"Because of what you did, I cannot be in a relationship with anyone. When I met you 29 years ago, you wrote to me then you stopped writing to me. And you forgot who I was and you never looked me up. And then you married someone else and had kids and now years later you're single and you still didn't look me up. Then when I bumped into you with your grown son at a store, you didn't even introduce me and your son just looked at me with no expression on his face. And another thing, be sure that the democrats are going to win this year and Norway is the best country to live in and Cuba is a good place to live."
What would be your reaction to someone like this? Serious answers please. BTW, I am not with this man and never have been.
2006-12-13 04:05:36 · 12 answers · asked by blue_persuasion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Run! This guy has serious problems and even though he blames you, that's just an excuse. Cut off all contact with him and don't look back.
If he continues to harrass you, notify the police and get a restraining order. He might seem harmless, but if he's been obsessing about a perceived slight from 3 decades ago, it may escalate to violence at some point.
Hopefully he'll just move to Norway or Cuba and you'll be rid of him. Good luck! :-)
2006-12-13 04:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think he was mentally unbalanced. Do not get rid of this, but do not contact this guy. There is a disorder called erotomania where a person has a delusion and seriously believes that they are or have been in a realationship with a person they have never or have only causually met. It can often turn into stalking and this letter could be a crucial peice of evidence if restraining orders and/or criminal complaints against this guy become needed. I read a good book on this once by a shrink who was a victim of this. "I Know You Really Love Me" by Doreen Orion.
2006-12-13 04:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd said whoa guy, you're obsessed. I don't think it's your fault at all for whatever this guy is going through. 29 years is a long time for anybody to be stuck on one person that you've never even been with. Sounds like either he wants to make you feel guilty because of his lost emotions or he's just messin with you. I'm leaning towards the first. Don't even bother life goes on.
2006-12-13 04:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say something like, "I'm sorry that you have created an illusion in your mind about me. May I suggest you get some counseling so that you can get on with your life? Good luck." Then walk away, quickly, refusing to engage with him in any way again.
2006-12-13 04:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by Karen L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'd have to know the whole story surrounding this scenerio...but it sounds like either the guy is a jerk or the lady is psycho. Seriously. I wouldn't take her seriously if she paid me to.
2006-12-13 04:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jennalove311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently this guy had very deep feelings for you and you obviously didn't feel the same way about him. This guy is crazy...he made the decision to be miserable and not date anymore...not your problem. He needs help.
2006-12-13 04:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just think that they had personal issues and not speak to them again. You can't place blame like that on somebody. They sound unstable anyways.
2006-12-13 04:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would call him a jerk and walk away and then turn as ur leaving and say that america is better
2006-12-13 04:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sm@rtAs$ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do I know you?
2006-12-13 04:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by kisme86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't talk to this man---EVER.
2006-12-13 04:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋