OK this is the thing my brother in law is 26 years old with no job and a girlfriend (that just got out of jail last week!) she has three kids (not his) They have no money I feel bad for the kids! My mother in law babys him so bad and sends him money all the time and expects us to do the same. She is in major debt($) for him! Not to mention the stress this causes her! Whenever we tell her to quit and make him grow up she tells us we dont understand. How can we help her stop and let him take care of himself? Or are we being harsh for feeling this way?
2006-12-13 05:40:29 · 8 answers · asked by lola 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Does your brother in law know how much debt he has put his mother in and how much stress he has caused her to be under? Maybe its time your husband had a man to man talk to him and let him know this stuff. Your brother in law is old enough to take care of himself, sending him money is only keeping him dependent on his mother and if you start he will become dependent on you. He needs to grow up and start taking care of his family.
2006-12-13 07:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by dini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a mother, she wants to make sure he is okay. Maybe she feels bad for the children, too. She shouldn't expect you to do the same all the time. I can see helping out your siblings if they show that they are changing their ways. I would have your husband discuss this with his mother and explain that she should only give him money if he puts effort into getting a job (or if he is in dire need) and that you will do the same. The children are the ones who suffer for their parents or in this case mother and mother's bf's actions. Good luck.
2006-12-13 05:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they may not be your sister n legislation simply other halves of your brother n legislation however you'll nonetheless name them your sister n legislation no damage in that. Cousins, Uncles and Aunts are simply facet of the household. Grandfather and Grandmother are also referred to as in legislation.
2016-09-03 15:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing you can do. Your mother-in-law is going to have to decide for herself when enough is enough, but you don't have to participate in the babying behavior.
2006-12-13 05:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by clifsdi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her do as she pleases,it's her money and her life.just don't you do the same.constantly telling her what she should do will only create animosity,shut up and let her be she has her own reasons for playing the fool.
2006-12-13 05:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything. she will baby him because he is her baby after all. that's a mother's love for you.
2006-12-13 05:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her quit, she is an "enabler" and she will have to realize it for herself.
2006-12-13 05:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not control her, you can only control yourself
2006-12-13 05:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋