my boy is 3 and my daughter is 1 but they always tends to fight on
the toys.
2006-12-13 04:30:49 · 10 answers · asked by EJ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Throw away the toy they are fighting over.
Be sure they see you do this and know it is because they were fighting over it.
Once they learn you are in control and mean business - They will stop.
2006-12-13 04:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by yardchicken2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To teach your child that the baby gets the toy is to teach them to hate the baby. Take the toy from both of them and let eqach find a new toy. Or better yetplay with them both for a minute or two, they don't need much more than that. Then tell the older one how he is your big helper with the baby and you're so glad you have him (her) to help. Now he sees himself as the baby's caretaker and your aide instead of the baby's rival. The only danger here is that the older child becomes too helpful, but at least they're not fighting.
Just know that they will ALWAYS fight over something; it's written in the sibling law right after the one that says "the one who had it first is NEVER the one it belongs to.")
"It's Mine!"
"I had it first!"
2006-12-13 13:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sameerah E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Less toys. it has been my experience that if a child has too many toys they will constantly fight over them. My suggestion ( it works well teaching them to pick up there own toys as well ) Take them all away- only give them couple to play with, because you shared YOUR toys with them, they must share with each other and pick up the toy and put it away when they are through playing. After they can share a few toys, give them one or two more toys back making sure the rules don't change, meaning they need to share and pick up toys when through. keep doing this until they have EARNED back all their / your toys. this works well.
2006-12-13 13:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by kimmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they fight over the same toy all the time, take it away and put it someplace in plain sight where they can't reach it. Make it clear that if they can't get along and share toys, they become your toys. Leave the toy where it is for a day, then give it back the next day with the stipulation that if they start fighting over it again, it goes away again. Let them share responsibility for their behavior.
Good luck--
2006-12-13 12:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by KD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to have the same dilemma; I two boys and a girl.
1) Get a timer (hour glass-3 min/5 min.) and time them so they could each have their turn. Sold at art stores/educational outlet
2) or you could buy them same toy ( I only did that when they were 2/3 year old.
3) Find books about "Sharing"
4) Time each child or separate them in each room.
good luck!
2006-12-14 12:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sabine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy them each their own toys. Tell your 3 year old that these are HIS toys, and those are HER toys. Or you can put your boy's toys in one room and the girl's in the other. Make sure that the toys don't leave the room that they were put in originally.
2006-12-13 12:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they fight, then take away that toy. Mabey it is time to start teaching your 3 year old, that the baby gets the toy first. That is a great way to teach him to take care of his sister. good luck, I have been there.
2006-12-13 12:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divide the toys between them.
2006-12-13 14:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUY THE SAME THING for both. Try it for a while and then introduce little changes, eg colour, size, additional features, etc.
This may mean what they are actually fighting for is your attention- when they fight you come to the rescue!!!
2006-12-13 12:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boys do that...what i do is take the toy they are fighting over away and say "mine now"....then I brag about all my new toys :) it gets them every time
2006-12-13 13:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Justwonderin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋