Why do you deny that to be gay is to be born gay? What makes you think homosexuality is a choice?

Question

What's to be gained by the constant prejudice endured, being ostracized by one's own family and friends?

What must it be like to not be able to display a picture of your significant other in your place of employment, for fear of reprisal?

Wouldn't it be awful to love someone dearly, yet know you could never marry?

What heartache to spend a lifetime with someone, only to find that you are unable to help make end of life decisions, even though your partner has made his/her last wishes clear to you.

The list of reasons why people WOULD NOT CHOOSE to be gay goes on. So I ask again...

Why do you deny that to be gay is to be born gay? What makes you think homosexuality is a choice?

JJB...you just called a woman "Dummy." Your maturity is showing.

Mike...AIDS hits everyone.....that argument won't work with me. It's a cop-out for when you have nothing substantial to say.

Answer 1

Darling, it is a little known fact that the majority of people are secretly bisexual, with about 30% being 100% gay or straight--since most people do have a choice in the matter they assume everybody else does too

Answer 2

We all have, what is termed in Christianity, "free will". You can choose to commit sin or not. If you didn't have this free will, this ability to choose, then it wouldn't be fair to judge you against any standard, would it?

I do believe that folks seem to have a special inclination toward certain sins in their lives, whether it be sexual sin, lust, hatred, adultery, pornography, rudeness, etc. This inclination is likely a combination of several things.

These influences include: upbringing (probably the biggest), spiritual battles within the family (ie, a "spirit of divorce, a spirit of drunkness, etc) and, quite possibly a genetic factor.

You see, after the fall of Adam, not all things have been functioning on this earth as designed. So if some are born with a genetic disposition toward some particular sin, it would not surprise me.

However, I've only described inclinations - nothing that can't be overcome with the help of God through Jesus Christ.

Obviously, choosing to be homosexual has been a painful choice for you. My heart goes out to you. But your sin is not a special category beyond the help of God.

Do you know Christ? That's the eternal question. When you really know Jesus Christ, He will guide you in such things, but I'm not going to be able to convince you one way or another. And you know what, that's not really my job, it's His job.

I'm only a thirsty man telling another where to find water.

God bless -jn

Answer 3

I call homosexuality a choice because it's impossible for a person to be "born gay". A child isn't mature enough to understand the things that pertain to its maturity and sexuality until puberty at minimum and then, their environment must be taken into account (personal and spiritual upbringing and etc.). If a person is led to believe at a young age that homosexuality is OK, then when these "feelings" arise in them, they'll be condoned, instead of remembering in Scripture where God calls homosexuality an "abomination". God has nothing to do with the allowance of such a thing to run rampant in our society, for "corruption cannot put on incorruption". Homosexuality is a direct Satanic contrast to what God ordained! I know you've heard the old argument about Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve, but sadly, that's the root of the lie! Satan has put in the hearts of all of us the POTENTIAL for sin, but with God's help over what has to arise from conscious choice, we can be healed.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Because I have friends who feel they weren't born gay, but have made the choice to live that lifestyle. It's exciting to them. I know, I also have friends who feel they were born that way, but unfortunately there is no solid evidence to support the idea people are born gay. So, until we get hard facts I guess we continue on, hopefully respecting all people regardless of their sexual preferrences. I agree gay people should not be ostracized, and they aren't at my workplace. I also agree if they love someone they should be with them, and even have rights. I have not convinced myself yet the importance of "marriage", especially if civil unions are an option.

Answer 6

As a Christian I'll admit that being gay IS in the genes. There is also Scientific evidence (seriously) to support that whether or not you're a serial killer is sometimes determined by your gene make-up as well. When I used to party and womanize, that was in my genes as well. It's called the sin gene, and we all have it. Christ is the only remedy for the sin gene. In the 90's we always heard this. "It's not my fault because I had a hard childhood", or whatever. I thought we got rid of this blame my actions on something else thinking, but I guess not.

Answer 7

Homosexuality clearly is not a choice, though homosexual behavior, like any behavior, is certainly a choice. However, not being a choice doesn't infer a genetic cause, or "being born that way". Newborns do not have sexuality. Sexuality is learned/acquired through early childhood experience with adults of both sexes. There is absolutely no evidence to suggest that the condition is genetic, in spite of intense research aimed at finding such a causative factor.
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Answer 8

It is really subjective.It can be proved or disproved.It would be a hard study.You would have to raise a child on a island.With a man and a women.Neither one more dominate.No signs of attraction.An no media showing anything one way or the other.Then you might find out which.There have been cases of children that were abandon on.An raised by wolves and dogs in the wild.Which did way the children go,when brought back to society?Neither actually.Draw your own conclusions.

Answer 9

born gay? I don't belive that being gay is wrong and is totally gross. it violates my moral belifs thats why! I also think that people weren't "born gay" many gay people become gay because they were sexullay abused. does that make them"gay from birth" no I think not. plus, two year olds and little kids don't walk around saying " i'm gay" so that proves they weren't gay from birth. plus, being a homo is a sin. it feeds your body and impulses rather than the soul. there is a reason why you can only have a baby between a man and a woman. beacause it was meant to be that way! all these people saying they were born gay are full of crap! and they are lost in there sins. sorry tto be blunt, but I am very opinionated on this issue.

Answer 10

I don't deny that people don't choose to have feelings of same gender attraction, and I don't think it's wrong to have those feelings. What I'm saying is a choice is whether or not a person ACTS on those feelings.

How can I say that? Because I know exactly what it feels like to have powerful feelings of attraction (although different gender) and still restrain myself from acting on those feelings, so I know that is a choice.

Let me add I don't think it's ever right to ostracize anybody. I mean I see homosexual behavior as one of the MANY ways to misuse ones sexuality, there are a ton of ways straight people misuse it too.