Broken hearted :(?

Question

my bf of 3months finished me two nights ago. he said its cos he didnt love me 100% anymore and he couldnt be with me if he didnt. he also said he'd started to fall for another girl at his college, we live far away from each other and was in a LD. we agreed to stay friends and we'd still keep in touch as we was friends before and shared everything. i still love him but hes confusin me. he hardly texts back and sometimes the texts are friendly but others they are cold. i feel like hes not bothered but i love him too much to let him go. what should i do? i can't ignore him, it kills me more not knowing whats going on with him. he helped me through depression and without him it'll come back :(

i went out with a guy for a year before and the heartbreak wasn't this bad. i just love him so much and i can't bare to lose him. i've accepted we won't get back together (well i dont think we will) but i dont want to lose him as a friend because hes the best friend i've ever had.

he was everything to me. and fufilled me in every way possible. we even promised each other we'd be together forever and always love each other and stuff like that. i could tell him everything. we used to sit for hours on the phone just watched tv and not talkin but we got each other and our relationship was unlike no other. we argued through the first month but since then everythings been perfect since the beginning of the week when it all just stopped and i dunno why.

Answer 1

Its crap, it hurts and it takes time, but you will come out the other side. Hang in there chick

Answer 2

Better off now than later. These things that seem like the end of the world quite often end up being a blessing - but I know thats hard to take right now.

Get out there - meet with friends, rev your life up again, get a haircut go shopping. Do whatever it does that makes you happy.

Don't give yourself more than a few days to cry and mope. From then on try and be positive and when you get upset take the time to think about it, then reinforce something positive that you have to look forward to.

Don't dwell, it will be amazing when you find a guy who is 100% into you. You'll look back at this one day.

Be strong, and get some help if you need it. I'm sure you're a fighter so don't let this get you!!!

Good luck x

Answer 3

It's not unusual to fall out of love with someone but i've never known it to happen so quick (3 months?!)....

Anyway, you said he hardly "texts back". This clearly means you've been making the effort possibly more than he has. If he's been honest enough with you to tell you he's started having feelings for somebody else but you both agreed to be friends, this explains his "confusing" texts. He's still trying to be friends with you but perhaps it's just awkward considering the circumstances. Other times, he may be sending "happy" texts probably because he still cares for you and genuinely wants to remain a friend of yours.

I suppose the best thing you can do, for yourself, is just distance yourself and really cut down on contact - at least for the time being. You never know, it may really hit him if he sees you getting on with your life... and not being in touch as much. He may even start to miss you and what you had..... Having said that, don't expect things to return but just let him figure out in himself whether his feelings were genuine.

It's a hard thing to do but trust me, it'll do wonders... and i don't only mean for you. If you find his feelings weren't genuine and he's still the same with you in a few weeks/months then you really should move on (if you havent already by then).... you don't deserve to be with a guy who falls in love with someone else when he's meant to be in love with you!!

I wish you all the best... and i hope things work out for you. Be strong!! xxxx

Answer 4

Listen, it'll only come back if you let it. I'd say let him get on with things.

My ex split up with me 18 months ago. We were engaged for about 5 months. We promised each other we'd be there for each other and I was always there for her. Both of us had been told that we had depression by doctors, and both of us had been perscribed anti-depressants (me about two years before her). When she went through a period where she slit her wrists, I stood by her and made sure that no one could hurt her. When her mum threw her out, I took her in and gave her everything I had.

A couple of months later, I decided that I couldn't take the pain I was feeling from her family and my family. I took an overdose and was admitted to hospital (luckily just in time, otherwise I would have had my stomach pumped). A month later ... she cheated on me. I was going through counselling at the time and, if I'm completly honest, her leaving me didn;t affect me one bit. I was actually more worried about who I was going to take to a concert instead of her! (I've been cheated on a few times, it's second nature to me!)

My advice to you is to just find something else that you love. My concert got me through her leaving me, and I feel so much better about myself too. Alternatively, you (and all your mates) can always come up to Manchester and we can go out clubbing it. (And that's a genuine offer, if you honestly want it.)

Hope it helps.

Answer 5

I feel for you girl. But you can't make a guy love you. If he told you he doesn't love you a 100% anymore don't you think you deserve someone who will love you 100%. I know it's hard to let someone go especially if they helped you emotionally someway...but the best thing to do is let him go. You will drive yourself crazy if you don't. If you feel like your depression will come back then I would get professional help.

Answer 6

Let go. It may be hard cause he left you for another person but my bf left me because he oved me too much and was scared i would hurt him so he left me!!! How confused do you think i was??? I went though feeling depressed and if i text him he didnt really text back much but after a while we started chatiing more and now we are really good friends!! Only time will tell so sit back and wait!!

Answer 7

Let him go. He's not texing like he used to because he's trying not to hurt you by giving you hope. He's said that he's interested in someone else so you have to let him live his life, this is what love is about sometimes. You can't depend on him for your depression not coming back, go and see a doctor to get proffessional help. You will find someone else you just have to give it time.

Answer 8

No your depression will not come back you need to go to a mental health clinic and get medications and therapy you also deserve to be with a guy that will love you 100 % back and not be in love with someone else so be strong and get the help that you need

Answer 9

You can survive this. Make some friends and hang out with them, if you don't already any. I know it's hard to believe, but you can make it without him, been there, done that. Once you start focusing on you and not worrying about him, he may come back. But, if he doesn't, move on, you will find someone who will love you 100%. Please don't stick yourself in a relationship with someone who doesn't love you as they should. One good thing, he does seem to be honest.

Answer 10

Im in a 4 month relationship now, he was my first - if you know what I mean, and now I cant get out of this relationship even though he is not making me happy any more. Where you really still happy with him? Did he complete you in every way possible?

Answer 11

no you won't you don't need him, move on! I suggest you go out join a club meet new people, DONT text him at all. Seriosously you can't be friends with someone you still love in that way it will hurt fae too much you don't need that, it will be hard but ignore him find something better to do with your time.
hope this helps.xxxx