I was wondering if any one can help me deal with her death and help me on how to move on and not cry all the time. Thanks this is a big help. And please dont say anything mean to me cuz i just cant deal with it. Oh and im at school right now so icant see her.
2006-12-13 04:17:01 · 18 answers · asked by beth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sorry to hear that. think of the good moment you had with her and pray hard for hear. she will be in better place abd watching over you
2006-12-13 04:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will have to cry eventually to express your grief. When my grandmother died, I was very sad. I left the house that day knowing that I would not see her alive again, and I did it on purpose. I did not want to remember my grand mother dying, it seemed like the last few months had destroyed all of my good memories. Perhaps it will be a blessing if you do not see it - no matter how badly you want to be there. There is nothing I can tell you to ease the pain of a loved ones passing. It will hurt. Crying helps to ease the pain. You need to know that she has gone onto a better place, where pain can no longer touch her. Remember her fondly, all of the good things that she brought to your life, and try to stay strong in your faith.
2006-12-13 12:28:12 · answer #2 · answered by The Pope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always hard to lose a memeber of the family. I'm 19 and all my grandparents are already dead and I've lost friends and family friends..I've already been to 12 funerals. I think the hardest one was when my grandmother on my moms side died in 1995. She lived with us. Nothing I can say can really ease the pain of the lose you are going to have. The only thing I can say is take it one step at a time and if you feel the need to cry let it out because with your tears you let out the pain you have from with in. There is also no time limit for how long you should morn for take how ever long it takes
2006-12-13 12:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gramma just passed away in June, therefore I can relate. She had alzheimer's disease. I did get to see her briefly before it happened and was able to say goodbye to her my own sort of way where she didn't realize that's what I was doing, I talked to her about memories we shared, and while she wasn't completely capable of responding it still did some good for me to know I had shared them with her anyhow. If you can call her just to ask her what her happiest moment in life was you will treasure that even after she is gone, while it may not seem like it when she does pass months later you'll remember those little moments... Also just so you know, it doesn't matter how "prepared" you get for her passing, when it happens you won't be "ready"... I thought I had it all figured out and that I had grieved before she passed, and thought that I had cried so much that there wouldn't be tears upon her passing, but I still find myself teary eyed... but you know what thats okay, crying cleanses the soul... and might I suggest praying for peace that passes all understanding that only God can provide :) He's there, and He'll help you through....
God Bless
2006-12-13 14:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Happysunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear about the lost that you are going to experience. my advice is don't keep your emotions and feelings inside let them out. As far as moving on you can but i lost my grandma when i was 11 and i am 27 now and I never moved on. What I do is remember all the happiness and memories I had with her. Remember she is going to go to a better place where she will suffer no more. Keep your faith. You will get through it, its not going to be easy. I will pray for you and your grandmother. But one thing that usually happens is that after her passing she will give you a sign and you will feel i big relief... best of luck to you and your family.
2006-12-13 12:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by ivonne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear. I was in your position about 8 yrs ago. I went and saw my grandma after school and talked to her. I told her everything that I wanted her to know. When she passed on I made a collage of pictures that I still have hanging on my wall to remember her by. I also visit the cemetery a lot and write letters and read them to her and then burn the ashes of them on top of her grave. These things worked for me, but they may not be for everyone. If all else fails go see a counselor. I hope this helps a little.
2006-12-13 12:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by littleshorty9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, our society pressures people to "move on" too early. It's only been recently that our rituals and grieving time has been taken away from us under the guise of freedom. Rituals and time set away for grieving are important and you should take that time to remember your grandmother and sort out all the feelings that you have. If you feel like you are stuck then you can go and see a counselor (many have a sliding fee) that specializes in grieving and loss to help you in your process. Best of luck!
2006-12-13 12:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by question asker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how hard this is to deal with. Cry as much as you need to, it shows how much you love her. My grandma died on my birthday, every year on my bday i remember what happened and I cry a little out of love. Also when i think of how much fun she was and all the memories i had with her, i cry a little. Its very hard to get over it, but you will, you will always feel her a little sad. But thats a good thing.
2006-12-13 12:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Church. The pastor and other church members will help you find the Best Friend you and your Grandma could ever be able to find. And you will never be alone.
Jesus is the only one who loves you unconditionally and will never leave you. I will pray that He choose both of you and comfort you.
Some people die with a peaceful looking and smile on their face, because they rejoin our Lord in the Heaven. Our journey in this land is like a trip aboard-- some fun, some sorrow-- if you get hit by hurricans-- relatively short. The journey after we die is long and extensive. For both you and your grandma's sake, go to church so that she will be received by Our Lord and enjoying a happy life in the heaven.
Hurry, Don't wait!
2006-12-13 12:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by J F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh Honey, Im so sorry. If you feel like crying..cry. Think about the wonderful memories of your Grandma and all the amazing things she lived to see. Celebrate her life and dont think of her as dying. Think of her as continuing her journey elsewhere. As long as you have her in your heart, she is not gone.
2006-12-13 12:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by girlajeepin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must love her very much. Go ahead and cry, but remember that she would want you to live a happy, productive life with a lot of love - so remember to laugh and smile and to treat others with kindness and a sense of humor. You are lucky to have had someone who loved you, even if her time with you has ended. When you are ready, do something she enjoyed so you can continue her work and share her with others.
2006-12-13 14:57:11 · answer #11 · answered by my sign 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋