I can't get over a death..now I am paranoid about losing everyone! Help?

Question

I lost my true love and can't get over it! I think I am crazy, I am looking to the internet for help like God is going to e-mail me or something..???? Any help for someone who is about to lose all composer?

Answer 1

I answered another question for someone that also had lost someone close to them. I could only assume that my words helped the asker (they picked it as best), but they never commented on what they really thought. The only thing I can do is give you my point of view on things and tell you what I told them in the hopes that it will help you.

*[The only thing you can do is remember those you have lost, but don't dwell on them. We carry a piece of spirit from everyone we will ever know and everyone we meet will carry a piece of our spirit. It is what provides a sense of immortality as we pass from the physical world we continue on in the hearts and minds of those we leave behind.

If you imagine your lost loved ones as being in heaven/hell than they are truely lost to you for you have chosen to forget who they are and assume they are somewhere far from you. If you think of only the good/bad things they have done than you cling to an illusion and ignore the truth of who they are. You must remember not only the things you liked about them, but the things you hated about them too. By sharing memories you add to the spirit of your friend for all that knew them, for each piece you all possess provides a better picture of who your friend truely was.

Continue to live your life, and when you come across something that reminds you of your friend then think of them, remember those events of the past and let the spirit of your friend live again in your heart and mind. Instead of feeling sad, think about what they might say, for the moment you remember them they are there with you once again in your life.]*

I can only hope that my words help and that you will gain a sense of peace. Just so you know... I'm not a God, and I am not a servant or tool of any God. I'm just a normal guy that sees the universe differnently from most, making an effort to discovers it's truths, and trying to figure things out... just like you.

Answer 2

When you think like that, do meditation. Just concentrate on saying "Om" . Sure it will give you peace and happy in your heart and mind. God is inside you, If you relise it, you will be more happy. Try reliseing. The first step is to meditate. So meditate and concentrate. Sure you will get a way to live a life.When you pray god, don;t expect. Instead show your affection and your love towards him.

Since you have expected in your love, when you lose, you feel bad and take the worst decision. Expectation is the worst to make the relationship with anyone.It will spoil you. That is why, you are like this now. So change man. Get on life, meditate and enjoy life.

True love is both have to understand eachother, In your case, the other person have not understand you. So it is best that person is away. What happens if that person cheat on you after marriage? It would be the worst, more than the sutiation which is now you are. So whatever happens is for your good. Sure you might know that soon. Worrying about this is going to spoil your health. Do you want to spoil yourself, coz of a person who did not understand you?Don't you think it is foolishness.

You can change yourself. belive on you.So hope you will get on jollylife. Wish you the best.

Answer 3

You are on one of your quests right now. Your job is to face and get over the fear of loss/abandonment. Death is not the end and just because you can't see someone doesn't mean they aren't with you. I know it sounds cliche, but take it from someone who lost 3 of her closest relatives within a year - they are with you, and God is with you - all the time. All you have to do is be open enough and not completely clouded by your own grief to feel them there.

To help get over your pain I would put in a few real tear-jearker movies and cry it out one weekend. Then, when you are ready to go on, do so knowing that you can never really loose a loved one to death. They will always be there waiting for you to complete your journey and return Home.

I pray that you are surrounded by the white light of the Holy Spirit, safely accompanied by God, your angels and your loved ones. You'll get through it. I promise.

Answer 4

This is definitely a tough time to be without this "true love", isn't it?? I know that you feel like there is nothing left to do. Call up some of your older friends and ask them to come over for a movie nite. Choose a GOOD COMEDY that you will enjoy seeing. Next, plan the snacks... Nothing too greasy or filling. Popcorn and corn snacks are always fun. You can add a cheese sauce and maybe a few vegetables (RAW). After the movie, plan to play cards or Monopoly something FUN. To top it off, have some ice cream with nuts or chocolate. Make sure that everybody brings a funny story that will not hurt anyone's feelings and be funny for the rest of you to hear and share them! Make a fun Friday or Saturday evening out of it! Last, but not least, Have a HaPpY HoLiDaY and SpEnD It WiTh FaMiLy!!
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Answer 5

I'm so sorry that had to happen to you. that's horrible. No one should go through that. I don't know what I would do if I lost someone dear to me and I pray i do not have to face it anytime soon. I will pray for,

cause nothing I say will ease the pain it takes time. Allot of time and healing. You can join a Church and try the Youth Group and start some healing process at Church. Lord in Heaven I ask that you help this soul through these trying times and fill his heart with joy once more. In Jesus name Amen. God Bless you dear and I hope you get all the support you need. God Bless

Answer 6

Not an email from God, but from His Word...smile. God, from the beginning, never intended man to die...we were to live forever on a Paradise Earth. That's why Death is such an enemy, as the Bible says (1 Cor 15:26). The good news is, God promised a resurrection, of both the righteous and the unrighteous (Acts 24:15.) So, you can take comfort in that. I know it doesn't bring your loved one back right now, which is what you want, but at least you have hope for the future...

Answer 7

you actually lost nothing .you can loose only such things that you created and , you owned or brought with yoiu while you came into this world . you brought nothing into this world when you came.not even any thought in your mind . so you have no right to take anything with you while you go .Not even your name is yours . it is some temporary tag that your parents gave you when yo came , much like the tag tha a sheppard fixes on the ear of a sheep . when you go , you forget even this name . if you had any memory oif anything , you would not be qualified to go. A man is said to be dead onlky if he looses all his consciousness . So we own nothing here and we have no right to anything on this earth.
Furthere nothng in this world can really die .The body of any living creature being made of mater , it is never destroyed . Mater is indestructible and it changes from one to another. if you examine the atom of any element in the tissue of a dead person under an electron microscope , you will find the lectron in the atom of any element taken from the dead body is as acive as he electron of he same element elsewhere .The so-called soul is said to be gone .it is jus a ceassation of the activities by the organs made of the elements of body that is called death. The sould beoing one that is depended on the body , ceases to function when even some trace eleelments are gone or unavilalable for the body.or the bodily organs are affected by invisible microbes or some such casuse.
Thre is absolutely nothing to worry as change is th order of the universe and Gods that descended on this earth themselves had to cease to exist .We ar here like a visitor in the siting on a bench in a public park.We do nt own the bench and we shall go by the time the park is closed for the day.We do not regret to leave the park . when it is time to close the park.We ar ticket less traellers and we do not know when we shll be made to alight down the vehicle and when we will be asked to leave . The king and the soldier , the rich and the poor and learned and the illiterate , the good and the bad , the saint and the sinner , will all go and they do not know when .We do not cease to exist and we do not continue to exis even after death in the same form. We only get recycled abd what is recycled would not be the same thing .The sky we see above our head is not the one that we saw yester day ,.never will we be able to see the same sky for the second time in our life .The waters we see flowing in the river is not the same that we saw yesterday. So there is no need for anyone to feel sorry for loosing this present life .Once we undersatnsd the nature of this world , we shall hav enothing to worry. It is the same typoe of worry that Arjuna had in the battle field .krishna cleared all his doubts about the birth and death of all the creatures , and beings , animate and inanimate and teaches him of he nature of the universe and clears all his doubts in regard to the hindu philosopy.Just read it and know more about life , its nature and course . you shall have notihing to worry about .

Answer 8

Let me explain the life in Cricket language. The God is like the 11th player who is always not out. We human beings are like 1 to 10 players some do good score hit a century and then out and some are out without scoring anything like infant death at the time of delivery. Some hit a wrong ball get caught in the slips like accidental death but ultimately every batsman has to be out. May be your wife is not a good bats woman could not bat for a long time. My dear this life, better deal with it.

Answer 9

Have you sat in prayer? Do you believe in the Lord Jesus? Do you rely on God's strength and comfort? That is where it starts...you need to know that it is only through Jesus Christ you can have absolute peace about this. Was this person saved? If this person was saved, that should give you a great peace...and I will pray for you- that the Lord would draw you to Him through this time...

Romans 15:13
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

Job 22:21
"Agree with God, and be at peace;thereby good will come to you.

Answer 10

When you go to bed tonight, pray to the Lord to have mercy on you. Ask Jesus to restore your heart and mind. Only Jesus gives the peace that surpasses all understanding. You need His peace right now. Keep begging Him every day in prayer to help you trust Him so peace can come into your life. There is nothing wrong by asking Him to help you understand and asking Him to take the emptiness from you. Take it all to Him. Lay all your hurt upon Him and He will give you rest. Ask Jesus to send to you the Holy Spirit, because the Holy Spirit is the comforter. Do not let up until He helps you. He commands that we seek Him. Seek Him day and night until He takes this overwhelming feeling from you. Most of the time, Jesus is the only answer!