me and my boyfriend were talking, and he wants to go and "be alone" tommorow, just me and him, we're not engaged or ne thing, but we're about to be graduates.. and i want to,,,("be alone" with him) but we're not even engaged,,, what should i do???
2006-12-13 07:00:22 · 15 answers · asked by TORI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
=) ok a lot of ppl will hate me for my answer but it's okay i'll tell you how i feel either way
i say hold off on sex... i know im not innocent or anywhere close to that but i still believe that sex's original purpose is to bond married couples... it's a gift... and yes patience will only make things better
i don't know if you're a virgin or not but i must say either way... if you haven't done it yet with your current boyfriend... don't start... you'll never be able to go back and say OK i want to STOP afterwards... it just doesn't work that way and i speak from experience...
you need to respect your body and your future husband who ever he may be... give a bit of yourself here and there and what do you have left for your husband? do you feel right... telling him in the future that you've had someone else before him?.. one... two... or more partners? it's really not fair to him and yourself... you body isn't a toy... and sex isn't just for pleasure... it's a gift to married couples... it's not just a simple act to satisfy desires but it's spiritual too... you have sex with someone.. you give them a part of you... a part of you that you can't get back...
i really... really advise you not to "be alone" with your boyfriend... ask yourself... if he really loves you... he'd wait... if you really love him... you'd save yourself for him too... there's no guarantee that he'll be your husband in the future as i have thought with my x... notice he's an EX-boyfriend...
be patient and wait... you're worth it
lyfe jennings- s.e.x.
2006-12-13 07:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you feel comfortable with this man and you want to be alone with him, then by all means do it. you must trust him a little so is it that you aren't engaged that bothers you because you know he wants more than to be alone. well my honest opion is be with him if you want to. engage or not will not change the moment only your status. enjoy life and the person who loves you
2006-12-13 15:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you feel? Do you WANT to be with him? If so, go ahead! You don't need to be engaged to "be alone". "Being alone " with him, it 'll make you to be engaged!
2006-12-13 15:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Elsa C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on exactly WHERE he wants ya go, to be alone with him. Will it be a purely fun time?....or is he planning an orgy?
2006-12-13 15:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go and do it so what if you two are not engaged just go for it
2006-12-13 15:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by JZ103 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think is right you never know what he wants to do but maybe he just wants to eat some ice cream or something. just to talk you know.
2006-12-13 15:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Oscar T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your decision, but if you want to have sex with him, take your time and bring plenty of condoms.
2006-12-13 15:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may want to make a big decision with u
2006-12-13 15:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by Tai Chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go "all the way" if you know what I mean. Take it easy, and if you're not sure, don't go!
2006-12-13 15:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by missbubblegum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you dont want to "be alone" with him, then refuse. If he loves you then he will understand.
2006-12-13 15:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋