Me and her have been together for 4 yrs out of nowhere she wants out of the relationship. I let her go. She comes back 2 wk later and wants back. After that she breaks up w/ me agian two wk later she calls me and wants help. I help her and we are still acting like a couple. She doesnt know what she wants. I ask if she wants back she says yes. I say lets take it slow. She agrees two days later i met up w/ her 4 lunch she say we seem more like friends. OK so i go up to her place later that night and i tell her how i feel, that i want to marry her and she in my eyes was the only girl 4 me. I also tell her i think she doesnt know what she wants. She agrees She says right now we are friends but more i dunno she says. We both decide we need our space from each other. The whole time we are flirting and laughing at each other as though nothing is wrong. We both 20 and 21 i can understand if she wants figure her self out be4 pursueing the relationship if that is what it is. What is going on?
2006-12-13 07:00:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think u already answered your own question! She is 20 years old and has NO IDEA in the world what she wants! She is terrified of losing you and not having you in her life but at the same time she wants to be free and explore. It sounds like u care about her deeply and truly love her but Id say for right now- give her space to figure out what it is she does want in life. She needs to set goals for herself for her happiness as well as yours. Let her know exactly how u feel and how deeply u love her but also let her know she cannot keep playing games with your heart. Let her know u r giving her space and once she decides what she wantas you MIGHT be there to still be in her life. Dont put your life on hold either. Their could be someone else right under your nose who is an even better match for you. Good luck!
2006-12-13 07:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation right now. I am in your g/f's shoes.
She is probably just genuinely confused. In my situation I love him, and he feels the same way about me as you do about her, but I have reservations about certain compatibility issues.
If I am looking at marrying someone I cannot ignore certain things that I have seen and so it makes it very confusing when you love that person but at the same time you may not be truly compatible in the end. Just b/c you love someone and they love you doesn't mean you are necessarily meant to be together or would be good together.
Of course I do not know her or what she is thinking specifically. My advice to you is to give her space and let her have time to really think about it. You deserve someone who wants to be with you wholeheartedly. That is why I broke it off with my b/f b/c I do not want to be unfair to him.
It might just work out the way you want it to, but don't wait around or count on it. Try to move on in the meantime the best you can. Good luck!
2006-12-13 07:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, darling this girl wants to still play and doesn't know how to tell you in a nice way. She's playing you. One day she wants you and the next day she want to be just friends. Yeah, you are right she doesn't know what she wants. So pull back and move on with your life. There's someone out there for you. I know it will be hard at first but you will be able to do it. You have your whole life ahead of you.
2006-12-13 07:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 08:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both are young and had a 4 year relationship. she might want to venture off and date others and dont know how to let this relationship go.
2006-12-13 07:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a little and let him act
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2006-12-13 07:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋