Wow, so, my child's retarded?

Question

My child recently did something not very many children would do. She chews alot of stuff but for teething that's normal and we do discourage it and replace items with propor chew toys.
I explained to a few people about the incident and now i'm branded as a unfit mother, was told my child is retarded and autistic because she might throw a tantrum at times oh and, i need therapy with her because her head isn't right. What she did was an accident and she is perfectly fine from it after seeing doctors etc immediatly. So my question is, have your kids ever done some things that have you scratching your head and thinking what on earth possessed them to do such a thing? And why is it that when a child acts up people are very quick to stand up and say they need medication, that they have brain disfunctions. My child is so so sweet and rarely throws fits, only when she has stomach upset from an internal issue but this has just thrown me completely off at how judgmental people can be!

I didn't call her retarded, that was the question i was asking from what was said to me - "you're child's retarded" so it's like my response is "what, my child's retarded" i know she's not!!! trust me i'm not calling her that it was a i can't even say what i want to say....it's like that was said to me, so i'm basically mad and i'm not typing what i really want to say here

I'm not calling her retarded i'm so sorry - i don't type what i want to say too well....i wish i could start this again basically from what she did and throwing a tantrum i was told she's retarded....i gasped, what, my shild's reatrded? i'm sorry this sounded bad and like it was coming from me but by far no, my child is bright and darling, i cuold have chosen a better header, but i coulodn't think of one, i'm just mad and upset that someone would call my child such hateful things for having an accident i tended to quickly and for having tantrums....i'm not calling her retarded, i hate that word, i despise that word, that's just what was said to me, and i question that with that crazy, these people do have kids...which is why i'm shocked at the names my child has been called....i was just wondering if other parent's kids do things that crazy but ""normal""

Answer 1

You talk about people being judgemental and yet you use the term "retarded" Hmmmm Whats that about?
You still used the term "retarded" instead of mentally challenged or delayed.

Answer 2

I guess the Apple doesn't fall far from the tree! Its pretty judgmental to use the word Retard regardless of if that's what the said or not. Retarded is a pretty harsh word and why are you asking without giving all the details?? How can someone give you advice if they don't know what your child did. Also, children are very bright and smart just because their verbal communication isn't there doesn't mean they don't know what they are doing and somethings that happen many kids don't do. Most kids like adults do things once and learn from the mistake if its a repetitive occurrence then you have a problem. Just because a kid is sweet and doesn't throw fits doesn't mean that there is nothing wrong with him/her. Be more assertive in your question and less judgmental and you would get the answers you are looking for. I don't understand what this question was" You fishing for support or You ranting in a judgmental condescending way on other parents?"

Answer 3

Didnt you ever listen or analyze lepers? they were ostracized by using society bec they were contagious. or so concept. actual ailments aren't to any extent further a reason to placed someone to lack of life. You communicate of retardation although this is not a "burden" on a kin. many have efficient lives and are self reliant. what "centers" do you imagine we've? particular classes? you ought to be questioning those adult males are bodily handicapped and vegetables. there are a kind of courses as we communicate and that i'm constructive in historic circumstances households all worked at the same time for the different's best wellbeing..(.wow thats so no longer as we communicate! )mentally challenged human beings are everywhere. the position are you? and the position would you opt to be "despatched" if it became you? taxpayer residences? get some training chum. psychological retardation isn't actual retardation. that are you asking about?

Answer 4

In today's microwave society everyone thinks a pill will fix anything including normal toddler behavior. Instead of thinking your child is retarded or autistic simple answers to chewing on abnormal objects and throwing fits are what the people who are judging you and should have given you advice on a simple thing called pica. Some children and adults eat none food objects as a result of a vitamin deficiency and it can lead to bad behavior such as tantrums. Or it can be something as simple as your brother when he was three sticking a rock up his nose. Don't worry do your best and love your child no matter what.

Answer 5

hey, don't stress about everyone jumping you about your word usage. It is really hard to type out questions...especially when you are upset.

But, about your question. It is really funny to me how other people (with or without kids) are so quick to judge others children and parenting techniques. My kids are good, normal little tots. But it never fails when they decide to "throw down" it is always in front of a crowd or my in laws! And my kids have done some things and I think, "Holy Crap, where is THAT coming from?" So don't stress about others and their opinions. You DO know the saying about opinions, right?

I am a very passive person, but I have found since having my kids there is a "Momma Bear" in me and when someone says something..that bear comes out. So the next time something is said. SPEAK UP! don't explain, don't give excuses, just let who ever it is know that you are doing what you think is best, and that your child is a bright and normal tot. And you really didn't ask them for their opinion to begin with.

Remember...A LITTLE BACKBONE GOES ALONG WAY!

Hope this makes you feel better...good luck!

Answer 6

I understood your headline as soon as I read the explanation--sometimes it's hard to gets the sarcasm across on the board--don't beat yourself up over that.

Of course, I'm sure you know deep down inside that yes, kids do some pretty crazy and stupid things for no reason whatsoever.

Ever notice how the diagnosis for ADHD has gone up and the number of active and good parents has fallen....there's a correlation.

You sound like a great mom...it's too bad that we can't always tell funny stories about our kids without being judged by people who shouldn't be judging us in the first place.

Sometimes, for no reason at all, my 15 month old will have a fit (for no apparent reason) and start rolling around on the floor, hitting things and kicking his legs.......i don't laugh or respond--but it is a FUNNY sight--and he's completely NORMAL.

Answer 7

Generally people as a whole have the tendency to pass judgments on situations that they know nothing about. It is usually baed off of perception and not true insight. Every child in life has done something completly off the wall, but that does not make mental. Children are children. Whose to say that children who make mud pies, eat glue, can't sit still or chew paper, have issues. Can they not just be children. There are some adults who are considered to be saine, but do come completely off the wall stuff. Does that make them any more different than young children. Adults have taken the idea of medicating children to the extreme. What it seems is that we want the future leaders of our country to drug addicts

Answer 8

So what did she do out of the ordinary? chewed on something, how old is she, and infant doesnt discriminate, I dont think anything is wrong with her, strangers cant make that decision for you, only a docter. Oh and yes my kids and a lot of my friends kids do strange things all the time, you shouldn't have to explain anything to anyone, I just say, "shes wierd what can I say?" or shrug and go about my business. If you reallly think somethings wrong then talk to your pediatrician, some of them even have great stories of kids doing off the wall things and being perfectly normal to put your mind at ease. Good luck.

Answer 9

First of all never use the term "retarded" as there as lots of children out there with difficulties and they are not retarded at all. I have 2 children that have special needs and if anyone ever told me they were retarded they would not be standing long.
secondly every child goes through a stage where they have temper tantrums and that is all part of growing up so no it is not a problem and no your child should not need medication unless your doctor feels that there is more going in with your child other than the temper tantrums

Good Luck with you child and take care

Answer 10

I guess I'm not sure what the original incident was, but kids/babies put stuff in their mouths, ears, noses and every other place they can find all the time! It's not unfit parenting! My son(18mo)still feels everything with his tongue before deciding what to do with it, that's weird but not "retarded." It drives me crazy when people throw the word "Autistic" around and they've no clue what they're talking about! Don't worry, you're gonna get a lot of "experts" on child rearing, but no one knows what's best for your kid other than you!

Answer 11

Way too many people are into what is the quick fix...stick'm on medication. Instead of spending a little time w/ their children, and I don't mean sitting them in front of the boob tube. I mean spending quality time doing activities w/ their children. Its just another way for people to not take responsibility for their responsibilities. Its a "all about me" society...they forget that once you have children its not about you anymore. Not to mention kids just do goofy, uncharacteristic things sometimes...I think its a way for them to test the waters to see how much they can get away with. Or they are at a growth point in which they are maturing to the next stage and don't know exactly how to handle it.