Well, he is almost 2. But should he be doing this? My brother does not want him to play with it cause it's way too girly but his wife insists its okay. Are they training him to be a sissy man?
2006-12-13 06:45:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It shows that he's nurturing and caring. I agree with the post ahead of mine that mentioned outdated gender roles. NO! He isn't being trained to be a sissy man. What happens if he turns out to be a pediatrician -- or god forbid, a really good dad? You guys need to get your heads on straight and LET THE TWO YEAR OLD BE A TWO YEAR OLD!!!!!!
2006-12-13 06:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
No the child is normal. He will stop with the baby doll stuff @ 4-5 years old. Maybe even 6 yrs. It is not being a sissy. He is a baby. Tell your brother this. It helps the child to be a child and take care of little babies or animals.
I am sure your brother is not a sissy because he kisses his little boy baby good night is he? Of course not. He woul;d be considered a good father who loves his child. Same consept for the little boy.
Try that on him. He wants a normal kid right? Then let the kid be a kid. He'll be fine. You have a smart sister-in-law, by the way.
Hope this helps
2006-12-13 14:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by shellie t 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My nephew absolutely needed a baby Dora for Christmas when he was 3, and he carried it around everywhere and loved it, just like his older sister. I don't think it did him any harm, and it's important to show him its ok to show affection for others. Now is is 4 and doesn't carry it around any more. There was even a baby in the house, and he didn't want to hold her or kiss her, he didn't know what to do with her!
Keep in mind that psychologically, he is still very likely to do stereotypical boy behaviours by the time he is in kindergarden, regardless of what he is doing now or what his parents tell him. By this age, kids act the most "boy" or "girl"-like that they ever will in life.
2006-12-13 16:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids are in in their 20 s now and are separated by 18 month of age, when my daughter was born my mom gave my son a doll to "take care of" so that he become accustomed to be gentle with his sister. Mom was right and it did work. he grew up and lost the doll and turned out as normal as any 22 year old that there is now a days. Don't worry it is a good idea in the long run. It's not a big deal just don't remind him when he is 22!
2006-12-13 15:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by daffy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He will grow up to be a better man/husband/father than your brother sounds. My son had stuffed animals, played with his sister's toys too. He is an extremely loving father/husband. No toy will not make him a sissy man - especially when he is only 2 for God's sake!!
2006-12-13 14:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by GP 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is good for little boys to play with baby dolls. It teaches them how to be sweet and love a baby for when he has one of his own. He will not be a sissy because he plays with babys. I would let the boy be and try to talk some since into the dad
2006-12-13 14:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by JustAsk'n 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
A child's development is defined my MUCH MORE than what toys they play with or are provided with. Giving a boy a toy which is socially defined as a "girl" toy will not "turn them gay" but will satisfy their curiosity, whereas denying them the toy could prolong or evolve their fixation with it.
When children first discover their genitals, they tend to touch them a lot, which horrifies most parents. Psychologists assert that you should not interfere or stop them, as it can give them shame/inadequacy issues or a sexual fixation later in life. This would be a parallel situation. It's entirely normal for 2-3 year olds to be into babies, it's a part of stretching their maturity muscles.
2006-12-13 20:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Geoff S. 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's ok, toddlers have an obsession with babys'. I think it's because they just went through that stage and like to pretend they're taking care of one themselves. I would be more concerned if he was 5 or 6. There are alos boy gender dolls you can buy. Maybe someone should get him one if they are concerned.
2006-12-13 17:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother and his wife should consider there son to be normal. They shouldn't be concerned about him playing with a "baby", unless he is doing creepy or inappropriate things to the "baby". My son is always playing with "babies", he carries them around, he pats their backs, he rocks them to sleep, and he gives them a bottle. He mirrors all of the things that I do for him. I look at it as a way for my son to show compassion. And reassurance that I am teaching him the right values as a parent.
With children that young, the only feedback parents get about what they are teaching their children, is what they see their children do to others and their toys. Not to mention, he is way too young to understand the significance of the difference between girls and boys.
2006-12-13 15:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Meesh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is normal. I have 3 boys and when i was pregnant for my middle son we gave my oldest son a baby doll to take care of. Just to get use to the baby coming. He loved that baby doll and played with it for along time (he was 3 at the time) he is now 16 and he is very much a boy.
2006-12-13 14:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Paige 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋