Do you have to be 100% sure b4 getting married, or is a little doubt normal?

Answer 1

In my mind, you should be one hundred and ten percent sure before getting married. Too many people get married only to get a divorce three months later these days, and that bothers me more than I can say. Marriage should be forever, it's meant to bind two people together for a lifetime, not a couple of months!

If you're not one hundred percent sure, you shouldn't be getting married. You should stick to dating until you are sure that the person is right for you. However, I should add in that there is a big difference between doubting the person is right for you and simply being nervous about taking a big step!

Doubt is not good, nervousness is normal.

Answer 2

I am about to get married in a few weeks, and i've wondered this same question a million times in my head for the past 8 months, but i finally sat down and thought about what my doubt was about. The bottom line was... Will my marriage to this guy be happy and healthy? After a little thinking i realized that no matter what, there is always doubt, but when i think about if i'm going to be happy with him, then i know the answer is yes. When i think about will my marriage be healthy and last forever... i know that it will only if I don't have any doubt in myself. If you take care of each other and treat each other right, then the other person will do it back. I know that if a do all i can to do what is right, then my husband will return the favor. A relationship is always thought of as 50/50, but it's not. It's 100/100. Each one has to go 100% all the way THEMSELVES and not expect anything from the other, and the marriage will be fine. I'm not saying one does all the work, but instead you both take care of the other person before yourself. I guess, in conclusion i would say that you do not have to be 100% sure about the marriage, but you do have to be 100% sure that YOU can do what YOU need to as the other person's spouse.

Answer 3

I think having a little doubt is completely normal. No one is ever 100% sure that the decision they make is going to be the right one, or the wrong one, or may turn out different than they had hoped. Marriage is a game of risk. If you truly love your fiancee/fiance, girlfriend/boyfriend, you can only hope for the best. Your heart and your mind may say, "I am 100% sure this is what I want." But a couple months, or even years, down the road things could be different.

If you have doubt don't be afraid of it. If God brings you to an obstacle that you may doubt just a little bit, he'll get you thru it. All things happen for a reason, and if you have doubt that just means you wanna make the right choice for you, so that later down the road, there won't be any changes in what you wanted from the start.

Answer 4

You already know the answer to your question. A little voice is speaking to you and you need to listen and take heed. You must be 100% sure. Marriage is too hard to go into it having any doubts. There is a big difference between being nervous (which typically occurs weeks before the wedding) and doubt (which you typically know far in advance). You can be nervous about the wedding but you should not have any doubt about your potential spouse.
By marrying with doubt you are going against your better judgment and asking for trouble which will be a certainty. The things you think are cute now are bound to become an annoyance later. Anything that annoys you or bothers you now becomes the sodder for divorce later. People generally don't change. So don't think you can change your fiance' but surely you can change your mind .

Answer 5

doubt is normal and I do not believe your gut always knows the answer. there's women out there whose guts told them to marry monsters - or else they couldn't distinguish the voice of their gut from the voice of whatever else was talking to them. either way, do not go on your gut if it contradicts reason and the people that love you and care about you (besides potential spouse)

also consider why you are getting married now, especially if you are young. if there is no real reason to be doing it now and you are rushing into it anyway, there may be a bad reason for it. a lot of young couples get married way too young b/c they think it validates their relationship or something. If you feel your relationship needs validated, you probably are not ready to be married.

i also do not recommend marrying someone you are head over heels in love with (to the point that you see no faults or still think about them every waking moment) or have not known very long, though usually these two things appear together.

Listen to things other than your heart, your libido and your gut, since all of these will change in not too long, but the marriage is (supposed to be) forever. This decision should make reasonable AND emotional sense.

Answer 6

Deciding on if someone is the right person to be with for the rest of your life is a critical decision to make in life, however, it's not a decision that requires much pondering. My personal feeling is that you should either be sure or the person in question may not be the right person to be fulfilling such a significant role in your life. We all have questions about things, but there should not be ANY doubt in your mind about if you're marrying the right person or not. Chances are, if you're asking this question, you already know the answer and are probably seeking comfort or confirmatiion from the answers posted, but that's a huge, lifelong decision that you'll ultimately have to make for yourself. Good Luck and trust yourself and whatever it is that you are feeling!

Answer 7

I just got married this year and yes I had a little b4 doubts that is normal everybody gets those it called cold feet once you get married they will go away.It will be like normal after. Good luck on your future.

Answer 8

I think it is absolutely normal to have a little doubt right before you get married. Don't worry about it too much. It is a big step to take and wondering if it is the right step is always a though that occurs at this time.

Answer 9

well you might have some jitters before hand. if you are having strong feelings of doubt then seriously don't get married. my sister later told us she was feeling all this doubt about getting married but got caught up in the whole wedding planning. she ended up divorced 10 months after getting married. trust me it was much more painful then if she never got married in the first place.

i myself never doubted getting married. the jitters i got were the fact that i am a shy person and i was going to be in front of a bunch of people saying my vows from memory.

Answer 10

The ones who doubt make up the 50% of marriages that end in divorce. If you're not 100% sure, don't do it!