2006-12-13 06:19:35 · 18 answers · asked by Kat.G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Walk away from her and let her have her tantrum. If in public, announce it's time to go home and proceed to do so. If you don't stop it now, she'll pull this cr@p on you until she goes to college ... and maybe longer.
2006-12-13 06:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Roberta 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm just now putting a stop to the fits ... my daughter is 4 and when she whines or throws her body down on the ground and screams for sh*t I smack her butt hard - quick and to the point ... and tell her everytime she throws a fit - she'll get another one ... it only took a month or two for her to really understand what she was doing is wrong ... if you're in the store - and they throw a fit for something - leave - period ... it's hard but it works ... the main thing is following through with the punishment - don't just say - if you do that again you'll get a spankin - or - do you want a spankin ... don't give them a choice - flat out smack their bottom ... it was hard for me to do that since my parents pretty much beat my brothers & spanked me ... I didn't want her to be scared of me - but yet - if you don't let them know who's boss - they'll keep pushing those buttons until you snap - and that's not the best time to be hitting children ... I'm a lot firmer now - and she knows it ... I can see a huge difference in her attitude at the store, before bedtime pretty much - it feels like I'm in charge again ... she's cleaning her room - she's listening to every word I say ... so when you say no - mean it ... take the t.v. away, take toys out of the room, put them in the corner ... those all work too ... remember follow through ... lol ... good luck hope you get some good ideas ... !
2006-12-13 06:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to tell you, but if she does that at 2, it's because you let her did it without stopping her before. If she's really scary at home, you can try the cold shower or little spanking until she learned to respect your word. Not to make her suffer, just that she learn to hear your voice whenever you tell her something next time.
Whenever she tries it in public, promise her the same thing once she'll be back at home. Be prepared, she'll test you, but the day you'll stick to your promise and don't let go, she never do it again. Surprisingly, she'll love you more because you're doing well your parent's job. Kids are more intelligent and just learn faster than we think... And so they use that to manipulate you too...
That's our job as parents to put good limits they can stick on. If you let her go, for her it's just like walking on ice or in water. Funny at the begining, it's seems like "liberty" and free will, but you learn quickly that a kid can't go far that way. Seems maybe more "painful", but the soonest you figure how to do this, the less you (and your girl) suffer on the long term.
2006-12-13 06:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Julie C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I can't believe some of the answers. Throwing a fit or pouring a glass of water borders on childish behavoir. If she is throwing a fit when she can't have something that tells me she gets entirely way to much. You should let her forget that she needs anything by giving her nothing.. for a good long time. Kids do not need something everytime they walk into a store. What they need is: food, water, un-conditional love, guidence, education, exercise, laughter, etc.. you get the hint.. if you quit giving and giving in the behavior will stop.. you get to be the boss.
2006-12-13 06:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by kimmy 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
don't enable the behavior. The next time they do this, you must remove them immediately from wherever you are. If you're out, for example, at the store and your kid throws a fit, immediate drop everything, leave your cart, put the kid in the car and drive straight home to a time out. Sounds a little extreme and is a pain in the butt at first, but they'll catch on soon enough and be much more pleasant. I can't tell you how many times my mom pulled the "I swear to God I'll turn this car right around" line. but it worked! If they are acting out at home, ignore them. Only praise good behavior. Let them see you praise others for good behavior as well.
2006-12-13 06:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by should be working 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
mine almost stopped doing that.it wans't that bad but it happend once in a while.
i don't thing there is much you can do...did you try time out?(put her in a corner or something similar-not in her crib thoug or playing corner-and talk to her with authority, ferm but nice.
I used to ignore mine and even hold her hands gentely if she was in my arms...when you ignore them they use to stop....also keep talking -nice but ferm- and show her that you are the one in control...it is very very hard to be calm and serene whrn they do that but the more ferm and more consenquent you are the better you'll see results...and also...never expect this will ever end...they will always come with something new...you just have to have the control.
good luck
ps...another thing that works is to take their mind to something else...have small taoys in your pockets when you are out...distract her atention from what she wants. also just talikg to her and explaining that she can't get that now but probably some other time,etc
2006-12-13 06:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by meninne3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fastest way is at home when she starts throw a fit, throw one just like her. It sounds bad, but I can tell you she'll laugh over it and it should make her understand how silly she looks when she throws a fit if you reinforce that in her.
2006-12-13 06:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the terrible "2's"........the best thing you can do to avoid a confrontation is to "redirect" your child.....that means take your child's focus off of what it is that is causing him/her to throw a tantrum.......when a child is kicking and screaming calmly take them out of the room or away from public attention and show them them something different like "look at the pretty picture or see the puppy, and speak firmly and quietly.
2006-12-13 06:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pour a cup of water on their head. The shock alone would get them to stop acting up and then you can discipline then now that they have calmed down.
2006-12-13 06:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
children usually follow the examples of parents.
2006-12-13 06:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋