My good friend is pregnant from a guy she met 4 mos ago, they are planning to get married in March, but the guys ex girlfriend for 5 yrs is fighting to get him back no matter what. My friend and the guy had a fight recently and the guy all of a sudden want to get back with the ex. Whats up with that?
2006-12-13 08:41:14 · 7 answers · asked by jinky l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Confucius say men are dogs... dump the bastard and take him to the cleaners on child support
2006-12-13 08:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one! That guy needs to decide what he wants. I would suggest that your friend ask him if he wants a future with her and the child or not. If not, then, she needs to cut the ties between them and let him go. He will always be the father of the child, but if he does not love her enough to stick it through the thick and thin and if the x is a problem now, i feel it will be an ongoing battle. He needs to make a decison. Be there for your friend through the pregnancy and all. (i don't believe in abortion). Don't know how old your friend is, but a decision needs to be made before the child comes into the world so that this chid will have a "Stable" life and lot's of love!!! Good luck to u and your friend
2006-12-13 16:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by Flaca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex-girlfriend evidently wants what she couldn't have. She couldn't stand the thought of losing this guy to another woman and see him have a baby with her. If he goes back to her, he will probably regret it.
I feel very sorry for your friend, being four months pregnant and "was" planning on marrying him in March. But if he is that "flightly" and immature and decides to go back to his ex, if I were your friend, I'd sure sock it to him with a hefty child support ruling! I'd have her go to court now,,,,, to force him to pay for the doctor visits now and the hospital bill. He needs to grow up. He might as well find out now what having a baby entails -- money and a hell of a lot of responsibility!
Maybe she will be better off instead of marrying him.
What a jerk!!!!!
2006-12-13 16:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Peekie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never get too serious with someone who was in a long term relationship..they need a break and a chance to get over the loss of the other person. Habits are hard to break. And sometimes people go back out of habit more than anything.
2006-12-13 16:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably on the rebound when he hooked-up with your friend and he may have been trying to do the responsible thing by getting married and taking care of his child. However, i think its best that this happen now so she wouldn't have to put that child through a divorce later on.
She needs to prepare herself for becoming a mother and also for the possibility of taking that boy to court for child support.
Be strong and i hope this works out for you sweetie
2006-12-13 16:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew a guy for a few months, got pregnant, got married, and now am getting divorced. They aren't ready. I wasn't neither was my husband. They havn't known each other long enough. Tell her to wait til after baby comes and see how it goes. There is nothing wrong with calling it off. I wish I would have.
2006-12-13 16:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was cheating any way tell her to let him go that situation is a headache
2006-12-13 16:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by ruru 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋