I am a Christian [so is my bf] and my boyfriend is 19 and i am 23. Both of us recently got out of relationships earlier this year where we were both sexually active. But we've been together for 5 months and we have not had sex but we have been tempted to. but my bf is fairly aggressive about it. Since I am older, I try to make rational decisions... so I resist. I kind of feel like he is pressuring me to have sex because he knows that I want it just as bad as he does. But the twist is he's the musician at our church and his dad is the pastor. His dad has asked if we were having sex. I kind of feel awkward that the pastor thinks that i'm having sex with his son. I don't know if I should resist or give in to temptation.
2006-12-13 04:39:38 · 18 answers · asked by SugarPlum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should obviously wait...especially since you've only been together 5 months.
2006-12-13 04:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by argylemoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a personal decision that you must make for yourself but if you would like to make the decision based on your Christian principles then you should, or you can make it on the world's principles. You're being a little lukewarm for Christ and you know what happens when you're lukewarm-he will spit you out of his mouth. I think that your boyfriend will not be a godly head of the household if mismanages your premarital relationship so badly. He's being selfish in tempting you to go off of your walk with God and you're being stupid in tolerating it. My husband and I were in the same boat (except my husband wasn't misleading people by being in a leadership position at the church and still living like the world like your boyfriend is-no wonder the world thinks we're all Hypocrites. People like him are!) and when we got married in march of this year we both wished that we had never touched or kissed another person because in a Godly marriage it defiles what you have with each other.
2006-12-13 12:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by question asker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both adults and in my opinion, it is a bit out of line for his father to ask if you are sexually active, regardless of his position in the church.
If you are having doubts about whether or not you should have sex, you should wait. I'm not saying waiting until you are married- just until you are sure that it is what you want. You shouldn't feel pressured to have sex.
2006-12-13 12:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both want to, where is the problem? Eventhough his dad is a pastor, it doesn't make it right for him to ask that kind of question, it is none of his business. Life is too short to wonder about silly things like that, go ahead, enjoy yourself, just make sure to use protection until you are sure about your boyfriend.
2006-12-13 12:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should wait. He is young so of course he is going to want it from you. Plus, you are older so he might think that you know some more...'things' and he wants to find out. If he loves you and respects you, he will wait until you are ready. Hope it all works out for you!
2006-12-13 12:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jenjen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you girl? If you have been sexually active, didn't you enjoy it? And who is your father to ask you about sex? Is he a pervert? Find a guy you like enough to want to sleep with. This is screwy
April
2006-12-13 12:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by aprilx4u 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give in to temptation. it doesn't hurt to be different from all the other christians out there is just sex. i say go for it and have fun,.
2006-12-13 12:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by chedderapples 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes keep resisting. and be proud. try not to put yourself in situations were the temptations are there
2006-12-13 12:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by wendy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't give in just wait. you have only been going out for 5 months
2006-12-13 12:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by trigger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think it's a good idea to give in. resist temptation.
2006-12-13 12:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by lila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋