my mother has done many wrong things to me in the past and i havent spoke to her in forever and my husband hates her i think more than me, she has been trying to contact me recently, do i give her another chance dispite what my husband sais so tell her to screw off.. Oh one example of something she has done, when I was 17 and had a boyfriend sleep over at her house I got in the tub and when I got out my mother was screwing my boy friend in my bed....
2006-12-13 05:47:21 · 7 answers · asked by Brandi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
SHE HAS DONE MANY THINGS...
2006-12-13 05:50:05 · update #1
i dont know if you should forgive her because that up to you but who should know that nomatter you hate her she always going to your mother nomatter what and she love you even though you don't belive it but i think that you and your mom and your husband should have dinner and talk about all therr of your issue than you make your decision
2006-12-13 05:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should forgive her for what she has done but if you are strong enough to stand up to her for her wrongs this would be your time to be able to put closer to the bad in your life and be able to move on but I would not let her in your home. That is some where you feel safe and I would not go with out your husband that way. If she does what to hurt you again you have someone their that can not let that happien again. You don't have to talk to her if you don't want to. Yes she is your mother but mom never would have done thing like that to you. Just do what you feel safe inside doing. And if you think you are okay on the way their and then once you are not stop turn around and go home and don't look back and if she calls have your husband talk for you.
2006-12-13 14:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you just sent her a Christmas card, keeping it very generic and tell her that you still need time to sort things out, but you hope she has a good year. And you'll be in touch when you're ready but please respect me and give me space?
That way, you're not promising her anything nor are you putting yourself at risk for getting hurt. I can see why your husband dislikes her so much. She IS your mother, and you can only hope she is truly remorseful and she has changed. HIGHLY HIGHLY doubtful, but you never know. If she gives you space and time, then maybe (and that's a very skeptical maybe) she has changed.
But don't ruin your holidays over her. You deserve to have a happy, stress-free holiday season. You can tackle this in Feb/March when nothing happens and the "family" season isn't as loaded with meaning. Good luck. and good for you for moving on!
2006-12-13 14:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by roswell75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forgive her. Hate doesn't do anything but sit inside your soul and make you feel horrible. I'm not saying that you should be her bestest best friend or even that you have to talk to her alot. Judging by her actions she has serious family issues. But forgiving is always better. You can forgive, just don't forget. Learn from it. Hope everything gets better.
2006-12-13 13:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by lalalalyndsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please 4give her, but don't get too close to her, give her some rules like:
she should not call rather u will be the one to call her
she should not come over to your house, never in her life. stuffs like that.
2006-12-13 14:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Oshoke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let that b**** into your life again or she will end up f******* your husband.
2006-12-13 14:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by sexykat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u no wat go no so he catches u in the bazoonkee so say im a bazonki bolllollolleeesh
2006-12-13 13:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by ohshapapa 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋