My sister is 10 years older than me, and over the last couple years has turned into the laziest person I know. It is definitely showing in her weight - she is completley huge now. She doesn't have a boyfriend, and I think it will be harder now for her to find anybody since she's so huge. I wish she would do something about it - anything! But, anytime anybody says something, her feelings are hurt. She is super-sensitive. We are all worried about her b/c we beleive it's endangering her health and her emotions, as we're sure she's very lonely. She exhibits lots of signs of insecurity. I love my sister and want to see her happy. What can I do?
2006-12-13 07:38:21 · 12 answers · asked by downtoearthandclassicgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well depending on how old you are you could join a gym and tell her you would love company to work out with for motivation and ask if she wants to come. Invite her to do things with you like hikes and stuff like that. Or, just simply tell her to get her act together. Sometimes you have to be abrupt and rude to get through to people.
2006-12-13 07:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yelling at him and pointing out he's fat isn't going to change anything. Try talking with your mother about how he's only 10 but he is already very unhealthy. He's probably going to get diabetes, liver failure, or other things if he doesn't change his ways. If she still doesn't listen, you need to step up. Take away any money he has so he can't buy junk food. Make a rule that he's only allowed to eat out once a weak and then begin to make homemade, healthy foods for him that include veggies, meats, grains, and dairy products. If you see him overeating, stop him. He should be playing outside. If he's too embarrassed to play with other kids, why not play a little basketball with him. I hope all goes well. Good luck.
2016-05-23 20:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rosemary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old is your sister? If she still lives in the same house, then your whole family could start a health eating/exercise regime. That way she wouldn't be singled out. Make it sound like it's a good thing for everybody in the family. I don't really know what else you could do. I used to be overweight, and when my family would say something, I would go on the defense. (So I wouldn't suggest excessive comments)
2006-12-13 07:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say your a great brother,or sister. You have to try to get her into an activity that the both of you can do together. Talk to her and ask her if there is anything bothering her. Let her know that you are there for her. And when she is ready to talk you would be more than happy to listen to her. Let her know she is wanted and involve her in everything..But don't comment on her weight if she is heavy she all ready knows that. Let her know you are willing to help......Ask her to watch the T.V show the Biggest Loser thats on tonight. Its about over weight people who compete to see who can lose the most weight. It is truly inspiring......Good Luck....
2006-12-13 08:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by rush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all do things that don't make her feel that she is being targeted. Make foods that are healthy and and ask her to eat with you. Go out with her to the gym, hey make it a family affair! everyone needs exercise! bring her along too. Take her to fun family socials, or have family socials that she is able to talk to people, to at leats allieviate her lonliness for a while...
and also for you...YOU should talk to her about what is happening, don't blame everything on heR!! instaed of picking out her flaws, remind her of what positive qualities she has...make her feel better about her self. happiness comes from accepting your flaws and being comfortable with them...only then a person can see change!! good luck with this!!
2006-12-13 07:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting involved with activities or getting a job will get her on the right track. SHe sounds like she may be fighting with depression and usually you gain weight when you are depressed. I get cranky if I'm depressed but I have found if I get out and keep my mind on other things than my troubles, I'm alot better off.
2006-12-13 07:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by CC Rider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to get closer and help your sister with her obstacle is to talk to her, not at her. Join Weight Watchers with her and watch the weight just fall off. It may help her find herself and maybe even start loving who she is again!
2006-12-13 07:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lynn M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get closer to your sister there must be something that has happened in her life that has made her this way. Work on it together she doesnt have anybody else.
2006-12-13 09:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be going through a severe depression. Maybe she need psychological attention.
2006-12-13 07:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probebly has low self-esteeme. Try complimenting her a lot, spending extra time with her and thing like that.
2006-12-13 07:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋