My family and my fiancee's family are soooo old fashioned. I read the bible plenty of times. I just think that it's an old wives' tale so that people would get married b4 moving in with each other. The why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free thing. Back in the day, people got married at a young age (13-18) I'm 29 and my fiancee is 28. We moved in together b/c we lived in the same apt complex paying 565 each and we thought about saving some money since we are together all the time. We were just using the other place as a closet. I thought that was the best move and now we are saving money to get married. Every time someone says that's a sin, I say show me where it says that in the bible and if they think that the ways of the old are the same as today...I think not!
2006-12-13 03:39:21 · 26 answers · asked by angelic1302 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
shack up- to move in with your significate other...ie boyfriend, girlfriend, not married.
2006-12-13 03:43:19 · update #1
Fornication: isn't it fornication when you pleasure yourself also? So it's a sin also? Can we live by ourselves? I don't think so, we think we did the right move...
2006-12-13 03:51:09 · update #2
ok i see the point about the shacking up part and divorce rate thing but I don't believe it's the case for us. We are almost 30, it might be the case for younger people who hasn't live life yet. We both been through a lot, we know what to do and what not to do. We think that's perfect to be together b/c we are getting married and we are living like we are already and it's going great!
2006-12-13 03:56:10 · update #3
My parents are the same way. Very conservative, very religious...and here i am living with my boyfriend.
Its not the fact that you are physically dwelling in the same house thats a sin, its the premarital sex part. That's what i thought was dumb...they put so much emphasis on saying "living together" is a sin, but even if you weren't, you would still be having sex (if you so choose and it sounds like you do) so its completely retarded why they make such a big deal about "shacking up". I finally told my parents:
"Look, you know we are having sex...you know i never bought into that crap. I am not going to put myself further in debt by paying for a separate apartment just so i can LOOK appropriate to you and your church friends, when you know i will be staying at his place all the time and still having sex.
After living with him, now i cannot imagine getting married without living with someone first.
BY THE WAY! Living together does NOT increase chance of divorce, this is also an "old wives tale" . I did a reseach project on it in grad school, and found that it actually increased marital success, when you went into the cohabitation with commitment.
Why am i getting all these thumbs down? People just don't want to hear when they might be wrong.
2006-12-13 03:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 5⤊ 4⤋
You can live with you boyfriend...but just don't have sex. If you can do that...then it will be okay. Most people can't do this, therefore it's a problem.
Any sex outside of marriage is fornication and fornication is a sin.
Colossians 3:5 So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world. 6 Because of these sins, the anger of God is coming.[b] 7 You used to do these things when your life was still part of this world.
Galatians 5:Living by the Spirit’s Power
16 So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves. 17 The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions. 18 But when you are directed by the Spirit, you are not under obligation to the law of Moses.
19 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, 21 envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.
It also mentioned in Romans.
Actually, it's mentioned throughout the Holy Bible. That's because it is important to God. If it's important to Him...it needs to be important to us.
When you fornicate, you are sinning inside your own body. Since it is the temple of the Holy Spirit, you are defiling the temple / your body. Any other sin is outside the body.
2006-12-13 03:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
k even though I'm a Christan and everything I'm not about to press my opinions on anyone but this is just what i think and you don't have to accept it but the bible does say why it is wrong and there are so many cases where if people had just waited whole lives wouldn't have been screwed up right from the beginning without a chance. and the bible says that having sex before marriage is kinda like cheating on the person you have your future relationship with. and having the sex before marriage is like the easy way out because you forfeit the commitment and i think it leaves you more room to get hurt. my mom used to say that if you're not responsible enough for having a baby or suffering the consequences then youre not entirely responsible enough for the act.... and sorry but the bible isn't just a book.. okay its debatable because some people believe that it isn't the truth, i get that, but it also says that it will always be around and haven't leaders and cultures tried to completely rid of it by burning them, by making them illegal, and by killing anyone who owns one? and it is still around today... but no one can judge you for your decisions cause they're yours
2006-12-13 04:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by :. kell-e .: 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on the baby and being engaged both are milestones in this journey of life. To answer your question...yes, it is considered a sin to shack up...why? because when you love someone the way God loves them you see them as a person worth value, love, and respect. You don't see them as a means to end. The reason it is considered a sin because it takes the value, respect, and dignity away without responsibility to the person you are shacking up with. If you are living together then go get married. You are already living together make it legit for the sake of your fiance and your child...they deserve that.
2016-03-13 06:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I showed you in the Bible that it is a sin, how would that change your perspective? That would be like telling someone who speeds on a highway, to stop because it's against regulations... that won't stop them. Just like if I proved to you that it's a sin to lie... you won't stop lying. So why even bother to ask?
But, just for kicks... look up the word fornication in a dictionary, then look it up in the bible.. and you'll get your answer.
2006-12-13 03:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by mamikorg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 Thess. 4:3-8: “This is what God wills . . . that you abstain from fornication; that each one of you should know how to get possession of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in covetous sexual appetite such as also those nations have which do not know God; that no one go to the point of harming and encroach upon the rights of his brother in this matter, because Jehovah is one who exacts punishment for all these things, just as we told you beforehand and also gave you a thorough witness. For God called us, not with allowance for uncleanness, but in connection with sanctification. So, then, the man that shows disregard is disregarding, not man, but God, who puts his holy spirit in you.”
Eph. 5:5: “No fornicator or unclean person or greedy person—which means being an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of the Christ and of God.” (This does not mean that anyone who in the past was a fornicator cannot enjoy the blessings of God’s Kingdom, but he must cease that way of life in order to have God’s approval.
1 Corinthians 6:9-11:What! Do YOU not know that unrighteous persons will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be misled. Neither fornicators...
2006-12-13 03:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by Janos 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bible 'old or new' does not condem living together. It may have something to say about what you may or may not do as a result of living together.
2006-12-13 04:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The early church at Jerusalem sent a letter to the Gentile churches.
For it seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us to lay no greater burden on you than these requirements: You must abstain from eating food offered to idols, from consuming blood or eating the meat of strangled animals, and from sexual immorality. If you do this, you will do well. Farewell.
Acts 15:28-29
Living together without sexual contact is socially questionable. With sexual contact, you need to confirm your marital union by official documentation or face God's discipline for living in sin. This would be fornication, gross immorality, unacceptable for the body of Christ.
This is pretty basic, if you don't recognize this as from the Lord, you are in danger of judgment.
Be careful then, dear brothers and sisters. Make sure that your own hearts are not evil and unbelieving, turning you away from the living God. You must warn each other every day, as long as it is called "today," so that none of you will be deceived by sin and hardened against God. For if we are faithful to the end, trusting God just as firmly as when we first believed, we will share in all that belongs to Christ. But never forget the warning:
"Today you must listen to his voice.
Don't harden your hearts against him
as Israel did when they rebelled."
And who were those people who rebelled against God, even though they heard his voice? Weren't they the ones Moses led out of Egypt? And who made God angry for forty years? Wasn't it the people who sinned, whose bodies fell in the wilderness? And to whom was God speaking when he vowed that they would never enter his place of rest? He was speaking to those who disobeyed him. So we see that they were not allowed to enter his rest because of their unbelief.
Hebrews 3:12-19
2006-12-13 04:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jay Z 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called fornication - having sex before marriage. Yes it is a sin and it is in the Bible. Sorry.
2006-12-13 03:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by jworks79604 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i have struggled this also. my friend put it right in my eyes. we all sin(which means apart from god' ideal plan) and no sin is any worse than other. i love Jesus and know me even struggling with sex before marriage - he is aware that i am worried about doing wrong. you are being humble and Jesus loves that. Jesus came to die to save us from our sins. all he requires is we love him. this isn't an excuse to do bad; because if you love someone you will want to do your best but know at times you will fail. keep loving Jesus and listen to your heart. judging is a sin and i believe that is a lot of peoples short falls. read in the bible how much Jesus detested that but loved sinners. all the best in your relationship xx
2006-12-13 03:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by poppy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋