate, but if you guys are real comfortable with each other like friends then I do not think it would be inappropriate. Then again also depending where he lives compared to where you live as far as distance, if he is in Phoenix and you are in New York then it is aproppriate. I hope that helps mate. Out of respect though and if distance in not that much even if your relationship is not the best, you should ask him in person. Good Luck.
2006-12-13 08:48:14
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answered by ? 3
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As an self reliant female myself i may well be a splash aggravated if my boyfriend requested my dad permission to marry me. My dad is the selection of guy or woman who might additionally locate that extraordinary. i'm not a splash bit sources. Others could disagree yet i've got faith no person has a superb to furnish permission different than for the guy which you quite prefer to ask to marry you. i might pass with the two techniques 2 or 3. in case you have been to choose for for decision 2- ask for the two mothers and fathers blessing or help somewhat than basically the father. yet i think the ingredient is that it is my opinion in uncomplicated terms - your female chum could produce different recommendations thoroughly (and her kinfolk could have different perspectives from my kinfolk too). possibly you ought to attempt the waters- communicate some chum who requested a fathers permission or something and notice what her perspectives are. If uncertain- ask for blessing or help somewhat than permission.
2016-10-14 21:25:03
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answered by Anonymous
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I think any father would be happy to have you show him the respect of asking him. If I lives close enough that you can reasonably travel to do it in person I would though. If you can't do it in person I don't see where over the phone would be a big problem.
2006-12-13 08:44:46
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answered by smoothie 5
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Ok, if you were buying a car, wouldn't you want to see it, touch it, drive it? Of course that is not the same thing as asking the father, but the principle is that sometimes fathers don't really have anything but the test drive, they want to make sure you are suitable and part of that is by being a man about things and going up to him, shaking his hand, and saying "Sir, I love your daughter, she loves me, it would be my honor if you would allow me the privledge of marrying your daughter." and that's that. On the phone is just not right.. sorry.
2006-12-13 08:44:28
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answered by accountrep2001 2
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If you live far away then no it would not be inappropriate, but if he lives in the same town I would suggest meeting him either at home or somewhere you two can talk seriously about his daughter. It is a very memorable time for a father and he will respect you more than he already does if you go the extra mile to talk to him face to face.
2006-12-13 10:28:06
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answered by Rita S 2
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It wouldn't matter. My fiancee asked my father over the phone. I was visiting him in Texas. So it was long distance. If it was me I would personally do it over phone. Since fathers can be pretty scary sometimes. Either way you do it asking is the best thing it shows alot of respect.
2006-12-13 09:08:08
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answered by Michiko 2
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Very much so in my opinion. My son is going with a girl from Thailand and he went there this past summer to ask for her hand in marriage from her father. Although not quite as common in North America as in other cultures it should still be done man to man. The amount of respect that you will gain from your future father in law will astound you. Best of luck and show that you have some backbone and ask this man to his face.
2006-12-13 08:44:53
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answered by crazylegs 7
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it depends on if you are very familiar with him or not . If he is an authoritarian figure and you are not very close to him it is a good idea to ask in person.But dont get flustered or you blow it.If however he is like one of your buddies and you see him all the time by all means the phone will do . But do the thing in person it has much more class.
2006-12-13 08:48:22
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answered by Shark 7
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It is much better to ask in person unless distance makes that impossible in which case a phone call is better then not asking at all:) If you CAN get there (for example, if you will see them this Christmas at all) ask in person, but if not, ask over the phone:)
2006-12-13 09:58:42
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answered by Chrys 4
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