i caught my boyfriend cheating like i went in the house after a dramatic entrance and he was hiding in the closet and stuff and i saw the girl putting on her clothes and she told me she was laying in the bed and that they had sex she is his ex girlfriend i love him a bunch but i dont know what to do please help me give me advicee of what i should do that **** is messes up but i know i have to forgive but i will never forget help me !!
2006-12-13 07:30:25 · 29 answers · asked by CutiePie AKA (hotnakedgurl) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can forgive him but you don't have to go back with him. You have a lot of thinking to do because once a man takes that trust out of a relationship it is VERY hard to get it back. I think you should be angry, sad and all those emotions that you will feel...then move on. I feel that if he did it once he might do it again, so why put yourself though that twice. The key word is "might" but that is a chance that you would have to know if you are willing to take.
2006-12-13 07:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by moks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back because if you do, he will know that you will always take him back no matter what. It's not like this is a rumor, you walked in on it. You saw it with your own two eyes. You deserve better and you should have more love and respect for yourself to know that their are men out there that will not cheat. Even if it was a one time thing and he truly does love you, you will have a hard time trusting him again. Everytime he's out with buddies and comes home late, you will have it in your head that he may be cheating. A relationship is build on trust, once trust is gone the relationship goes out the window. I say move on..find yourself a real man. Good luck!
2006-12-13 07:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready for a mature relationship.
Own your anger. You don't have to forgive him. He was wrong, and forgiveness should only be given if he is truly sorry for what he did, he is only sorry that he got caught. But you will go back to him, it is the ultimate irony in the world, women complain about jerks like that but the reason they continue to cheat is somewhere down the line they know they will find a girl will take them back. He found you.
Think I'm wrong, have the courage to break up with him.
2006-12-13 07:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him. Talk to him about the issues that you have with him. He hurt you and I feel that you don't have to deal with that. I would say leave , but that is up to you. Some people cheat and don't get caught and some do. When you get caught cheating it is kind of different because you were there. You probably will never trust him again.
2006-12-13 07:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 16:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey....there is nothing to work out here...dump him.
This guy doesn't care about you. He couldn't even come out of the closet(lol) and face you like a man. He should've been begging for your forgiveness!
If you stay with this guy, you are signing up for nothing but more heartache.
2006-12-13 07:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never ever forget anything like this but if you are going to forgive him you must bever ever mention it again as in dont bring it up in a row, but ask your self something first, why has he cheated and do you think he would do it again. i hope it works out for you i really do you are a strong person to even think you could forgive him
2006-12-13 07:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that dramatic a scene, dump his butt. If it were a lesser crime, like kissing a girl when drinking, let the punishment fit the crime. He had sex with a girl. That's not a loving environment.
2006-12-13 07:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by oceanblue_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you love him, doesn't mean he loves you! And doesn't mean that he is meant for you! The right one wouldn't even think of cheating and you shouldn't put up with ANY GUY who would. Read 'He's Just Not That Into You'...Trsut me you will realize what you're worth sooner or later!
2006-12-13 07:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously love him more than he loves you, and he doesn't respect your relationship.
You could stay, hope he doesn't do it again, and try to forgive and forget, but I would recommend moving on. If you stay, you will always be wondering if he will cheat again.
There are plenty of wonderful men out there. Please find someone that will love you with all of his heart.
I hope this helps. Good luck to you. :)
2006-12-13 07:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋