I have been dating a guy from September until now. I haven't slept with him or even kissed him and we've only truly hung out a couple of times but talk on the phone on the regular. He likes to come to the library and watch me study. A couple of days ago I wanted to advance our relationship to another level (us exclusively dating) but he says he's not looking for that right now. He constantly tells me I'm mad cool and that I would be a great mother. I know he likes me cause he is still around. Should I still keep waiting on him to get his stuff together or just cut him off completely?
2006-12-13 03:36:40 · 8 answers · asked by TILAC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to give up the goods before you can make him commit like that. You should sleep with him. Be sure you use protection because you will get pregnant if you don't, and your life will spiral out of control and you will end up a single mom with no money to feed your baby, wondering what the hell just happened.
2006-12-13 04:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've made a good friend. If you're looking for a relationship then date other people. If he knows your fantastic and hasn't gotten it into his mind that he wants to be exclusive then it's time to find someone that can piece those two things together. If he comes around after figuring out that you're moving on with or without him, then visit that when it comes.
Generally when we're not looking for a relationship it means we haven't found the person that we feel we want a relationship with. Sometimes we don't understand it that way. But once you've found someone super special you don't worry so much about how ready you are right now. You get ready along the road.
2006-12-13 11:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by just the facts, mam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want someone that doesn't have his stuff together in the first place? Are you having a good time? If ya think you are, why are you writing this? He's stringing you along OR he just thinks of you as a friend. If he really was interested in you, he'd be doing whatever he had to do to be able to spend time with you. At least he told you he's not looking for that. Listen to what he said, combined with what he does (not available much) and you have your answer.
2006-12-13 11:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time waiting for him. Treat him nicely, like a friend but make it clear to him that you want a boyfriend and if he isn't interested in having a girlfriend then you are going to start making time for other guys. If he's cool with that then you have your answer and you should carry on just as you've stated. If he doesn't want you as a girlfriend you should'nt wait and continue to entertain his phone calls. He can still be a friend but don't let him get in the way of you meeting someone who WANTS to date you and kiss you and not share you with anyone!
2006-12-13 11:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can do the two things at the same time. be his good friend and see him and meanwhile try to date others whom you may be interested in and don't hide that from him..so he knows you're available to others. if he likes you enough, he will advance it. if not, you have a friend and you move on!
2006-12-13 11:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt keep waiting...he had his chances and if he's holding off that long he must not like you that much...theres more fish in the sea!!!!!!!!
2006-12-13 11:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by ƪ♥ᴀᴀᴙᴓɳ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can keep waiting while do your own activities. If he is designated for you, he will be yours, if not, they are plenty guys queing for you.
2006-12-14 22:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by Suparto Jaya kusuma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep waiting ...it'll pay off sooner or later....
2006-12-13 11:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by ~Ohio State~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋