How do you trust someone again when you know they have betrayed you in the past?

Answer 1

Honestly it takes ALOT of hard work on both parts.

My boyfriend cheated on me in the begining of our relationship. He was with his gf of 4 years and didn't know how to get out. Things started going down the drain after 3 years but this was his 1st logn term relationship and for a year he tried to make it better. Then One day I met him in the mall and we pretty much fell for eachother. Then when I found out he hadn't left her yet (it was around the holidays) I told her everything, let her see pix, even listen to voice mails from him and I left him flat. Long story short He fought his butt off to get me back and I decided to try once more. I understand what it is like to be in a LT relationship and be afraid to leave. He didnt want to hurt her or me andhe was torn!! So any way its 2 years and change later and I know I made the right decision. He is the most amazing man and he treats me like gold. He made me feel special and as much as that can be thought of as the defigning moment of our relationship... I regret nothing. I honeslty don't know if we would have lasted this long if he didn't have to prove to me how he cares for me and made me feel so special by working so hard to keep me. That is how I was able to find it in my self to forgive him. I will never forget tho... It did hurt but we are past it all.

So in truth it is completely possible, it just takes work, care, love, and hope. And when I say wor I mean alot of screaming, fighting, tears, and moments where you will wonder if it is all worth it. If both of you can get past that point, then it is 100% worth it.

Answer 2

It's a hard thing. I am actually going through the same thing in my marriage. The first thing is you have to forgive that person for whatever by acknowledging it with your mouth and then you need to sit and talk with them and tell them that you will not tolerate being made a fool out of when you are trying to trust them again. Don't hold anything against that person because you will never trust them. Even though it's hard to let go of the past if you want the relationship to continue and you believe that he/she is genuinely sorry then retrusting them is ok. Don't let them walk all over you though. You can't block the past betrayal out of your mind so it's natural to keep thinking on it until you have actually gotten over it. But just don't pester them about it. Good luck.

Answer 3

slowly

first you have to work towards forgiveness. you work through what hap pend and the drop it and leave it in the past. This can be difficult, but it is important. If you do not work through it then you can never get past it, then if you do not leave it in the past you can never move on.

Second, you have to start trusting little by little,

If they are sorry and making an effort then you know that they want to regain your trust.

betrayal of trust is somthing everyone encounters in there life. It is a challenge everyone must face. Do not let it control your life

Answer 4

Trust is one of the special things a person can get from others in this world cos it does not come easily. and in most cases, trust is hard to get especially when you do something wrong to another, particularly a loved one.but once you forgive, you should learn to forget as well, though i must say it is hard to forget something bad other than something good but it is better to try cos it brings peace.my answer right now is like a Q, you can either trust that person once again or simply forget about them. but b4 making any choices, try and put yourself in that person's shoes and think of what you would really want;to be forgiven and trusted once more or to be forgotten??

Answer 5

Oooh, that's a tough one. I found myself in the same boat, but was unable to extend the trust. I think it is possible, though, with enough time and some seriously open conversations. If you decide to give them another chance, make it just that - one more chance. If they burn you again do not waste another moment on them. But have faith - there ARE honest people out there who will not betray you.

Answer 6

You can trust anyone to be who they are. You know whether or not it is safe to give this person your heart or your secrets. Listen to the voice inside you. Someone who has betrayed your trust can be depended on to betray your trust, again.

Answer 7

First you'll need to adjust your expectations. People are human, frail, and sinful. Therefore, you need a realistic type of trust when you choose to trust someone. Trusting grows in relationships over time because as you spend time together with someone you build knowledge, understanding and authenticity. You gain insight into another person's character, needs, motivations and fears.

Unconditional love develops trust because as you express this kind of love towards someone generally he or she will sense your acceptance and feel comfortable to be vulnerable and honest about their feelings. Unconditional love actually builds self-esteem in others and alleviates their fears of rejection. People learn that they can be authentic with you about their feelings, opinions, and failures. The result is a growing trust in the other person. Not because that person is perfect but because that person is growing in honesty.

The only thing you or your loved one can promise is to grow, to seek God and ask Him for strength to change. Then you and your loved one will become more trustworthy in your relationships, though you will never be perfect.

Every relationship will suffer hurt. Thus, we all need to become better forgivers and confessors.

Answer 8

Time. You can learn to trust again with time. For me though, it would be too hard. I would just get out of the relationship. If you're stronger than me, I recommend counseling both with each other and alone. I also think you should go to Church and talk as often as possible.

Answer 9

Highly unlikely that I would. Betrayal is a relationship breaker.

Answer 10

Only if they beg and apologize all over the place...