Hey everyone. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two months. We spend a lot of time together. Within the past three weeks he's been spending a lot of nights with me as he is helping me through the death of my father. He has accumulated a nice amount of clothing and personal items in my house. I'm not complaining and love having him over. He still has his own apartment. How do I ask him about his status in my apartment without sounding like a nag. He comes home to me every night. He might as well start paying rent.
2006-12-13 06:52:55 · 17 answers · asked by Heaven26 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, make it inot a joke. see how he answers it.he might be trying to just leave stuff around u know 2 mark his boundries
2006-12-13 06:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Two months certainly isn't enough time to live together... You don't really have any idea who this is yet.
2) Sorry to hear about your DAD... Understand how traumatic an experience that is... you are not yourself because of it... Be very aware... you are vulnerable now...
3) Just tell him you need some space and let him not stay there more than a couple of nights per week... And leaving your stuff here is not o.k. You need to bring what you need and take it with you when you go... Thank you for understanding...
4) If he makes a big deal over that and obviously doesn't honor your feelings... then my friend, this is definitely not the guy for you... Furthermore... He may be a predator...
2006-12-13 15:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wondering whether someone is living in your home, and you're worried about sounding like a nag? That's the craziest thing I ever heard. Why don't you talk to him about the status of your relationship. Do you want him living with you? You're only dating 2 months! That's fast to be living with someone. Take some control over your life. Life is not something that happens to you-not if you do it right.
2006-12-13 14:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow well check this out when the first thing that comes to your mind about your loved one is whether or not he should pay it kinda sounds like you're and interested type a chick because I mean you've got to understand when you said he was helping you out with your emotional dilemma which by the way i'm very sorry for but anyways i think you should give your relationship a little bit more time because you are moving to quick cuz memba it's easier to get someone in than to get someone out
2006-12-13 14:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by turtle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun you should be very happy, alot of women would give anything to be in your shoes right now, if he is moving in secretely then why does he still have his apartment, normally a boyfriend has stuff at his girlfriends and the girlfriend has stuff at her boyfriends, its called a relationship he is hoping two months turns into two years, I think that is great, if you want to share rent then get a room mate, you ask your boyfriend who already is paying rent for his own apartment to help you pay rent for yours is very unfair. and its your blessing that he is helping you through your fathers passing, Condolences to you.
2006-12-13 15:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Brie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you pretty much got over with your father's passing away. I am thinking so because you feel that your B F might be moving in. Just show that explicitly. Go out over the weekends. Dont talk about what happend with your dad. If he has no intentions to move in, he will pack up and go home. other wise, you know he is trying to get in and he might need to be told " I need some space "
2006-12-13 14:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by skinfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. You've only been dating 2 months. He may just really be concerned about helping you through this difficult time of bereavement. Don't rush things. Let him maintain his own place, and if you enjoy his company, allow him to continue to stay over regularly. Now on the other hand, you mentioned "secretly" moving in with you. If he hasn't discussed it with you and you feel he's moving in, beware. He may be a mooch. Either way, good luck.
2006-12-13 14:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by godiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him to move in with you. Say, "Hey, you're here almost every night anyway, we could save on rent if you just move in here and get rid of your place." If he's not ready for that, and/or doesn't want to start paying rent, then you'll find out.
2006-12-13 14:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tricky cause he might just be staying over there b.c of ur dad. Just say you are doing something else tonight and when the next day rolls over there ask if you can go over to his place. Just say you want to get out of your house and then Just say you want some nights alone. He should understand, sorry about your loss too.
2006-12-13 14:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by gstolard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to move in then ask him to, then he can get rid of his apartment and pay some of your bills,
If not sit him down and let him know you are ready for some alone time, remember to thank him for helping you over a difficult time, and make sure he understands that you still want to spend time with him, you are just not ready for a full time commitment ...yet.
good luck and sorry about your dad.
2006-12-13 14:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by jrnwy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he could be slowly trying to move in but are you ready for that and you do need to talk with him about it if thats the case or he could just be being nice since you have just lost someone in your family. Just sit and talk with him. If you have a good relationship it wouldnt be called nagging. It would be communication.
2006-12-13 14:55:26 · answer #11 · answered by Believe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋