So check this one out for a change my bf met me in a very weird form but the point is that he met me! so that's an automatic downfall but back to the point when he met me I looked like **** and he knows it so I can't really understand why he tried to get with me but the point is that lately he's been worrying about my look a little too much and it's to the point where I don't even feel comfortable in my own clothes, so just this past weekend I went to a party which I invited him to and he told me I had to look good because he was going to introduce me to his friends, I thought this was really mean but I got completely dressed up and even left him in shock so after that he stopped bothering me and I can't understand why he is so insecure about me if his friends were ugly as hell and he's not the lucky charm himself! Please tell me what to do or what to say to him? I already tell him idcare what he thinks i'm going to be myself whether he likes it or not, but it doesn't work! Why?
2006-12-13 07:27:32 · 8 answers · asked by turtle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he needs to mature up. He needs to learn that success in life or in relationships is not judged by a panel of friends or society itself. Although we've all been taught to think so, when it comes to relationships, he's chosen that special person to be with, he should accept and appreciate that person for everything she is. Otherwise, they shouldn't be together.
You sound unhappy with him for caring about your appearances to such an extent and also unhappy with yourself for not being able to not care. Well, you're suppose to care! You're in a relationship with another person, no matter how independent and secure of a person you are, you have to be at least a little influenced by the opinions of those you trust most.
When someone you love hurts you in such a way, it makes you respect and trust that person less and less. If you two don't talk this out and he doesn't come around and realize that fact, this relationship won't be around for long.
If he can't get over his own insecurities about how others think of him, then he's not worthy of your time, but if he does, then you know that what he feels for you is sincere and true.
2006-12-13 07:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is insecure about him self but he wanted to let his friends see tha he got the best looking women out there, I think that he felt as if he had something to prove to his friends and that you were the only way he thought he could do it. I really don't think that he wants to change who you are because he fell for you the way that you are. I think that you should ask him why did he want you to look different for you to meet his friends and let him know that you want the truth or if your really tired of his behavior towards your look then let him know that if doesn't tell you the truth that you will leave him.Let him know that he hurt your feelings and that you don't appreciate him doing that, tell him to love you the way you are or leave.
2006-12-13 15:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by BASHFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why r u with him if hes not a lucky charm, care to trade him in for coo coo for cocoa puffs? All guys want their girls to look good when going out, come on its not that big of a deal. Put your false advertising face on, and show some cleavage, done!
2006-12-13 15:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to impress his friends.........or anyone else.
If he cant accept you for who you are, then be gone with him.
Simply dont play into his game.
What do ya think would happen if that same incident came up again....perfect timing the holidays are upon us.......do just the opposite. That would certainly tellya a lot about him, now wouldnt it?
Be sure to bring a camera to see reactions! Especially HIS!
2006-12-13 15:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand that part about when you and him met you were looking busted because men have talked to me when i was looking busted and you wondering how it happened. but thepart i am having trouble with is the part about you changing to meet some guys needs!! i mean if he was cool wth you looking busted, why does it matter what his friends think?
2006-12-13 15:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by felita2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to drop him. He worry about his friend more than you. He is maybe worried about his friends not liking you are something. If he is not confident with you than I would question his reasons for being with you.
2006-12-13 15:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel...i think he wants to show you off..and make someone jealous....have a long talk with him about everything
2006-12-13 15:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by ladywetherell23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don\'t do it if you don\'t want
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2006-12-13 15:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋