I have been trying to getmy boyfriend to tell me that he loves me, but be hasn't. We have been going out for 2 months now and I know that I love him, the only thing is that he hasn't told me that he loves me. Should I break up with him? Should I ask him why he doesn't love me? how do I ask him without making myself vuanuarable?
2006-12-13 05:11:28 · 8 answers · asked by jasimine m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is something serious, it should not be rushed. You cannot force some1 to love you or give them a time frame in which love you by. What you may be feeling for your boyfriend may not be love yet but it can be the Beginning of what may develop into love. What I can tell you is that many people confuse infatuation with love. When ever you meet some1 new you are excited and everything they do is so cute, charming, and everything they say is so wonderful. You may connect with them in a way you've never done with any1 else, you may feel like you fit, so many things in common or they just understand you like no other! You can't stop thinking about them, you can't stop talking about them to your friends and find every way to throw them into a conversation. You want to spend as much time with them as possible-sound familiar?
Well this is how many relationships start and it's important because that's what bonds people, but you have to know that love is when you know the person COMPLETELY, you know their good, you know their bad and you still want to be with them. This usually takes a long time because you don't really start to see the "bad" until later on because every1 wants to show their best self in the Beginning, and ALSO in the Beginning everything the guy does is "cute" and you make excuses or look away at all his short comings until the rose colored glasses come off and you see his true self for who he is. Only then can you answer that question-for yourself!
Love is not all about feelings because people lose that "feeling" periodically through out the relationship. Therefore I don't believe that if you have an intense feeling for a person that it is love, because in a four hour span you can not know a person totally. Also you don't even know if you can trust the person yet so everything they can be telling you can be a lie, or positive exaggeration(because we all want to make a good 1st impression). Get to know a person before you make that determination, because saying you love some1 can affect how you perceive that person. So you won't be able to evaluate him objectively.
2006-12-13 05:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by moks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its only been 2 months, give it some time. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean he feels the same way yet. Love takes time and I wouldn't break up with him if you truly love him. Besides wouldn't you rather he not say I love you before he is ready, then say it and not mean it?
I would wait a bit longer and see if he comes around. Some people take love very seriously. And it takes time to grow.
If you love him and you think he is worth it, wait for him. If in a couple months or even longer, ask him what's up. Maybe you aren't someone he could fall in love with. Sorry to say, but it is possible.
2006-12-13 13:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by nkbapbt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months! I guess you are young. Two months is hardly any time to really know someone. Leave the guy alone. If you start asking him all sorts of questions about why he doesn't love you -- you will see him run away fast.
Wait, with time he may love you and express that to you. You may also find out that you don't really love him.
Relax and enjoy the relationship.
2006-12-13 13:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys only have been dating for 2 months...falling in love with someone takes time. i am happy you know you love him but he may not know if he really loves you yet and it may take more time to love you then it does for you. he may have gotten hurt a lot in the past so just talk to him and see how he truely feels about you. just be patient he will come around he will tell you he loves when he is ready. email me at rae_lewis2003@yahoo.com if you still need more advice on anything i am here to help.
2006-12-13 13:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by crazybayb20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't love you yet, 2 months is not a long time or maybe he's just being a guy & not expressing his feelings. if & when ur bf says he loves u, u should want it to come from his heart, not just bc he knows its what u want to hear.
Don't rush love, if its true then it'll show thru his actions, not just his words.
2006-12-13 13:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by missbronzebeauty09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you back then he will tell you so IN HIS OWN TIME. Do not pressure him to say it to you. This will only drive him away. You are being way too paranoid about it. Just stop worrying so much and let nature take its course.
2006-12-13 13:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by *Cara* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys dont share there feelings in two months so wait till hes ready to open up its a big deal to sum guys
2006-12-13 13:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him how do he feel about you. does he see yall together in the furure and if he would marry you
2006-12-13 13:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by victoria n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋