Age Difference.........?

Question

I am female and 43yrs. and my boyfriend is 28yrs. Is the age difference a bad thing. We are really compatable. What are your thoughts on this?

Answer 1

if you're compatible, who cares what anyone else thinks!

He's old enough to vouch for himself....you go girl!

Answer 2

You are both adults. The only thing that should be considered is the future, kids, careers and the like. It is obvious you have a problem of some sort or you would not be asking for advice. I am 43 also, but male and I would have a difficult time getting serious with a 28 yr old woman. I was 40 and tried dating a 24 yr old. It was great at first, great ego builder. But in time I decided she was not on the same maturity level and there were little things I would have to explain such as tv shows that don't come on any more. Also since I am the major bread winner in my household marrying a woman that much younger than I would mean I could not retire at 60 like I plan. She would not have any insurance after I retired and I WILL NOT work until I am 75 waiting for her to get old emough for medicare. Sounds harsh but it is realistic.

Answer 3

I subscribe tot he "half your age plus seven" rule. It's normally for teenagers, but I think it works throughout your life.
If someone younger than you is more than half your age plus seven years, then it's generally within the reasonable dating parameters.

So you--
43/2 = 21 1/2 + 7 = 28.
This is fine on the borderline.

The purpose of the rule isn't just an arbitrary number, but basically encapsulates the idea that you want to look for someone within the parameters of where you are in life. A 16 year old shouldn't be dating a 21 year old (1/2 your age plus 7 = 17 1/2 or 18) because the 21 year old is definitely in a different place socially, economically, and physically than the 16 year old. A 30 year old shouldn't be dating an 18 year old (1/2 your age plus seven = 22) beause the 30 year old is mature, ready to have a family, and has world experience behind him, and the 18 year old is just experiencing the world, doesn't need to be tied down, etc.

As a 28 year old guy, this person probably has sowed his wild oats, but yet is still youthful. That's probably what you like in him. And he's mature enough to understand what a relatinship with you means. So it's certainly OK. (And once again the 1/2 your age plus seven rule wins!)

Answer 4

It seems to me that he is at a mature enough age to know exactly what he wants. Every man doesn't prefer a younger woman and vise versa but if you and he are happy, then it should be ok. Personally I think it's cool when a older woman can hold down a younger man. Me and my husband are 11 years difference with me being a youthful 23 and he a youthful 34 but we are ok with it and each other. So just be happy and relax and know that age is only a number.

Answer 5

I don't think age really matters, as long as the two people are on the same level and want the same things.

If you both want a serious relationship, or you both just want a fling, everything should work out just fine reguardless of your age difference.

Sounds like a lucky guy to me, I'm 26 and I LOVE older women.

Answer 6

Age doesnt matter, I know I have dated older women and every so often it just hits me that I wont be able to grow old with them. But I usually let it go and enjoy the time I have, it turns out being more of the older person's issue than the younger.

Answer 7

I am 42 and she is 25 and we have been together over a year. We get along GREAT. I really Love her and I know she feels the same. If it feels good go for it and forget anyone who has anything bad to say about.

Take it from someone with experience. I know what its like

Answer 8

=) love should not be defined by numbers but rather by emotions and understanding

the only issue with the age difference is that at his age and at yours you guys are separated by the generations meaning you live in a different world then he does... your views can be different.. your values can be different... and it's harder to be able to understand where the other person is coming from....

if you don't think that's a problem and you believe that he's mature enough for you and that you're young spirited enough... then =) there's no problem at all

society can point fingers and whisper amongst themselves but this about you guys... about your happiness... not theirs if you believe that you truly love him and that he truly loves you back... and that you 2 are great and happy together... y would your age matter at all?

just don't be surprised w/ the hardships that you'll encounter and be ready for it... if love is truly present =) i know you'll see it through together

Answer 9

Age ain't nothing but a number! Its great that you've found someone that has so much in common with you, and the both of you are very attracted to one another! Don't let age bother you, because if you're willing to accept him for who he is, even though he's 28-years-old, then go for it!

Answer 10

Age is just a number - I'm 40 and dated a 24 yr old for a while (currently involved w/a 31 yr old). Don't worry about it - if both of you don't care that is all that matters.

Answer 11

Real love hasnt come my way yet.. and i know how important finding the right person is.. If he is the right guy for you , u will know. Dont give up , make it work as far as it can.Its only about what you think.If he really is the one then everything will work out and you will find him with you at the end of the day !!!