I'm not married yet and haven't experienced sex because I respect God as a christian. I plan to stay a virgin untill I'm married and I plan to enjoy sex anyway I want when I'm married. Can my God be so unfair, after enduring for so long, he would tell not to enjoy sex the way I want with my own wife?
2006-12-13 06:56:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If your wife says no, it's still no. Otherwise it's rape (a felony) and prison.
2006-12-13 06:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as both of you agree to something without pressure or that could cause physical or emotional harm, anything goes. Just be respectful and ask before trying anything new or unusual. Talk with each other before getting engaged about what is expected out of sex. If you can't talk about it, that doesn't bode well for marriage. Communication is key in a marriage whether it be about money, the kids (if there are any), or sex. And all of these matters and more should be discussed before engagements. Finding out your wife doesn't think sex is worth her time AFTER you're married can cause quite a few problems. Just remember to enjoy, relax, and respect. Have fun! It's a great gift from the Divine. :)
2006-12-13 07:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, from going to different churches and listening to many pastor's, I would say that anything goes but to a certain extent. I don't believe you should do what all is done in a porno just because you're married. I've heard different things so I'm not sure. I think you should ask your pastor about it. It really doesn't say in the bible but some people could argue that your only suppose to have sex in the "missionary" position. Good luck with it.
2006-12-13 07:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by cutelashon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a wonderful thing that you are waiting until you are married. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable between man and wife and as long as your wife is willing to do different things you want to do than that's great. But you should respect her wishes as well as her respecting yours. Honestly, I guess that question can only be answered the way you want by the woman you plan on marrying. Good luck to you and God Bless. Have a Merry Christmas.
2006-12-13 08:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by mcentiremadness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for waiting! Your future wife will be SO grateful! My husband and I waited and it was worth every second!!!!
Marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman AND God. He would not tell anything so as to take away enjoyment of sexual intercourse, but rather, what He says would allow you to enjoy sexual intimacy to the max. Sex is a gift from God. (Praise the Lord!) If you are interested in reading more about God's plan for sex and marriage, I'm listing some sites in my sources.
Thanks for reading and God bless!!!!
2006-12-13 07:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that once you're married you're welcome to enjoy sex any way. I just think it's important that it be what both of you wants and that it not cause injury. There are magazines like Marriage Partnership and Christianity Today that have articles for couples on sex and answer questions such as yours in more detail.
2006-12-13 07:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by Hope B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is supposed to be an act of love. Anything that you and your wife can both enjoy is fine. As long as it isn't doing harm to the body that God created of course.
The Bible does not forbid any act between consenting individuals who are married to eachother.
2006-12-13 06:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the bible it condemns anal sex a bit but other than that go for it, as long as it's consentual between you and your wife.
By the way, in the old testament, marriage was defined as a man and woman having sex... modern churches added the whole need for a judge to sign a paper clause.
2006-12-13 07:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are in the bonds (hmmm...wait...is that the right term here...yeah...I'll go with that) of Holy Matrimony, and if your wife is agreeable...it's all a grand buffet!
2006-12-13 07:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you respect her desires, and still exercise self-control (That part in Colossians is still written to married men such as we), then past that, no one can be "spiritual policemen" in your bedroom as to practices.
As far as my conscience is concerned, the only thing I have a severe problem with is anal sex, since it is so closely linked with an unnatural state, and with homosexuality. But there are other practices that my wife is not comfortable with, but I am. But I exercise the fruitage of the spirit (Galatians) and exhibit self control, and take her feelings into consideration as well, Sex is for *both* of our enjoyment. Not simply *me* or *my* way.
Oral sex would not be covered by pornea (Koine Greek for fornication), however sodomy is explicity condemed; and thus to be avoided by Christian married couples. So as to Oral sex, that is up to an individual's own Christian conscience. The only person that God destroyed for wasting his semen on the ground, was not due to it not transferring life. God himself explained why he put that man to death, in his own word:
"Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so when he went in to his brother's wife, he wasted his seed on the ground in order not to give offspring to his brother." - Genesis 38:9
So it was the illegal act of not performing brother in law marriage (Which meant all of his brothers possessions would have remained the sons, but not his. It was an act of selfishness, as he didn't want to have a son that could not act as a legal heir. In addition, the son born to him would have protected the mothers legal and civil interests and rights. It was a totally selfless act, and Onan refused to perform it)
2006-12-13 07:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by raVar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋