Does anyone else's children rule the roost?

Question

Mine, two girls aged 9 and 10 run about the house giggling and screaming just being kids I suppose but I am a quiet person. If one wants to do her homework the other distracts her, we can't all sit and watch a movie together because they constantly giggle and mess about so I end up going into another room for some peace, it's driving me mad especially leading up to Christmas and I end up shouting at them, they completely take over the lounge and I end up sitting in the kitchen.

Yes I agree I need to get a grip and take control of this situation but am feeling a bit under the weather at the moment, the eldest one is the ringleader and I have just sent her to her room for knocking over a plant. She tends to get the blame for everything

I would also like to add that they are not at all like this outside the home and are well mannered and polite and people tell me what lovely girls they are, but they just don't seem to have any respect for their home environment.

Answer 1

Georgy I think you have to be more firm with the girls what they are doing is normal but when you want a little peace and quiet then you should show them you are the boss and if that's not appreciated then punish them in a lot of ways otherwise when they get older your staring at real trouble

Answer 2

I have 4 children, 9, 4, 2, and 2 months.... around here is hectic. Sometimes a little out of hand, but they definately do not rule the roost.
Honestly it just sounds like you are overwhelmed. Find a way to relax for a bit, maybe while they are at school, then sit down and talk to them when you are not already annoyed. Set a list of expectations for them, listening to you would be top priority, and than set a list of consequences. If they are being "annoyingly loud" they go to their room so others can enjoy the "common" areas of the house.
An idea for a quieter movie is popcorn, a full mouth is usually a quieter mouth.... hehe.
Try to find the activites that they do quietly and encourage them to act this way more often.
Some ideas for quiet time:
beading bracelets
making christmas cards for friends/later writing thank you notes
making a scrapbook
crafting projects with paint, markers, glue, glitter... whatever you have on hand
makeover day, have them do each others hair and pull out some old makeup for them to use, or get them some kids makeup

Diet can also play into hyperactivity, or sometimes food allergies.

Answer 3

kids will be kids.i have two nieces at 10 and 9,they also have a brother at 6 and a sister at 4.my sister who has the children also has a food business and 1 rottweiler,3 cats,a guinea pig and fish.as you can imagine this is chaotic.when it comes to getting the 9 and 10 year old to do there homework + chores,she uses a behaviour chart.it works great.the girls used to be a real handful and would not listen to a thing there mother said.now they are great,they respect there home and belongings so much better now as well as there mother.what to do is make a chart for each of the girls and buy some stickers for it.only reward the girls for doing exactly as they are asked,if the dont the first time,they get a warning of a sad face on the chart,and if still they do not do it then you put a sad face on the chart(no matter even if the girls then plead with you not to,once you have said you are going to do so,u must.)at the end of the week,if they have so many stickers,(your choice) then reward them with some pocket money.if they dont have enough good stickers at the end of the week DO NOT give them some pocket money.i hope this helps!!!!

Answer 4

I have to ask you, who is the parent in this relationship? You or the children? It sounds like the children, you leave the room because they are acting up? So you just let them get away with it and do nothing?

Hell no, that would not happen in my home. My children know who's boss and it's not them. My 8 year old tries to run the house but it doesn't work. He gets sent to his room, or a time out or even writing sentences, he could lose computer time or video game time. There are a lot of things you can do and should be doing. You are the parent, act like one. By the time these kids are teenagers they are going to be worse...and then you'll really have problems!

Answer 5

Kids have a tendancy to take over, if you let them. As the adult in this household, you should be the one in control and have boundries as well as respect. Bad behavior is only there if you allow it.
At about the age of 7 I had a long talk with my daughter, (because she said she was getting armpit hair) I explained that she is now an authentic young lady and should act like one. So we talked for a bit and I told her I would take her to dinner the following night. We got ready together and dressed together. Commented on each others attire and I even helped them put on a little lip gloss and a little blush.
I took her to a somewhat fancy restaurant she remembered her table manners. I was very impressed and mentioned to the waitress that she was an authentic young lady who was going to behave appropriately. The waitress helped me out on this and even brought my daughter a ice cream sundae after our meal for being such a beautiful 'young lady'. Stopping outbursts and reminding her of her new status in life brought her back to reality.
I didn't have to yell, I talked with her.
This forever changed our relationship. I gave my daughter recognition and respect and we are very close, to this day. She is 23 now and works full time and attends college. She calls me and I call her, our visits are short because of our schedules and we miss each other very much. We have dinner or lunch alone the first Wednesday of each month.

You with your two daughters, should have a lot of fun. If you don't think so, make it fun.
You see, you need to give respect to get it.
If you lose them at this age, what will become of your relationship later in life?
I believe if youspend time with your kids they will respect you and will probably think of next time before they invade your 'space'.
It seems like they follow you around the house to be near you. And you walk away. Your girls will never be this age again - they grow up, move out and don't have time for you - Enjoy them now and maybe you'll visits in your old age. You sound pretty intelligent so I'm sure you get the point.
Good Luck and Have fun through the holiday's honey!!

Answer 6

That's why they're called Kids! The trick is to draw a file line for kids to learn by their childish pranks without them forgetting that there is a Boss in the House who lays down the Law. Ask your mom or your M-in-law for more advice. They'll be happy to be included in this aspect of family and their presence in your house will also tend to have a calming effect on your kids.

Answer 7

Some of that is normal, they're just being kids. But they need to understand that there is an appropriate time and place for that sort of behavior and while watching a movie or doing homework is not appropriate. You have to have consequences for acting up when they are supposed to be doing something else.

Answer 8

Yes, my granddaughter, she has a three year old, she let him have all his own way right from the very start, now she can't do anything with him, if he wants to stay up until 6 o'clock in the morning, he does and like an idiot, she stays up with him. God knows whats going to happen, when he starts school, she's really going to have a problem.

Answer 9

i have 4 kids aged 10, 3, 2 and 3month and the 3 eldest rule our house if they dont get to watch what they want they talk really loud so we cant hear the tv. my hubby and i hardly ever get to share the same bed as they get in there n kick us out to.

Answer 10

No way. I am the parent. I refuse to let my house become a zoo. My husband and I want well-mannered children, not the ones that run the house and make every adult in the town cringe at their sight. If you want control, then take it. Your children act the way you let them!