My parent is a bit mentally ill, though functional. I care about her, but she is unable to really care about about anther person.
2006-12-13 08:35:27 · 8 answers · asked by troopergirl21 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I should say that my mother has trouble feeling for other people. She is able to get along just fine in society, but has no close relationships. She is cold as ice. She also is very controlling and good at keeping me off-balance. She's been tested at the genius level and really knows how to mess with people's minds. she's also been found to be mentally ill as a teen and young adult, and in fact spent a small amount of time in a mental hospital when she was 20. She's learned how to cover all that up.
She does not need me to take care of her.
I've lived on my own for over a decade. She never calls just to see how I am. I have to walk on eggshells around her lest she goes off on me or gets angry with me. I'm really sick of feeling depressed over my relationship with her and I feel so much better when I don't have anything to do with her for awhile. Of course I love her unconditionally, but she doesn't feel the same for me. She's mentally incapable of feeling unconditional love.
2006-12-13 09:15:13 · update #1
I would not bother with a relationship, but I would try to keep tabs on this person, and if there is a time when They can care about anyone then I would try again, Continuing in a relationship will only frustrate both of you, and will never have a good out come
2006-12-13 08:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the additional info I am sorry to say that if I were in your situation I'd walk away. Yo've been an adult for long enough if all she can do is try to put you down and make you ill at ease then I'd give her an ultimatum. Either she changes her ways or so long. What ever you do don't give in to emotional blackmail.
I do feel sorry for you being placed in this dilema though. Try to have a nice Christmas though.
2006-12-13 08:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Vogon Poet 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats a tough question but if your old enough move out because her mental illnes could get worse and u could be there a long time caring for her. Do u want that?
2006-12-13 09:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your answer. Would you ever want someone to abandon you if you were sick. She can't help the way she is. Be her support system. Maybe your constant love an d affection really is reaching them but the illness masks it and they don't know how to she it. Don't give up..
2006-12-13 08:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by t j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is your mother and she cant help being mentally ill. You need to be there for her she gave birth to you and has been there for you. dont turn your back on her when she needs you the most. she might not be able to show you she cares but i bet you she really does.
2006-12-13 08:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick up with her. I have a brother who is blind and Autistic, so I know what you are talking about.
It is called blind love = even if they don't show them, it is still there.
And I don't think it was her fault to be sick.
2006-12-13 08:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by solegeniousreject 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would ask dr. laura. (100.7, 2-4 central time)
2006-12-13 08:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
watch "NOTEBOOK".
2006-12-13 08:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋