I love my girlfriend. She wants me to move in with her. I told her that I was not ready to move in with her and I am not. But there is more truth to this: I love living by myself. I feel safe, content and incontrol. I feel like I would be happy if I could have a relationship for meny years and not have to move in with her. I have lived with someone before and I felt trapped, monitored, and suffocated. I can't stand not being able to do my own thing with out having to explain where I was, how long I was there, and what I did. You know what I mean? When you live with someone you always have to check in and be checked on. I don't like that. I know that this is the norm for most relationships and that its just common courtesy but I am afraid my girlfriend will eventually leave me because I rather live a lone. It's not that I dont wanna be around her; I just feel like I am a better perosn when I have my own space. Last time I lived with someone I went crazy. What do you think my deal is?
2006-12-13 08:12:35 · 5 answers · asked by metrogurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you must feel "trapped, monitored, and suffocated" for a reason. I doubt you actually were; you said you realize that it's common courtesy. You're just not ready. You have to make the choice to want to commit to that degree. If you truly love someone it's not hard at all; it's only hard when you don't truly want to be there. I also dounbt that you "went crazy" because you were living with someone & felt trapped. There were probably a lot of other stresses in your life; we tend to project them onto those we are closest to & focus on the negatives with them to find the source of that stress.
2006-12-13 08:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-13 08:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain it to her the same way.
2006-12-13 08:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by rdwngfever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her move with her
2006-12-13 08:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by wac0032 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her move with her
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2006-12-13 08:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋