soul mate question (pastors please help)?

Question

I have always been taught to pray for a soul mate and that there is only one person for me that god has chosen. Now, what if that one person has now become a non believer and someone that I would never want to be with.. Like a druggie or alcoholic or even killed.. What happens then?


Please refrain from smart %^$ answers. I am for real.

Thank you for your honest and open answers, they are ALL helpful!!!

Answer 1

Step back, take a deep breath and just let it happen. You're thinking about it way, way, way too much.

Answer 2

Love first and foremost is a decision of the will especially when it involves sacrifice.

Gen. 2:20-24 - we see that, from the beginning, husband and wife are joined together by God and become one body. A body cannot be dismembered and still live.

Mal. 2:16 - God says "I hate divorce." These are strong words from our Lord. Divorce and remarriage violates the sacred marital covenant between a husband and a wife that has been ordained by God.

Matt. 19:6 - Jesus makes it clear that it is God who joins the husband and wife together, according to His will. What God joins together cannot be dissolved because God's will is perfect and eternal.

Matt. 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18 - Jesus says that whoever divorces and remarries another commits adultery. This is an offense against the natural law.

Rom. 7:2-3 - again, Paul reiterates Jesus' teaching that sacramental marriage followed by a divorce and remarriage is adultery. He who commits adultery destroys himself. (Prov. 6:23). Many Protestant denominations have rejected this teaching of Jesus and His Church.

1 Cor. 7:10-11 - once again, Paul gives Christ's teaching that married couples cannot divorce and remarry. This violates God's divine plan for the husband and wife.

Matt. 5:31-32 - the Lord permits divorce only for "porneia." This Greek word generally means unlawful sexual intercourse due to either blood relations (also called incest) or nonsacramental unions. The Lord does not permit divorce for "moicheia" (adultery). It is also important to note that in these cases, a marriage never existed in the first place, so the Lord is not actually permitting divorce, but a dissolution of the unlawful union.

Eph. 5:22-32 - Paul says that the sacramental union of husband and wife is the image of Christ and the Church. Just as Christ the Bridegroom and His Bride the Church are inseparable, so are a husband and wife also inseparable. A civil divorce cannot dissolve a sacramental marriage (between two baptized people).

1 Cor. 7:12-15 - these verses set forth what the Church calls the "Pauline privilege" - two unbaptized people marry, and afterwards one of the people is baptized. If the unbaptized person decides to leave the marriage, the Christian is free to remarry (because the first marriage was not sacramental, and a union between a baptized and an unbaptized person can jeopardize the baptized person's faith).

Ezra 10:1-14 - these verses support what the Church calls the "Petrine privilege" - a baptized person marries an unbaptized person. To save the baptized person’s faith from being jeopardized, the Pope may dissolve such a marriage pursuant to his binding and loosing authority.

Rev. 19:9 - the marital union of man and woman reflect Christ's union with the Church at the heavenly marriage supper. Just as Christ and the Church have become one flesh through the Eucharist and the union brings forth spiritual life for God's children, a man and a woman become one flesh and their union brings forth physical life for the Church. This union is indissoluble.

Answer 3

I not sure how you want this answered. This is what I beleive that god has created a soul mate for me so speak but has not chosen one. When we are allowed free choice what is the point in letting god make the decisions? Say god choose a druggy and an acholic to be your soal mate would you decline his choice? Is it not the Christian way to aid the sinner? Who are we to judge another? The question is yours to answer really? Just how strong is you faith and how far you will go to follow your values?

Answer 4

Why would God choose and set aside the unbeliever, druggie, drunk, or dead guy to be the one? Seriously, he knows all things, and he holds the key to life and death.

I have been married for 21 years to a wonderful man. I have been following Jesus for 38 years, and I don't believe that there is just one out there for you. I believe you make a choice about the person you will marry, and that choice has huge implications for your life.

At the same time, God knew all along the choice I would make. I prayed for that man I would someday marry, and I prayed for the wisdom to choose wisely.

I dated a few different Christian men who would have made good Christian husbands and even had a few proposals. Had I chosen one of them, chances are good that I would still be walking with the Lord and serving him, but perhaps in different ways and in different places.

A wise and Godly woman encouraged me to sit down and write a list of the things I wanted in a husband, so that when emotional feelings came into play, I would still be able to be objective about what kind of man I wanted to marry. I made a list and prioritized it. All the most important things went at the top and all the least important things at the bottom. I prayed over that list and asked God for wisdom in considering a life partner. When I met my husband, there was only one item he didn't match on my list, and it was at the very bottom; he wasn't quite as tall as I had wanted.

I knew he was the one I would marry (if he would choose me) when it was clear that there was no one else I would rather spend time with. There was no one else I was curious about dating. I was ready to be married. Still we dated for a year and were engaged for a year after that--plenty of time to find out if what I believed about him was indeed true.

I hope that helps some. God Bless.

Answer 5

I'm not a pastor or Xian in any way...but, I believe each person has a distinct 'rhythm' that's formed from the energy put off by a person's internal organs motions, decisions, etc and that there could be another that matches your own. But, if something changes and you're unwilling to work with it, I would think it's best to cut your losses and see if you can find another. But, since you believe an omniscient God is going to lead you to someone who will later disturb you, maybe you should seek real counseling.

Answer 6

I respect your deep spirituality, but I feel that I must tell you that waiting and praying for a perfect "soul mate" may not be the best idea. Anyway, if you follow the teachings of Christ, you should not judge any person in any way - i.e. "non-believers" "druggies" or "alcoholics."

It is quite possible that there is someone out there for everyone, but waiting for that perfect mate may cause you to miss out on some wonderful, imperfect human beings. If the person you are currently with does something you dislike, or disapprove of, that immediately knocks them out of the running for "soul mate." that's kind of harsh, don't you think?

instead of praying for a perfect soul mate, pray for personal strength and character. that way, people of similar strength and character will be attracted to those qualities in you.

Answer 7

The Church has never taught that there is one soulmate for people. Paul actually taught that if your spouse is a hindrance to your faith you may divorce. If they accept you practicing your faith but they do not practice then your marriage is santified by the believing person. The idea of soulmates comes from the Greek legend that people were originally created with 2 heads and 4 legs. The gods were jealous at the perfection of their creation so they split them into two pieces (man and woman) that each still shared one soul. We supposedly spend the rest of our lives looking for our other piece!

Answer 8

You see, God has a plan for your life. You should never doubt the path he has paved for you to walk on. You never know who your soul mate will be if oyu don't try to find him. If oyu never try, how do you know?
You see, I used to be like that once. I always thought that the right person would come to me. So I became a shy guy, and I never got a girlfriend. When I finally got up the courage to ask her out, it was way late. Bou when she said yes, it was like, well, when Keitaro from Love Hina asked out Naru. He soared into the skies.
That is the feeling you should get when you meet Mr. Right.

Answer 9

Easy does it. the impulsive nature of youth generally force people to make mistakes they regret. This hold true for relationships.

A soulmate is by definition something your "soul" is meant to pair with, in a school of thought that discusses reincarnation, describes "meeting souls" from past lives as lessons to go through again because we failed to learn the first time.

If you date, don't make the mistake of the feeling of longing and belonging as a matched pair. I for one believe my wife is a partner in this life. We've got two intelligent teenagers and love each other very much.. Is she a soulmate? If I choose to view marriage in that way perhaps or perhaps not.

You decide who you wish to be with, does the person treat you respectfully and lovingly? Are you attracted to each other, do you agree or agree to disagree on important items, do you have similar values and beliefs? These are things that I see make up the soul match.

Answer 10

If you truly believe that God had a predetermined "soul mate" for you why would he designate someone who won't be availble in your time of need. If you have a specific person that God has willed you to spend the rest of your life with, it will happen. Just don't expect that person to arive glowing, on the wings of angels. My wife was my best friend for years before we were married.

Answer 11

remember the bible warns us not to become unevenly yoked with non believers and it also tells us God is the hearer of prayers. So believe God does hear your prayers for a mate but sometimes his answer is no and we have to accept that. After all He is not a cosmic vending machine giving what ever our heart desires.remember Jeremiah warned the heart is trecherous and Paul himself wared within himself between what he disired and what he wanted to do.