my prev question was bout fancying my engaged best mate prob now is what do i do was we see each other every day and i love being with him do i try to go cold turkey and tell him i cant see him or do i keep socialisin and keep crying everynight after weve had dinner at work and ive gone home
2006-12-13 06:06:32 · 17 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok one thing is u need to leave him alone he already has someone......karma is a bi**h......u keep messing with him & its going to bit u in the butt later down the line when u really find ur true "love".........soo stop alll the hookn up on the side behind his sooon to be wife, find urself some ur going to "LOVE" (not fances) & whos going to love u back & doesnt have a wifey on the side dont be the other woman be the ONE woman whos he has eyes for..........
soo stop thinking bout him stop talking to him & stop hanging out with him........ur only hurting urself if he really loved u then he would have left his soon to be wife already for u.........but he hasnt soo that only shows u that ur nothing but the booty call whenever he needs.............good luck & dont mess with married man find ur own man thats going to love u back & only u...................god bless
2006-12-13 06:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by ~i love my boys~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not try and make a move on your engaged best friend he is engaged for many reasons and is in love with his fiance and this may sound harsh but he wants to marry her and be with her for the rest of his life which means you need to let go of him as a possible love interest because if you do make a move there is a possibility that you could lose him and the friendship you had and you have to ask yourself is it worth it ? and we both know that the answer is no it isn't worth it
Instead try cutting back the amount of time you see him but still remain close to him as his best friend only. Try socialising with other friends and get yourself out there and start dating there is bound to be a guy out there that's perfect for you but most importantly just have fun and don't get to serious.
2006-12-13 06:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Along the way we fell in love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That;s tough one. Do you really think you have a chance with him though?
If so, tell him how you fell and let him decide how to act, he might want some distance, or might run to you with open arms.
Either way, you are never going to be with him if he doesn't know how you feel....
But you also have to respect that he is engaged to someone else, and you may just destroy your friendship. It's up to you honey, I'm glad I've never been in this situation that's for sure.
2006-12-13 06:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you think isn't hurting you most. Talk to him, tell him, if that doesn't work out, and you still feel the same, don't hurt yourself by crying everynight. Or maybe don't try to spend as much time with him as you do now.
I used to like one of my best friends, and since I don't see him that much, it really helps.
2006-12-13 06:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by ?Johanna Loves Superman? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things First if somethings happens and your Best amte sees it you are going to loose that Best mate which isent going to be very nice
I think You should tell you what your heart tells you to do but remember some one is going to get heart either way if its you or your mate so think it through
Hope you the best
2006-12-13 06:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Dreamy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You face the same amount of pain with which ever you decide to do. Do you want to put it off till later or just get on with it? The sooner you start over the better I say. Good luck.
2006-12-13 06:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just need your space until you can get over him. Let him know that you need some time before you can start being friendly with him again. I would avoid any contact until I could get my emotions in check. I have been in your position and it is tough but you really can get over your feelings if you give yourself some space.
2006-12-13 06:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The facts speak for them selves,why muddy the water,this guy could still be your Friend,but keep pushing and you may end up with a new enemy
2006-12-13 06:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You done been with this dude ain't ya? Ain't ya?
This is only leading to problems for you. Cold turkey until that dude comes to his senses and dumps that zero for you hero.
2006-12-13 06:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by CoreSpeedMetalThrashGenreRockRap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are TOO MANY other dudes out there!!!
Buck up! Find someone else that will want to be with you...
2006-12-13 06:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dave B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋