I want you to tell me if you think parents put their jobs before their family. I know we have to make a living but sometimes it can be neglect.
2006-12-13 07:15:05 · 4 answers · asked by tee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my dad did a lot of things i thought were jacked up when i was younger but now i realize that it was for the better. he moved us around a lot because he was in the marines and when i was younger i hated having to go to new schools, but he didn't really have a choice... there are other things i will never get over though, like how he treated us as fellow marines, not his kids, always expecting us to go way above and beyond. I think it all depends on if you can actually leave work at work and be a dad, mom, husband or wife at home. If you can actually switch between those two mentalities I think family life wouldn't be too affected by work. Just my thoughts...good luck finding more info!
2006-12-13 07:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a fine childhood- both of my parents worked and I was pretty spoiled- got everything I wanted. When I went into hight school, I rarely came home until 10pm everynight. I guess they trusted me, but I do resent them for not being home alot. I know the cost of living has gone way up, but I just don't want my kids to have to go to daycare all day. If I do get married and have kids, I will not work. It would cancel out the wages of a job, since daycare is so expensive. Its not neglect, and some women feel that not having a job is negative, athat they aren't contributing to society. I think raising my children atleast until they enter kindergarten would be more valuable to me than dropping them off at daycare and going to work. Thats just my opinion.
2006-12-13 15:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by yankeeadrienne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents have to find a happy medium between the two - work and family.
I have four children, and my husband and I both have to work full-time. I was fortunate enough to be able to stay home with them until they started school full-time, but it is still very difficult sometimes.
I make it very clear to my employer that my children come first. If my kids need me, I am there! I make sure to spend as much quality time with them as possible. I attend every special function they have at school, I go to ALL of their games, I help with their homework, etc....
When parents put there careers before their children, that is when the problems start to occur. Parents lose sight of what is really important and focus only on the all-mighty dollar. Children of all ages need their parents to show a genuine interest in their lives!!
2006-12-13 15:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a parent can swing it; stay home with your kids. I was on my way to work this morning (it was only my third day there after being a stay-at-home mom) and my 16 mo old started bawling as soon as he saw the daycare. Once inside, he was screaming and my 4 year old who usually does OK with others was reaching out through the doorway crying and screaming "mommy". It was horrible. I went to work and quit and was back to pick up my kids within one hour. My husband encouraged it and said he never wanted me to work anyway and just stay home with the kids. I know that some parents don't have a choice and things will be tight for us money-wise but I can't put my kids through that ever again. It broke my heart. Family comes first.
2006-12-13 15:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Tami C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋