He is not what he seems to be before. He claim that he cares for me. He doesn't love me , that was a point made long beofre our relationshi got this far. Now, he's got his friends that he has to spend time with and I am just another option. I can't take this anymore, but I find it very difficult to let go. I do love him a lot, but I just can't stand his attitude towards me. I spoke to him about this, but all he could say is it his situation and he cannot change it! I can'tstand that fact, but when he asked me to be friend, I begged him not to leave me now. I know you can say I am stupid. But one can be stupid when they are in love.
Please, I need your help out there! I need to know what's the easiest way to get him out of my mind and out of my head! pls help me!
2006-12-13 03:57:24 · 9 answers · asked by Mamamia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Friends???? That's the most difficult part for me.... I don't have any friends now, due to some bad experience in my life.
2006-12-13 04:00:45 · update #1
Stop talking to him. He is not worth your time. Someone who needs to spend more time with his friends instead of you is a loser. He needs to appreciate you which as I can tell he doesn't. As hard as it may be move on. Do things you enjoy to keep your mind off of him. As you can see he isn't worth your time before you were involved in the relationship he made it clear to you that a future wasn't in his plans therefore it should be even easier to forget about him and realize that he is no good and you will never have a future you deserve with him. So now as hard as it may let it go. Do you really want to spend your life with someone who really does not care for you?
2006-12-13 04:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the thrid wheel as I call it... Yeah those calls in the middle of the night "what are you doing, I miss you" are pretty annoying. "His friends had other plans, so he turns to you" Letting go is hard, and feeling as though you haven't done everything in your power to change his mind is a horrible feeling. Its hard to take your mind off it, and put it behind you. Truly, the only thing you can do is give it time. Do the things you might not have been able to do when you were with him, hang out with friends, go shopping, take up a hobby you always wanted to try. My last advice being.... ignore the hell out of him, when he calls dont answer, when he texts - dont reply. Let him know how it feels to be avoided and left to be a third wheel- you now have a life which means you dont have time to hang out.... Just as he doenst have the time to see you because he has his friends. Its going to be hard, but you'll get over it.
2006-12-13 04:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him or look for him.. Give him some time to see what he has and what he could be missing out on.. Trust me it's all about the chase.. If he really cares about u he would realize after a few days of not hearing from you.. Try it you'll see. It worked for me!! Just be paitent!!!!
Good luck
2006-12-13 04:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation and i'm just as stupid... But the best thing u could do is leave him, just be friends wit him but not to close of friends cause then it would make things hard... I wish i could do the same but its easier said then done...
2006-12-13 04:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Asia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy doing other things. The more you are thinking of something or someone else, the less you'll be thinking of him. And with a little time, it will get easier & easier. And....whatever you do, stop acting desperate about him....even if you are. Act like you could care less about him & I guarantee you...that will get to him more than anything else ever could.
2006-12-13 04:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by Dianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the men we women love, are very hard to forget, yes we can forget them when we are angry, but after all that , the love for him is all u feel and then what, back to square one, my guess is dumb him he does want u, and honestly the best guys for us is the once we left behing for the once we are with.
2006-12-13 04:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Janet E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all ur not stupid, many women & men are attached to people that are not good for them. u need to start going out on dates with other guys, but nothing can subsitute for really true & good friends.
2006-12-13 04:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by missbronzebeauty09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go out and have fun and then stay around your friends and family and just have fun and you won't think about him if your having fun.
2006-12-13 03:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by fenkell_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u deserve to be treated like a queen...
and this guy treats u like a slave...
leave him girl....
do it for yourself
2006-12-13 04:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by richard k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋