Whats with all the DISCRIMINATION AGAINST YOUNG MUMS???

Question

This is crap! Why does everyone think that just because you are under 25 that you cant parent a child?? I had my son when I was almost 17.. and I am sick of everyone telling me that because i was so young, i must be a bad mother.. why is this???

Answer 1

Statistics, that's what it is. When you live in a society when most teen moms are single, on welfare, high-school drop-outs, it gives other teen moms a bad name. I had 2 kids by the time I was 20. I had my first at 18 and my second at 19. They have the same father, who i am still with. I am NOT on welfare. I actually pay into those taxes that I get accused of living off of. I finished high school with a 4.0 GPA and had a 3.8 GPA last year in college. When I speak, you can't tell that I was a teen mom unless I whip out the baby pictures and say my age. Tell everyone else to go to hell because YOU are the one who feeds those babies. You are the one who kisses their boo boos. When the rest of society does something to aid in the upbringing of your kids, then they have a right to talk bad about you,

Answer 2

Some people are just shallow minded is all. They have this preconceived idea that all young mothers are bad mothers. I think it depends on the person. Not everyone is alike. There are some young mothers who are great mothers. There are some older mom's who shouldn't have been allowed to conceive. Besides, EVERYONE is going to make some mistakes in parenting. No one is perfect. As long as we learn from those mistakes is what matters the most. I am 28, almost 29. I had my first child the day before I turned 16. She's a very intelligent, well rounded 12 (almost 13) y/o girl. I practically lived a lifetime in High School. I got married Feb. 93. Had my daughter Jan 94. and was divorced Sept. 95. My second child didn't come along till I was 24. It was like starting all over for me. I was so nervous with him. It had been so long since I had a baby, I was constantly calling my mom and asking her to remind me of things. LOL My youngest was born when I was 25. I don't think I was any "smarter" just because I was 25 when I had him. I still had the same fears and such. I made mistakes with each child and will probably make more before they are grown. Some people need to remember that baby's don't come with an instruction manual, we have to learn as we go. Sorry if anyone has hurt you just because you are a young mother. I am sure that you do just as good a job as anyone else, young or old!! Good luck!

Answer 3

AMEN! I was pregnant with Jack when I was just barely 17, and the only thing I looked forward to about my 18th birthday was that I wouldn't have to admit to being under 18 and a mother. You get such dirty looks!!!!!!!

I think it's because society has taken this view where you shouldn't get married before the age of 40, and if you have kids before your 30 then you must have been too poor or moral to get an abortion. At least that's the attitude I'm noticing. Also, if you have a baby under 18, then it means you probably had premarital sex, which, in the "religious" world, is damning evidence.

Think of how society used to be, in the 1800s. People were married as early as 14, and it was completely naturally to begin having children by the time you were 15 or 16. It's not like people's urges have changed, just the perspective placed on those urges.

ALSO, I think that having children younger is better. I have a friend (sorry, Jo) who, when she was 18, had parents aged 62 and 72. Talk about a generation gap!!! If you have your children younger (I believe), you'll be more able to relate to them as they grow up into their teen and adult years. (You won't be too senile to remember... ---just kidding!!!)

And don't worry, I don't think you were a bad mother. :)

Answer 4

I'm with you, not all young moms are bad moms... my sister had her twins when she was 15 and I think she did a lot better than most women in their 30s. I waited until I was 20 which is still considered young to a lot of people. I don't understand, especially since back in the day, women were expected to have children when they were 13 or 14 and the human body is best able to have children between the ages of 15 and 28, science and medicine back that up. It's mostly people who don't know anything about anything and don't have children that think that you can't be a good mom at that age.


On the same note, I do have to add that some younger women should not have children, it all depends on the maturity level. I've met some older women who I think shouldn't have children. It's about the person, not their age.

Answer 5

im 19 and expecting my 1st early january, i think its that ppl think the younger u are the less life experience u have so therefore the less capable u are of being a 'good mum' which is crap! yes it does come down to experience to some degree but look at all the parents out there with 3 or 4 kids that are still 'bad parents' shouldnt they have learnt by now how to be 'good parents' ? no-one questions their abilities purely becoz there of the 'responsable age' . i'm 19 have been working full time and supporting myself since i was 14, i've got a solid r/ship and have had for 4 years now, my partner and i own our home and now expecting our 1st child but becoz i am 19 i am still looked upon as too young to be having children!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I don't know why people think this. Bad mothers come in all ages. I think statistically, that young parents do have a more difficult time coping with becoming a parent when they are still children themselves. But, that being said, each situation must be looked at individually. I don't judge people's abilities by their age but, by their actions. I'm glad for your son that you are parenting him well! Good luck to you.

Answer 8

I'm sorry you got caught up in all the crap but that's just how life is now. There's really nothing we can do to make them feel any different. You just have to be secure in the knowledge that you're a good parent...and that at least you're not the one wasting your time belittling others for no reason. Bad mothers come in all ages, shapes, sizes, colors, and religions. It really doesn't matter.

Answer 9

I never fall for the young parent/ bad parent thing. My parents were extremely young when they had me. They had four kids, when I was 3 they started their own business and became quite successful. My mother felt she had to look after us and our father and the house better than other mums so that she wouldn't be stigmatised. I see plenty of crap parents of every age.

Answer 10

I'd like to know the same thing. I was 14 when I had my 1st and I've got better kids than people who waited til their mid 20's. I am now 22 and have 3 total children.