An guy that I have been seeing on and off ended on Monday. As One minuted we are commited and really cool and the other minute he is not to sure if he is in the frame of mind to attend to a commited relationship. I think he can b very Fickle! When and if we have broken up for a couple of days he will call me to say that he does want to keep seeing each other, but I give in to easy and let him take me for a drink and to dinner ect. I wanted to say goodbye all together when he told me this on monday, but he didn't want to allow this as we are VERY close. He says that he will be deeply and extremely sad if we were to let what had be destroyed and that he still wants to remain close, even as friends. But I feel that he will only have a renewed appreciation for me if we had time apart. As they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.. I have been silent since and he emailed me earlier today should I reply, or allow more time for him to maybe realise? I don't want to give in too easy..?
2006-12-13 03:42:16 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you just said that yourself: you don't wanna give in too easy. wait ...give yourself a week or two and see how you feel and how he responds. however, if this is a pattern, give him an altimatum that if he breaks it again next time, it's over and you follow up. if you don't, he will never have to respect your wish and what you say because you're not consistent so he doesn't have to respect your choices!
2006-12-13 03:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to continue in a committed, monogomous relationship, but he is not sure. So you've ended up feeling a bit like a yo-yo, one day he's pulling you close, the next day he's pushing you away. Here's what to do; Take care of yourself, no one will feel good about themselves when the other person can turn the relationship off or on at will. His not being sure should not be viewed as a negative thing though, sounds like he's being honest, he's not sure. So tell him that while you will always value his friendship, the "break" he has requested has to really happen. That will give him time to decide (rather than back and forth dithering) and give you the freedom to explore life without him. Whatever happens in your relationship, getting back together, only being friends, whatever, needs to happen without the good old standby, "habit" being a big player. Whatever you both learn, it will be for the best.
2006-12-13 03:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him exactly how you feel. I don't believe in "absense makes the heart grow fonder". More like "out of sight, out of mind". It's easier to get over someone, for example, with some distance between you. You need to let him know you're tired of the on and off relationship. He can either be in it, or out of it, but you can not straddle the fence. Good luck.
2006-12-13 03:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absence to a pair volume, makes your coronary heart improve fonder. yet while it exceeds a undeniable decrease, we merely die of remorseful approximately for having even properly-known that individual. We undergo a poor soreness. A soreness so insufferable, that we sense forgetting that individual is merely extra beneficial than bearing this soreness. Even anger dominates at particular time. each and every thing will become completely unbalanced. We sense perplexed approximately each and every thing.
2016-12-30 08:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋