I babysit my brother and his wife two kids as a second job. My other job is being a sales associate and you if you ever worked in retail it's crazy during the holiday season. You are working extra hours. Anyway since the week of thanksgiving i've have only been given one day off per week. I watch my brother's kid five days a week. Anyway my brother's wife asked me to stay late (one hour)so she could go to the gym. When i told her that i only get one day off during the weekday, she acted as if she doesn't care. My question is should i stay behind late during the only day i have off, or should i tell her no. Keep in mind i've stayed late before so she could go to happy hour with her coworkers, she never ever offered me a ride to work or home unless it's convient for her
2006-12-13 04:48:07 · 21 answers · asked by queenzhottie78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No you are not being selfish. It seems that your sister-in-law is taking advantage of your relationship. You are not her personal valet. You actually are doing them a favor. Maybe you should remind her of that.
But rather than get snippy, it seems like it is time that you clearly define the arrangement. You need to sit down with you brother and his wife and plan out a schedule and rules. They would not treat a professional babysitter like that and I am sure you are getting paid far less. If they can not agree to your terms, then give them a list of sitting services and just stop babysitting for them. Be firm. You deserve better.
2006-12-13 05:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by coca_chupa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I have to ask what are the arrangements between you, your brother and his wife? Are they paying you for your services? If so it is an obligation that you committed to and your need to renegotiate your terms and pay. Or is it that in some other way you get a service or an item from them for your child care skills? If you are sitting for you niece or nephew because you enjoy spending time with him/her. Explain to your brother not his wife the demands of your other job and tell him that during the Holiday season you will not be able to stay late. Have him explain it to his wife as she seams to be unsympathetic to your needs.
2006-12-13 13:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by kelleyann_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't blame you for being upset about having to always babysit! Everyone needs time for them selfs and you need that time! I would tell her "can i have a break for the week i am really tired and just want to relax". If she is always being able to go to happy hour and go to the gym that is time she could give up to watch her own kids for a night! She needs to be understanding that everyone needs time for them selfs! Good Luck!
2006-12-13 12:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is taking advantage of you. Does your brother care what she's doing or does he not know? Sounds like you are a little timid or afraid of her. You should talk to her about it and if she gets mad tell her you can't babysit for her anymore.
2006-12-13 20:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by jcshields74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to that is simple..when your tired the next day at work who feels the pain you or her? Its your day off...Is she gonna pay you extra and if so will it really matter. Girl take your time off. I know how it is working in retail and I know YOU NEED YOUR REST!
2006-12-13 12:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by trf_islandkandi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
helI no! i would just tell her yeah and then not show up! its her child not yours you should never put your babysitting job before your real job, because can u afford to live off just the money you make babysitting? i highly doubt it so u need to tell her that. personally i would just tell you cant do it anymore period cuz she sounds like a b!tch!
2006-12-13 12:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by ~*cRaCkNeSs*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she is your sister.n.law she probably thinks it,s fine to aks you to babysit late on your day off but the thing is people often take advantage of ones kindness.you should sit down with your brother or her and tell them you don,t mind babysitting but when you get one day off you should get to relax and you can,t babysitting.if they don,t understand then it.s because they don,t care.
2006-12-13 12:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is abusing that privilege of you keeping her kids, I wouldn't do it anymore. If it is ONLY occasional, I would probably do it. It sounds like she is taking advantage of you, however. I would talk to her about how this makes you feel, explaining to her how busy you are this time of year!
2006-12-13 12:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please practice the word NO as often as you can. Its a very healthy way of honoring yourself. You are not being selfish. We as women tend to forget about ourselves at times when others are demanding of our time.
Stay strong and stand your ground. No means no and you have a life of your own as well.
2006-12-13 13:20:02 · answer #9 · answered by TracyBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u must try talking with your brother and even if that dosnt wrks then just tell ur sis in law tat if she wants u to stay late then increase ur pay.
2006-12-13 12:55:27 · answer #10 · answered by lara k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋