If you loved someone with all your being, and he has hurt you, cheated on you, broken up with you.........and your mom doesnt like him because he is not the same culture as you, would you still marry him or be with him? Cause you truly love him?
2006-12-13 05:54:14 · 38 answers · asked by confusedbrowngirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, you women have no qualms about being with guy who cheated on you, do you?
If a girl cheats on a guy, he breaks up with her, and then beats the guy's a**.
Forget about whether or not your mom likes him or not; he obviously doesn't love you! Sorry for the bad news, but it is true. There is a reason parents sometimes don't like their daughter's boyfriends, and it is usually a good reason!!
2006-12-13 05:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by i hate hippies but love my Jesus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good lord no!! It doesn't matter that your mom doesn't like him because of a culture thing. If that was the only reason I'd give it a hell yeah! BUT.. he cheated on you? Broke up with you? And then what? Begged forgiveness, swore it would never happen again? Sorry. Game over. Every woman is better than that. I love Bridget Jones' Diary, at the very end:
Hugh Grant : "If I can't make it with you, I'm afraid I can't make it with anyone."
Renee Zellwegger: "I'm sorry, that's just not a good enough offer for me. "
Scared to start dating again? Sure. Never really get over this guy who hurt you? Probably not. I am 26 years old, engaged to be married, and still dream of my high school boyfriend. He cheated on me, I took him back, and just woke up one day and realized what I needed to do. I couldn't trust him. As much as I loved him, and still do 6 years later, I had to cut him out for the sake of my sanity. You should do so as well before its too late.
2006-12-13 06:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by sportyspice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, why do you love this person?
Love should be founded on at least 3 aspects: Respect / Attraction / Compatibility. This person doesn't seem to respect you at all. Believe me, even though you are attracted to him, you will suffer gravely on the long run and probably wind up separated and devastated anyways.
About the different culture thing / that's a grey area. It DOES have an impact, as cultural differences need alot of sacrifice, tolerance and RESPECT to be able to fade into a relationship - and we all know what's lacking here, huh?
2006-12-13 05:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by Marker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you, the question should be does he really love you? If someone cheated on you before marriage, do not assume that if you get married they won't continue to do so. People can change but just a person saying they have changed doesn't make it true. Your mom may see more than this person culture, she may see his real character.
2006-12-13 05:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I highly doubt that 'because he's not the same culture' is the reason your mom doesn't like him. She probably doesn't like him because of all of the things you've listed. He's hurt you, no mother wants to see their child go through that.
I'm 30 and divorced with 2 kids....I REALLY wish I had listened to my mom when she told me not to marry the guy. But I made my own choice and now I have to deal with it....
and as much as people say it is...love is ~not~ enough of a reason to marry someone. It takes a LOT more than love to keep people together.
2006-12-13 05:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by thelilred_whocould 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just think of it this way. If he really loved you, then why would he do the things to you that he did? I was in the same situation. My ex fiance hurt me, abused me, cheated on me, stole from me, and of course my parents and whole family hated him. You may love him with all your heart right now. But eventually you will find someone soooo much better and then realize that you didn't love your ex at all.
So my advice to you is take a break for awhile. Sit down and think of really hard things to think about. Do you want your parents to be in your life supporting you. Because if you and your ex were having problems right now. Then you will have worse problems later on in life.
2006-12-13 06:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by krystalk25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone hurt me, cheated on me and broke up with me, I would say this is someone who didn't love me and certainly deserve me.
You have to love yourself first before you can give mature love back to someone else. It sounds like you think you love this guy, but you are not giving yourself any love! Cultural differences aside, your mom doesn't want to see you get hurt. Can't you give yourself the same respect?
I would run the other direction as fast as possible. Treat yourself right... work on your self-esteem. Then find someone who loves you and treats you like the wonderful, deserving person you really are! There are lots of great guys out there. Don't waste your time on someone who treats you like cr*p.
2006-12-13 06:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by webguru1311 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this very situation, and my mom hated the guy. She had that mothers intuition from the start. So after cheating on me she had more reason not to like him. Regardless, I still dated him. My mother even tried to put her feelings aside for my sake. In the end, he turned out to be just as bad as my mother thought he was. If he hurt you, as a mother now, I can see why she doesn't like him. No mother wants to see her child hurt, and only wants to see them happy. If he cheated once, odds are he will cheat again. All that you will end up in that case is bitter feelings and wasted time the longer you stay with him.
2006-12-13 06:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by phgl83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as far as your mother's point of view...that's silly.
HOW can you love someone who has done these things to you???
Regardless, love is NOT the only thing to consider when choosing a life time mate...sad but true. Your lifetime mate should be someone who you can share all your wants and goals with and who is committed to making their and your life better...this doesn't sound like the case.
Your love for him will not pay the bills, it will not console you when you feel down or stressed, your love for him will not make you laugh or tell you how brilliant and beautiful you are. It will not apologize when he cheats on you again.
2006-12-13 06:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by elysialaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to think very well before you marry him, if he has cheated on you before it´s probable that he may do it again and it will be worst if you get married to him.
I believe that the marriage is for sharing things both good or bad, but not distrust, i think a marriage is based on trust in each other
and for what you say you won´t be able to trust in him and you don´t want to live like that.
Many times love makes us blind and we can´t see the people like they truly are and it can be very dangerous for us.
Be careful in the decisions you make.
Good luck from Mexico.
I´ll be here whenever you need something.
2006-12-13 06:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by oso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋