How much responsibilty should fall on the parents of the these 13, 14, 15 year old girls who are getting pregnant. They do not have minds of their own. If theyskip school the parents are responsible. If they have a party and minors are consuming alcohol in the home the parents are responsible. If your child is a bully or causes excessive disruption in school, you are responsible, they will call in social workers to investigate. So why oh why can't the parents be held responsible in some way for their little girls becoming pregnant.
My 14 year old daughter would never have a screen name like foxxy lady sexy bit@#. Not in this lifetime. Where are the parents and do you think that their should be some level of responsibility placed on the parents?
2006-12-13 06:12:24 · 9 answers · asked by 1973kimberly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I agree 100%. My wife and I have our 14 year old son's email password and we check up on him regularly. He knows we will show up randomly at school events or other places he is supposed to be. And he knows that if he ever wants to be out of our sight not to screw up. As a teacher I see absentee parents all the time and their effect on their kids' behavior is truly sad.
2006-12-13 06:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by baldisbeautiful 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what you mean by asserting that 13-15 year old girls "do not have minds of their own". Of course they do! If they didn't, they would do everything their parents told them to do, and would not be out getting pregnant.
I honestly think that things like that, although a parent could possibly affect it, are really the girl's choice. The point where the parent makes a difference is really around age 3-5, not 13-15. By that point, if the kid isn't listening, the kid isn't listening.
2006-12-13 14:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
For all of the examples you have given where parents are forced to be responsible for their children's actions, have you considered that those examples have a due process with counter-actions for the parents to help fix each of the problems? What counter-action do you see parents having to take once conception has occurred? If a social worker is brought into the situation of a 13 year old being pregnant, what do you suppose they could do? I understand that you want more parents to take responsibility for their children, but what do you suggest happen when it comes to a child having a child? Should the parents of the minor lose their child? That would add 2 more children into a foster care system that is already stretched. Should the parents recieve a fine? You are just taking money away from people who are most likely going to be responsible for the infant once it is born. Should the parents force their daughters to be on birth control, or have an abortion once the child is concieved? This would interfere with current federal laws regarding reproductive health.
I guess I am a bit liberal when it comes to this subject, because I follow what the law current says about any involvement (including parental):
In just about every state, when it comes to a woman's reproductive health, parents just don't have a say. ~1 Congress passed the Freedom of Access to Clinic Entrances (FACE) Act, which President Clinton signed into law in 1994.1 The federal law imposes criminal and civil penalties on anyone who uses "force, threat of force or physical obstruction" to prevent a person from providing or receiving reproductive health services. With this law, how can parents be legally responsible for the sexual actions of their children? ~2 Parental Consent: Anti-choice forces have also focused on burdening minors' access to abortion by encouraging legislatures to impose parental consent or notice requirements for abortion, and contraception. These laws harm young women in numerous ways, including increasing the risk of potential physical and emotional abuse, interfering with access to confidential medical care, creating delays in access to medical care, and imposing forced teen motherhood.
I also think that for some (not all) parents didn't see it coming. I know that may sound nieve, but it is true. How many parents do you know that encourage their teens to have sex? I don't know of any. So again I ask what responsibility to you expect to be placed on the parents? And are you suggesting that only the parents of the female be held responsible?? Because if you are, then you are hypocritical in your theory and expectations.
2006-12-13 14:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Just me.... 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think most of the responsibility falls on the parents. People just aren't teaching their children morals and self respect the way they used to. Parents are too busy with their own life to remember to watch out for their own kids, that's why we have so many stupid people around. Everyone is selfish and worried about themselves.
Parents need to check in with their children, ask about grades, programs their in, after school activities and "oh my" maybe even GO to their activities with their kids. And they DEFINITELY need to monitor computer use. I agree with you, none of my children will have a screen name like that. It's really sad. And it's the parents' fault. There's a certain amount of peer pressure that parents can't help, but if you teach your children and give them a strong moral foundation, they'll make the right choice in the end.
2006-12-13 14:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think society does look at a 14 year old girl who is pregnant and wonder "Where was/is your mother?" That girl may not have the same parental figure that your daughter does. I hold the parent responsible for not knowing or caring where their child was. But that child (even though still a child) does have a mind of her own....however misguided it may be.
2006-12-13 14:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that parents should be held responsible for their children's actions especially if they are illegal! But kids are growing up so much earlier these days...I read in my paper about a 12 year old girl shooting up heroin...Where are her parents at? I have a 5 yr old daughter, & I plan on being very vigilant with her. Hopefully though she will be smart enough on her own to not get involved with that stuff.
2006-12-13 14:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar Magnolia 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That you know of (sexy screen name)lol, I think parents are not as involved in kids lives like they used to be, the kids seem to be incontrol of the parents. Maybe one day there will be manditory birth control when a girl starts her period to she's 18 lol!!
2006-12-13 14:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jody 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
these days parents are letting the kids do whatever they want to do and its a shame
2006-12-13 14:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
a child getting pregnant is a direct reflection on how it was raised. would you really want them screwing up the next generation too? i think not
2006-12-13 14:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋