it's my sister, she's way over 400 lbs. i'm trying to get her to move to georgia with me from michigan, so that we can start 2007 with a life changing year. i'm afraid something terrible may happen to her if she does not do some soon. she gets an attitude when you suggest things to her or try to encourage to do something about the weight problem. please help me!!!
2006-12-13 03:58:50 · 11 answers · asked by ladyjo983 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You cannot help someone who does not want to be helped. It is like trying to get an alcoholic to stop drinking. Unless he wants help there is nothing you can do. Since she is resentful of your suggestions I would stop making suggestions but instead try getting her to do more things with you like taking walks or going to a pool for some exercise. What about some ballroom or country western dance lessons? Also why not invite her to your house often if you can and cook some good meals that are tasty but not high in calories. Your sister is most like not comfortable with her weight and realizes that her life is in danger but until she is willing to accept help there is not a lot you can do.
2006-12-13 04:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your sister is already depressed because of her weight and talking about it only adds to the depression. I would recommend that you mail her some literature about a water/ juice fast so she can see the benefits of fasting. I have lost over 41 pounds since Sept 17, 06 by being on my treadmill and I have lost 10 pounds on a 7 days water fast. Try giving her info! Also, be a positive motivator! Good Luck and I really hope your sister finds the help she needs!
2006-12-13 12:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure that you are not insulting or attacking her self worth when you discuss it. Try to tell her how much you love her and care about her. Let her know that you are concerned that her weight may cause health difficulties. Tyr to get her to see a doctor for a physical to see if there are health problems. Encourage her and praise her for who she is. Avoid judging her based on her weight. Also, you could not discuss it, just try to engage her in more activities she may enjoy. Good luck.
2006-12-13 12:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by Bag-A-Donuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are concerned and worried about your sister and want to help her. I would want to help anyone close to me that had any health condition, other people seem to think that because she's obese well , dont bother helping her. Thats not acceptable. Maybe you could talk to a therapist/counsellor who deals with obesity and they could give you some ideas on how to talk to her. She probably has deep issues which make her defensive when you offer help, I think she's scared of the change. It would be great for her to be close by to you to help get her health back, I wouldnt give up.. Good Luck.
2006-12-13 12:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by kazt_75 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone, you love them unconditionally. Nothing else is truly love.
Your sister's weight is actually none of your business. I understand that you might be telling yourself "it's for her own good and you are only trying to help", but that's really not the truth.
You need to examine why you are making an issue out of her weight. Are you ashamed of her? Do you think her weight makes you look bad? Do you think she is stupid? What's your real reason? Be honest with yourself.
No one can change anyone even a tiny bit. And when people become anxious to change someone else, they need to ask themselves why, and if their life is such perfection that they can start directing someone else on how to run their life?
My answer to you? Love your sister as she is or leave her alone. She doesn't need someone telling her she's fat. She knows it.
2006-12-13 12:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a psychological thing, so try and get her a job intermingling with local, small town people. This might help boost her self esteem up to a point where she may want (to do it herself) to change several of her bad habits.
2006-12-13 12:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by stevieeee12000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try showing her how much a health risk she is and explain to her that she is going to die sooner and with more problems if she doesn't take control of her life
also, we are supposed to be helping each other not correcting spelling and grammar so can everyone stop being ******* about peoples spelling etc, unless its unreadable you are just being rude!
2006-12-13 12:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by soccer2music 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, leave her alone I know you love her but if someone is obese and they know that they are obese. Whenever they get in the mood to lose weight than she will.
2006-12-13 12:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by Miah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might start by learning how to speak and spell proper English. Otherwise, this is your sister's problem and no amount of your urging is going to help her. She has to want help (not "won't help"). She has to be ready to change and if she is not, she will not. Love her as she is.
2006-12-13 12:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
hey, when you get the answer to that, let me know cuz i have the same problem.
2006-12-13 13:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by amberiscool_2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋