Last week while I was on my way to work I saw an accident, or rather, the aftermath of an accident and as I passed I thought to myself, there's no way the driver survived that! I prayed all the way to work because I could tell the driver had been a woman because her arm was sticking out of the driver window like she was waiting for help there, there were people standing there with her, so I thought, hey maybe she did and they're waiting for the ambulance. Later that afternoon, I read on the local news website that the driver of that vehicle had died at the scene. Even though I didn't know this woman I was devastated, she was only 20! She ran a red light, stupid yes, but she was only 20! I keep coming back to that, life is so short, I have a sister who just turned 21 this year. If anything ever happened to her I would DIE!
That poor family. How do you deal with these kinds of things????
2006-12-13 07:13:33 · 22 answers · asked by Sabrina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And here I thought everyone on Yahoo answers was mean. Thank you everyone for being so sweet and understanding my anguish over this. My fiance and best friend in the last year have witnessed similar but much worse things, and boy does it make me thankful I'm still here for my son and them too.
Every time I go through that light I'm going to think of her. She had a passenger who was badly hurt. I have to stop thinking about it somehow.
2006-12-13 07:27:30 · update #1
That's why I say: "Tomorrow is not promised to anyone." I humble myself by getting on my knees in the morning praying and one of those prayers include asking God to please get me to work safe and back home safe. It's scary! But we also can't dwell on the misfortunes. We can't worry about things we can't control. Just try to be happy as much as you can by thinking good thoughts and being around good people. It really helps me. I laugh a lot with my boyfriend and I just try to keep a positive attitude at home and at work. I wish you and your family well.
2006-12-13 07:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to deal with it twice with my niece. She was first shot in the head by her boyfriend while she was sleeping. Through the miracle of prayer all around the world, she survived. It wasn't time for her to go. During her recovery she found God. About a year later, she was a passenger in my sister's car. The car was t-boned by a pickup that ran a stop sign and was killed instantly. This was my very first niece and I loved her dearly. She left behind 3 children. That was the hardest year of my life but through the grace of the good Lord, I survived. I still cry once in awhile but I just go on. You get over it but there is always a little piece of sorrow that is still there.
2006-12-13 07:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by ANGIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is unnatural for a child to predecease their parents but sad fact is that it happens all too often. A family would really have to bond together at a tragic time like this and each would grieve in their own way and at different rates also. It certainly does give a person to be grateful for those that they have in their lives though, even if they are not getting along at the time, because it is so easy to lose a loved one as you witnessed. This tragic event will probably remain in your vision, especially when you try to lay down at night, but will disappear over time and you will be able to sleep more soundly and feel better about things also. Fact is that she was probably already dead when you came along the accident so there was nothing that you could have done to help revive her so please do not beat yourself over not stopping. Saddest thing is that it happened at this time of year.
2006-12-13 07:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
death is never a pleasant thing, i have stopped along the highway to assist a person, an older woman, she suffered from a brain hemorrhage while driving on the freeway, this happened about a year ago, my friend was with me and we were on our way to Pocotella Idaho for dinner when this happened in front of us. this woman passed out at the wheel and by the grace of God no one but ourselves were on the road. she rolled off of the freeway into the middle, and came to a stop, My girl friend called 911 to rescue her, which took over an hour to reach us, I had to break the rear window of the persons car in order to assist, she had gone into shook, had to revive her and keep her warm until the paramedics arrived. I was not able to get her name until calling the only hospital in the area. Her family got hold of me the next day, and I explained what I had witnessed. the woman eventually died a week later, but to this day, I still feel much like you. Live is very precious and sometimes we take if for granted. by witnessing these things I feel that it puts our selves more in touch with reality that we really are very fragile. Your feelings are very natural for a compassionate person.
2006-12-13 07:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by jh452004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man...i def. know this feeling a little too well!! this past July one of my old boyfriends (whom, by the way, was my first love) passed away in a wreck also. i was DEVASTATED!! i still am...i just dont cry as much...it was just a huge shock!! but when it happened and after i had finished cryin and the initial shock i was in i prayed to God to put peace in my heart about it and just to let me know everything will be OK. i still cry every now and then but just not as much as the days go by...just pray about it! you know they r soo much well off where they are now (hopefully) then they would be living here!! I'm SO sorry you had to witness that! Just know that you can't control anything it's all up to God.
2006-12-13 07:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
know that it wasnt your fault and maybe it was her time to go or things happen for a reason. But... i read in a recent article on a 10 year study on prayer. The article said that people who pray for other peoplen actually make their condition worse. I have a theory that you should only pray for yourself. I know it seems selfish but if people only pray for themself then they can make their lives the best they can be and that would be enough. Why not just focus on yourself and make things better for you.
2006-12-13 07:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by hbhh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean....my brothers are the WORLD to me and I would be absolutely crushed if they died suddenly...I had this horrible dream a few weeks ago about one of my brothers getting hit by a car and he died and no one stopped to help..but in my dream I saw his lifeless body and I woke up sobbing I saw him the next day I and just hugged him.
Life is short....I just prayed that he's going to be okay. Thats all you can do..tell her you love her and dont want anythign to happen. God forbid.
2006-12-13 10:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lucy_Goosy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime I see an accident like that it freaks me out, so I know what you mean, you must be shaken up, at least you prayed and felt better from that, prayer brings comfort and comfort will give you physical ease, I am an emotional roller coaster and when I see something like what you did I get totally flustered and nervous, and believing in God he will take care of your little sister he always comes threw for us and always protecting us from harm, God alone knows why he took her away from this earth we live in. May God Bless you and keep your sister safe.
2006-12-13 07:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by Brie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a very sweet heart. People like you are bound to be burdened with things like this. You did the right thing in praying. Just keep doing that and ask God to protect your sister. Things happen for a reason. Maybe this happened so that you would pray. God bless you.
2006-12-13 07:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jeanne G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you pray something like that happened to my cousin but it wasn't him driving the car and the truth is that you don't really get over that kind of thing and it hurts because he was going to graduate a few months later and my little sister had only met him once he was the best
2006-12-13 07:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Cami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋