how can i tell my family that i'm thinking about leaving my Religion?

Question

right now i have been raised a Christian, but i disagree somewhat with some of it's teachings. so i'm more of a Christ Follower than a Christian. my family is half Catholic and Half Lutheran. i'm not sure yet if i will just change denominations. i do accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior and i know that he came to die for us on the cross. it's just...i disagree with some of the teachings.

Answer 1

wait until you have found a religion that you agree with, and then just tell them and make it clear that you are NOT changing your mind

Answer 2

You call yourself Christian but you want to get out of it and be just a follower of Christ. That is still being Christian because you still follow Christ. What are the things you disagree on? Aren't you jumping from one flagstone to another falling on the same ground?
Of course I know the differences between denominations and each one claims the same truth with different approaches. Here it is. Jesus was emphatic about his warning to his disciples. He said, " Watch out that you are not deceived. Many will come in my name (Jesus), and claim that I am he (The Christ).And will tell that the end is near. 'Do not follow them'." Doesn't anyone from your two half-religions read that to you? Do you not think that anywhere you go you could be deceived? Do you not feel why you disagree with some of the teachings because it is hard to make real truth come out from a lie? People tell lies and when they come to power because of the lie they created, they too become so immersed in it and believed in their own lies. You need understanding to every wisdom you get. Visit this website...www.thename.ph

Answer 3

Well, I have been there myself.
I think you can do this a lot of ways... perhaps go church shopping & find a place you like that fits a bit better... You might like Unity Church (not Unitarian, thats different) Unity is still a Christian denomination, but more liberal in general & very open & positive.
You may decide not to go to church at all & just do your own thing... I guess it depends on if you go to church with your family or not.

I quit going to church a long time ago, and when I went it was to a different church (I grew up Lutheran, then went to Unity, now I'm Buddhist.)
I find it much easier to talk to my mom about it, but not my dad.
I didn't just "announce" my change of faith. We dont talk about it much anyway... my dad might talk about going to church on Sunday & I'll say "oh thats nice".

I think in your case, you should search for what makes sense to you first before making waves in your family.

Answer 4

You need to be firm in your position. And gental in you approch. I would continue your family religious conection and establish your own seperatly. Then when you have a place established for your new relationship... then transition out on your own...

I invite you to read over my site. It will give you a bit of a different pov on the God stuff... I am having to make a change with the host. so do not know how available it will be for a few days. but here is the address. If you have any questions you may email me from the site or through YA's system.

http://www.mikesfaith.com

I recomend going through the first as I have it set up... then, if you care to, you are welcome to browz.... there is a page on The missouri Synod Lutherans and also my povs on other religious issues.

Answer 5

definately pray about it and ask God to lead you to the truth in all areas of your faith. I am personally a Christian and though I do not cling and claim to a Denomination, I attend a Free Methodist Church. Try finding out what it really is that you disagree with and if there is a denomination that you would feel more comfortable identifying with. Also, read your bible and see what God's Word really tells you about the teachings you disagree with.

Answer 6

Sounds like you disagree with the doctrines, right? Or do you disagree with what Christ taugh?

Christian simply means Christ follower, belief in Christ to follow what he taugh, that is ALL CHristian means.

But then, when you throw in doctrine, and dogma of religion, Luteran, Cathiloc, Baptist, Mormon, whatever you have a "branch"

I am a Christian, I believe Christ, not the religious dogma of individual branches. Hope that helps, a little anyway.

Answer 7

Define the word "Christian." http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/Christian
A Christ Follower IS a Christian.
Do you disagree with this particular church? because you're still going to be a Christian unless you deny believing Christ. a Christian is someone who follows Christ. there are several different branches of Christianity--- Lutherans, Mormons, Catholics, to name a few, you know that.
if you don't want to go to your particular church anymore but you still believe in Christ, just gently tell your family that you feel something is missing and you want to try something new. you don't feel complete. you don't feel at ease. right?
i am a Mormon. i feel completely at peace whenever i do anything related to my religion. i love it and it makes me very happy. i have indescribable happiness. In the Book of Mormon, Moroni 10:4-5 says "... I would exhort you that ye would ask God, the Eternal Father, in the name of Christ, if these things are not true; and if ye shall ask with a sincere heart, with real intent, having faith in Christ, he will manifest the truth of it unto you, by the power of the Holy Ghost. And by the power of the Holy Ghost ye may know the truth of all things."
so why don't you give it a shot? i have and have been baptized and i truly know and believe in my religion. it's unteresting, true, happy, peaceful, and in the Book of Mormon, action-packed, powerful, emotional, and TRUE!
i'm not trying to preach or anything, i'm just telling you my solution that worked better than anything i've ever tried. and i'm so happy i did.

Answer 8

Where does it say in the Bible "Blessed are they who disagree". It is not for us to agree or disagree. It is for us to follow and be obediant. Saying your thinking of just quiting your Church is a cop out and you really are saying some of the other things I hear like I don't have to go to Church on Sunday is more appealing and there is no other mediator between God and man but, Jesus (meanwhile these people that say that are the first ones that ask each other to pray for them) and also the confession thing. oooh You really don't want to do that because then you have to examine your soul and actually say I am a bad guy sinner. That's totally against the law when it comes to pleasing yourself. I say quit pleasing yourself and please God. Stay with his Church. The Holy Catholic Church.

Answer 9

I urge to you to continue to follow Jesus Christ and the Holy Bible and not religion.

There is only one Holy book and that is the Holy Bible.

I would recommend reading the book of Jude (book before Revelation) and work your way back to Matthew (book by book).

I think you will find many, many revealing things.

Also, take a look at Rev. 22:18-21.

It matters not your denomination, only those with a personal relationship with Jesus Christ will enter into Heaven.

Answer 10

There is no easy way to tell your family about this but if they are understanding you should be fine.

If you still chose to follow Christ, they shouldnt really be upset with you. Its not as if you are changing into a completely diffferent faith altogether.

Just be very sensitive in how you make your announcement. Hope this helps.

Answer 11

Labels are just that -- labels. On questions that are very important (like this), you should always keep searching until you are very sure of exactly what you believe and why. That way, when you tell your family of your decision, you'll be ready for any questions they have. (And not "ready" in the debate sense... you don't need to convince them you're right, you just need to convince them that you've thought this through. Most families will accept almost any decision if it seems like a lot of thought was put in to it.)

Good luck.