I just starting dating an old friend from High School.. He was open and honest with me about how he has been using drugs for the past several years but recently quit cause he ODed and almost got killed. He still talks about it but after talking about it fear & tears start to fill his eyes. How do I help him get over this pain?
2006-12-13 06:53:44 · 5 answers · asked by movu101779 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Rosabelle - I can't email you cause you don't have that as an option on your profile. Please email me so I can contact you back.
2006-12-13 07:07:42 · update #1
I won't give up on him. He did quit. He gets upset talking about how things were. But being able to talk about it helps him get it out. I just want to know what else I can do. I feel just being there is not enough. He does not have support of parents cause his mom does drugs.
2006-12-13 07:37:38 · update #2
My boyfriend used to do a lot of drugs as well. His mother did cocaine and therefore he has an inborn addiction to it.
Right now, he still smokes daily and smokes pot about once a week and drinks on weekends.
From my experience, all you can really do is be there for him. My boyfriend has told me that this is the best thing I do. I still want to help him with everything and I always want to do things for him to make him feel better. It's funny, though -- I think in life we become happier from seeing that others around us are doing well or seeing that we make them happy. My recommendation is to be happy around him. Seeing you happy will make him happy.
If you want to talk more, feel free to e-mail me.
2006-12-13 07:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rosabelle Winters 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My highschool sweetheart died almost 8 years ago on a OD. I live in a country were if you have a drug problem , you don't have access to any treaments. He was "commited" to a psychiatric hospital and the treament was antidepresives, because his family an important one didn't undersatnd his problem they thpought he was "crazy" so with no knowledge about drugs they sent him in this hospital. Here he was with a new group a of friends so under medical supervision he passed form light drugs to heroine. They released him and the next day he stole my money and my brother's money and bought the drugs and OD. your boyfriend is very lucky, here parents still belive that drugs are not a problem. I still have friends who are using, and they lie every month to their parents, to me that are going to quit, but they don't. You will not help him if you try to understand him you never will if you aren't using and I hope you will never do, you have to sent him to a psychiatrist so he can talk about his addiction and fears, you can't help him by being nice and sweet to him. you have to convince him to start a programme for his drug addiction and terapy for his fears. I belive he might be afraid of death which is a good start for the terapy . So start from there and convince him that drugs are a quick way to die, so if he is afraid of death and disease he has to quit. You have to be convinced that he is what you really want because you can not quit on him if he decides to stay clean, you have to commit. It's a lot and the work is so hard that even parents refuse or give up. Good luck, Melly.
2006-12-13 07:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by melizanda26 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't.
His pain will help keep him clean and sober; it's a good thing. Addiction is a disease that stays with a person for life. An addict is in the greatest danger of relapse when he or she forgets how bad things were. Maybe you should encourage him to attend NA meetings. Eventually, he may wish to volunteer by sponsoring others. This might help him remember why he's clean in the first place-- and give him a sense of accomplishment by helping others.
2006-12-13 06:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by webguru1311 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a " past " drug addiction. If this is his first time quitting he will probably relapse, probably more than once. If he is serious about quitting, he'll need help. If he's not...RUN!!!! Unless you are a very strong person, then by all means , stand by your man!!! I'm going on 7 years with my boyfriend,(his addiction is alcohol) he's been sober for 3...WISH I WOULD HAVE RUN!!!!!!!!!! (Though I don't think he could have done it without me).
2006-12-13 07:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by billie233129 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to try a natural , legally and secure way to get high
herbal smoke shop will help
2006-12-13 06:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋